What is Holding You Back from Surpassing Your Goals? Business. Legal. Life. Attorney. Author. Humorist. Professor. Award-winning International Strategic Leadership Innovator, Courtney Elizabeth Anderson, J.D., M.B.A., M.S., is The Workplace Relationship Expert (CourtneyAnderson.com) and practices the Joyful Art of Business around the world! Expert analysis provided in media outlets including BusinessWeek, MSNBC, Wall Street Journal, FOX News, Cosmopolitan, CNN International, USA Today, CNN - HLN, Christian Science Monitor, HuffingtonPost, and many more. Solutions…with Courtney Anderson! is a daily show (Monday - Friday) that delivers pragmatic concepts and tools that will permit you to Practice the Joyful Art of Business!

SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-246-help-situation-spotlight-series-how-do-i-handle-haters.html

SHOW NOTES: This episode is,  "How Do I Handle 'Haters'?"

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

 

1) You don't.

2) What is a ‘hater’? 
3) "A person who greatly dislikes a specified person or thing"
(http://www.oxforddictionaries.com/us/definition/american_english/hater)

4) When handling an authentic 'hater' all you can do is accept that they exist and work to mitigate their impact on your life. 
5) The most powerful tool at your disposal is to treat yourself well. 
6) SwCA Episode 176 - Originally aired 8/26/2014 9:00 AM - JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS! series: “Each Time That You Treat Yourself Badly, Your Enemies Rejoice. So, STOP.” 

7) Jealous [...] 

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is, “How Are You?"

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1. Seriously.
2. I want to know.
3. Cultural Etiquette, The United States, "The only proper answers to the greetings "How do you do?" "How are you?" or "How are you doing?" are "Fine," "Great," or "Very well, thank you." This is not a request for information about your well-being; it is simply a pleasantry." (http://www.ediplomat.com/np/cultural_etiquette/ce_us.htm)

4. I care about how you are physically, mentally, emotionally, psychologically, financially...
5. I am here to listen.
6. "How do I reply when Americans say "How are you doing" and I don't really feel good? 
"I'm [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-244-communications-communiqueacute-series-say-your-name-say-your-name.html

SHOW NOTES: In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1) This show title reminds me of this 1999 (wow!) song by Destiny’s Child:  https://youtu.be/sQgd6MccwZc
2) Do you want to learn magic words that will cut through the noise and distraction in our world and grab the attention of another person?
3) …Magic words that will ensure that you are noticed, heard and paid attention to (by a boss, client, customer, peer, etc.)?
4) …Magic words that will also help you to create a positive impression with the listener (as long as you pronounce them correctly)?
5) …Magic words that the listener never grows tired of hearing or starts to tune out?

6) Here you go…say their name.

7) “A person’s name is to him or her the sweetest and most important sound in [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-243-help-situation-spotlight-series-i-do-not-ask-for-help-enough.html

SHOW NOTES: In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1) Admitting that there is a problem is awesome!
2)
 To clarify, this show topic is not about asking for insufficient help (e.g., needing more help, not asking for enough help). It is about failing to task for help at all (e.g., not asking for help enough).

3) We all fall prey to the delusion that "we can do it all by ourselves" from time to time. 
4) Unless you are a society of one (e.g., you live on a planet by yourself that you discovered entirely on your own, etc.), you have help in your daily life. 

5) Since we all have help, what would cause someone not to ask for more help at all?
6) Often, a life history of experiences where help was not offered by others...
7) Or, help that was promised [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-242-self-employment-ecstasy-series-i-have-been-self-employed-my-entire-career-how-do-i-adjust-to-working-for-someone-else.html

SHOW NOTES: "In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1. This is a very rare group of individuals.
2. "One in four or more adults in Southeast Asia (28%), East Asia (28%), and sub-Saharan Africa (25%) are self-employed and make up large segments of the region's workforce. The self-employed account for much smaller percentages of the population and workforces in the former Soviet Union (7%), European Union (6%), and Northern America (5%)." (2. The common career path is someone who has been employed by other entities moves toward a new self-employment path.
(http://www.gallup.com/poll/175292/nearly-three-workers-worldwide-self-employed.aspx)
3. This is so rare that there are few resources to help transition from self-employment to other entity employment.
4. "Eighteen percent of all adults worldwide -- or 29% of the global workforce -- reported being self-employed in 2013." (http://www.gallup.com/poll/175292/nearly-three-workers-worldwide-self-employed.aspx)

5. "In wealthier and more developed regions such as Europe, Northern America, and Australia-New Zealand, the self-employed tend to be better educated than the overall population and have incomes comparable to those who are employed full time for an employer. However, in less developed regions with high rates of self-employment, these workers are [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-241-satisfaction-saturation-series-how-do-you-cope-when-reality-begins-to-exceed-your-dreams.html

SHOW NOTES: In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1. Tough question.
2. Very few people are prepared.
3. Are you?
4. How do you prepare for a life you aren't even able to conceive in your wildest dreams?

5. Show title inspired by this New York Times article with Philip Galanes interviewing Elton John and Darren  Walker, "PG: How did you cope when reality began to exceed your dreams?" (http://www.nytimes.com/2014/11/30/fashion/elton-john-and-darren-walker-on-race-sexual-identity-and-leaving-the-past-behind.html?_r=0)

6. Do you even want this?
7. "John Vechey, co-founder of Seattle-based games maker PopCap Games, just sold his company to Electronic Arts for just under a billion dollars, so you might think he doesn't have to fret about success any longer. But according to Vechey, it's not success that CEOs need to be concerned about, but how they will deal with that success once it comes their way. [...] "People can't relate." Being a CEO can be lonely and it's often impossible for friends and colleagues to understand your experience. "Friends assume that because I have a games company, I can do whatever I want or that I spend all day playing games. Sometimes I do but don't tell my boss." 
(http://www.inc.com/staff-blog/john-vechey-on-how-to-cope-with-success_1.html)

8. Can you stop success once it starts to snowball?
9. "JK Rowling had therapy to [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-240-financial-fierceness-series-behind-on-bills-what-to-pay-firsthellip.html

SHOW NOTES: In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1. Just because you are broke does not mean that you don't need a plan (or a strategy)...
2. in fact you need one more when you are broke!
3. Mentally prepare. This is not time for self pity or embarrassment. You have nothing to be embarrassed about as long as you learn from this experience and don't repeat it). 
4. Think of this as a short term situation that you have to get through. Focus on your tasks and strategy. You have no time for wallowing, get to work!

5.  Preserve any income.
6. Prioritize shelter.
7. Fight to retain credit rating.
8. “Always pay your [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-239-joyful-art-of-business-series-grit-hustle-tenacity-necessary.html

SHOW NOTES: In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1. Yes.
2. Grit
": mental toughness and courage"
Grit. (n.d.). Retrieved December 14, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/grit

3.  Hustle
"2 a :  to obtain by energetic activity <hustle up new customers>
2 c :  to sell or promote energetically and aggressively <hustling a new product>"
Hustle. (n.d.). Retrieved December 14, 2014, fromhttp://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/hustle

4.  Tenacious 
": not easily stopped or pulled apart : firm or strong
: continuing for a long time
: very determined to do something"
Tenacious. (n.d.). Retrieved December 14, 2014, fromhttp://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/tenacious

5. Are you unstoppable? 
6. Why not?
7. “"[G]rit" is a better indicator of success than factors such as IQ or family income.”
Grit is living life like it's a marathon, not a [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-238-management-magicians-series-that-is-not-part-of-my-job.html

SHOW NOTES: In this episode, our topic is, “That is Not Part of My Job!”

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1. What?
2. Really?
3. It is.
4. “Why "That's Not Part of My Job" Should be Banished From Your Vocabulary […] Supervisors, bosses, even co-workers appreciate team players. If you immediately deny assistance to someone who asks for your help, you come off as unkind, selfish, and possibly even lazy. A supervisor may interpret your response to mean that you care more about your own workload than the overall success of the company. This will not win you any favors. In fact, the next time you ask for one, you may find your favor account overdrawn.”
(http://www.hcareers.com/us/resourcecenter/tabid/306/articleid/958/default.aspx)

5. There are people who would be grateful for this job.
6. You are [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-237-financial-fierceness-series-do-not-invest-in-anything-that-you-do-not-fully-understand.html

SHOW NOTES: In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1. Revisit our show: “Why The Smartest Thing You Can Say Is, 'I Don't Know.'” RADIO SHOW/AUDIO PODCAST
Solutions...with Courtney Anderson! (SwCA)
Episode 154 - Originally aired 7/25/2014 9:00 AM - MYTH WARRIORS series 


2. Investing is a prudent part of your financial independence/ autonomy plan.
3. Bad investments (e.g., you put your money in and nothing came back out) have financially ruined many people and organizations.

4. The challenge is what should you invest in?
5. There are a dizzying array of choices.
6. Real estate? REITs? Stocks? Domestic or International? Bonds? Minerals? Futures? Air rights on Mars?
What does all of this even mean?

7."Scam artists read the headlines, too.  Often, they’ll use a highly publicized news item to lure potential investors and make their “opportunity” sound more legitimate.  The SEC recommends that you [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-236-joyful-art-of-business-series-please-and-thank-you-will-take-you-far-in-business.html

SHOW NOTES: In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1. You're welcome!
2. Manners Matter.

3. It is illogical to argue that "this is business" and "results outweigh everything else" in regards to rude behavior.
4. Because this is business...
and humans are the core of all business...
5. how you treat humans determines the future of the firm (and your career).

6. If you have the best product or service in the world BUT, your customers, clients, constituents, vendors, staff, executives, etc., do not feel that are treated politely and respectfully,
7. your firm will ultimately fail (to thrive, to continue, etc). 
8. When competitors come into the market, your best employees will leave for [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-235-help-situation-spotlight-series-i-look-young-and-people-donrsquot-take-me-seriously-at-work.html

SHOW NOTES: This episode is,  "I Look Young And People Don’t Take Me Seriously At Work."

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1) Congratulations...
2)
 If you actually are young, how wonderful!

3) Youth is not wasted on the young. It is not wasted on anyone.
4) If you look young and are not chronologically young, how nice for you. 
5) Age is relative, so 'young' is in the eye of the beholder.

6) Stereotypes about age (and perceived age) impact us all. 
7) The stereotype for those who appear youthful is that they are immature, not experienced and should be [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-234-communications-communiqueacute-series-speak-up.html

SHOW NOTES: Thus, our series name, COMMUNICATIONS COMMUNIQUÉ™, is born! 

This episode is, “Speak Up!”
In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1. You murmur, not mumble.
2. You speak so softly… 
3. that it’s not killing me softly,
4. it is killing your career.

5. Why? 
6. You are articulate.
7. You are enunciating your words.
8. Yet, you are speaking at a volume so low that I don’t know what you are saying.

9. Other people have told you to “Speak Up” yet you ignored them. Why? 
10. Medical issues? “See your doctor if you have to work hard to be loud enough to be heard” (http://www.asha.org/uploadedFiles/VoiceDisorders.pdf)
11. Shy? So am I. Revisit our [..]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-233-joyful-art-of-business-series-to-be-successful-be-specific.html

SHOW NOTES: In our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). The act of engaging in professional endeavors, in any capacity (i.e., as an employee, employer, entrepreneur, contractor, volunteer, paid, full time, part time, intermittently, etc.) is an expression of our ideas and creative talents (“art”).  

This episode is, “To Be Successful, Be Specific.”
In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1. If you don’t know specifically what you want, who does?
2. I know you know what you specifically want.
3. Don’t lie to me, and;
4. Don’t lie to yourself.


5. Are you scared of what others will think?
6. Do you think that your specific goals are “too much” and unrealistic?
7. Revisit our [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-232-self-employment-ecstasy-series-are-you-a-lifestyle-entrepreneur.html

SHOW NOTES: In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1. What is a lifestyle entrepreneur? “An individual that creates a business with the purpose of altering their personal lifestyle and not for the sole purpose of making profits. A lifestyle entrepreneur focuses more on the life rewards provided to people that enjoy and have a passion for what they are doing. There is a possibility that the business will do particularity well since the individual has a passion for what he/she is doing.” Read more: http://www.businessdictionary.com/definition/lifestyle-entrepreneur.html#ixzz3KOgcoAWo

2. If you do not want to grow your business much bigger, you are.
3. If you are not planning to leave your business to anyone else, you are.
4. If you plan your business around your lifestyle instead of your lifestyle around your business, you are.

5. If your work is [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-231-management-magicians-series-leaders-are-not-liked-they-are-respected.html

SHOW NOTES: In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1. If you feel that you must be liked by others, do not accept a leadership position.

2. Definition of Like: ": to enjoy (something) : to get pleasure from (something) : to regard (something) in a favorable way: to feel affection for (someone) : to enjoy being with (someone)" Like. (n.d.). Retrieved November 28, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/like

3. Definition of Respect ": a feeling of admiring someone or something that is good, valuable, important, etc. : a feeling or understanding that someone or something is important, serious, etc., and should be treated in an appropriate way : a particular way of thinking about or looking at something" Respect. (n.d.). Retrieved November 28, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/respect

4. You don’t earn respect. You sustain it.

5. How? Consistency, and;
6. Confidentiality, and [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-230-help-situation-spotlight-series-it-is-a-holiday-and-i-am-all-alone.html

SHOW NOTES: This episode is,  "It Is A Holiday And I Am All Alone."

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:
1) Are you happy?
2) Are you alone?

3) Or, are you lonely?

4) People are often lonely while with other people.
5) Being alone does not equate with being lonely. 
6) Loneliness is very serious and is detrimental to your health.

7) If you are lonely, you must create a strategy and execute it to create healthy relationships with other people (in your community of caring).
8) If you are lonely because you are scared of being hurt, revisit our show: "How Do I Protect Myself While Remaining Open To New People?" RADIO SHOW/AUDIO PODCAST
Solutions...with Courtney Anderson! (SwCA) 
Episode 192 - Originally aired 9/17/2014 9:00 AM - HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT series
9) Being alone is healthy and "normal" (you are free to be you). 

10) Living alone - Solo Living  -  http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2012/mar/30/the-rise-of-solo-living
“Sweden has more solo dwellers than anywhere else in the world, with 47% of households having one resident; followed by Norway at 40%. In Scandinavian countries their welfare states protect most citizens from the more difficult aspects of living alone. In Japan, where social life has historically been organised around the family, about 30% of all households have a single dweller, and the rate is far higher in urban areas. The Netherlands and Germany share a greater proportion of one-person households than the UK. And the nations with the fastest growth in one-person households? China, India and Brazil.”
11) Whose expectations of a "Happy Holiday" are you [...]

 

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-229-hr-heroes-hangout-series-the-office-bully-are-they-bullying-you.html

SHOW NOTES: In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1) Our HR Heroes aren't bullied.
2) For non-HR Hero staff, yes.

3) If you know who the "Office Bully" is...
4) then they are bullying you.


5) The job of HR is to be "on the side of"  what is best for the organization. Revisit our show, “Whose ‘side’ is HR really on? Employer or Employee?” 
RADIO SHOW/AUDIO PODCAST 
Solutions...with Courtney Anderson! (SwCA) Episode 126 - Originally aired  6/17/2014 9:00 AM - HR HEROES HANGOUT series

6) The mission of HR is to protect the HR assets (humans) that will enable the organization to succeed (healthy fiscally, high retention, high engagement, high performing, High employee support and development, etc.).

7) Bullies by definition endanger the assets and the organization.
"Definition of bully
:  a blustering browbeating person; especially :  one habitually cruel to others who are weaker"
Bully. (n.d.). Retrieved November 26, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/bully
8) It is the responsibility of HR to protect the organization and the human assets from bullies.

9) HR HEROES DO NOT: ...tell managers with complaints regarding the office bully to proceed with caution by being patient ("there is no formal complaint so there is nothing that we can do at this time")
10) ....tell the manager to "work it out" ("there are always personality conflicts"); 
11) ...tell the manager, "But, they'll [...]

 

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is, If It Seems Too Good To Be True, It Probably Is."

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:
1. Not always.
2. This topic is tougher than you may think.

3. We don’t know what we don’t know. 
4. We may think that something is “too good” to be believable…

5. but it is true and simply beyond our sphere of knowledge.

6. We may do great harm to ourselves and others dependent on us for guidance if we adhere to this myth. 

7. When we encounter something that we do not have any knowledge about, we...
8. first tell ourselves and others, “I Don’t Know.”

9. Revisit our [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-227-help-situation-spotlight-series-i-deserve-my-dream-job.html

SHOW NOTES: In our HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared. 

This episode is, “I Deserve My Dream Job!"
In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1. Do you?
2. Really?
3. Why?
4. Definition of Deserve: “transitive verb
:  to be worthy of :  merit <deserves another chance>
intransitive verb
:  to be worthy, fit, or suitable for some reward or requital <have become recognized as they deserve — T. S. Eliot>”

"Deserve." Merriam-Webster.com. Merriam-Webster, n.d. Web. 17 Nov. 2014. <http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/deserve>.

5. You are worthy of your dream job…
6. yet, not owed it as a reward.
7. A job is a privilege, not [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-226-financial-fierceness-series-what-if-i-have-no-money-saved-for-retirement.html

SHOW NOTES: This episode is, “What If I Have No Money Saved For Retirement?”

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:
1. You may not live to retirement age.
2. You are not alone.
3. In the US, "36% of workers have less than $1,000 in savings and investments that could be used for retirement" (USA Today)
4. In the US, “[W]omen have $34,881 saved for retirement” (CBS News) 

5. In the US, "60% of workers have less than $25,000" (Bloomberg)
6. In the US, "employees just don’t [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-225-joyful-art-of-business-series-when-people-show-you-who-they-are-believe-them-the-first-time.html

SHOW NOTES: In our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). The act of engaging in professional endeavors, in any capacity (i.e., as an employee, employer, entrepreneur, contractor, volunteer, paid, full time, part time, intermittently, etc.) is an expression of our ideas and creative talents (“art”).  

This episode is, “When People Show You Who They Are, Believe Them (the first time)!"

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1. You do believe them.
2. You don’t believe yourself.
3. This not about them.

4. It is about you.
5. When you want something, you lie to yourself to get your way.
6. You pretend to separate their actions from their essence.

7. We are what we do.
8. You say, “I love them but I hate [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-224-hr-heroes-hangout-series-one-employee-that-files-multiple-hr-complaints-problem-or-present.html

SHOW NOTES: In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1) Present.
2) You don't know what you don't know.
3) Information is always an advantage over no information.
4) HR complaints are positive as the team member is asking for help..


5) The team member is asking for help, internally within the organization! This is very good.
6) When team members do not file internal HR complaints but instead file externally (government agencies, oversight, media reports, lawsuit filed, etc.) it is very bad.
7) Internal complaints provide HR HEROES an opportunity to simultaneously gain information and work to resolve the issues internally.
8) The employee has some level of trust in HR when they file complaints. 

9) If the employee thought that HR would not be able to do anything to meet their needs, they would not [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-223-help-situation-spotlight-series-i-am-uncomfortable-around-people-more-successful-than-i-am.html

SHOW NOTES: This episode is, “I Am Uncomfortable Around People More Successful Than I Am!"

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1. Good.
2. Being around successful people is one of the most effective methods to enhance your own success.

3. You aren’t uncomfortable because of the ‘successful' people you are around.
4. You are uncomfortable because you know you deserve better.

5. You are settling for less than you deserve.
6. You are cheating yourself out of future success.

7. You should be uncomfortable.
8. If you aren’t uncomfortable you aren't being challenged.


9. If you surround yourself with people who know what you know, you [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-222-self-employment-ecstasy-series-do-not-hire-people-to-help-them.html

SHOW NOTES: In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1) No good deed goes unpunished.
2) Is this really a good deed?
3) You have the best of intentions...
4) but, this is a selfish act.

5) Be careful of getting what you wish for (people dependent on you).
6) Relationship imbalance always results.
7) This is arrogant.
8) Resentment always [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-221-management-magicians-series-when-was-the-last-time-you-asked-your-employees-about-their-goals.html

SHOW NOTES: In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1) Not for a Mandatory Performance Review or Evaluation.

2) When did you voluntarily ask on your own accord? 

3) I know that you're busy.

4) I know that you would ask if you had the time.

5) I know that you can't remember the last time that someone asked you about your goals. Don't change the subject or deflect.

6) When have you really asked them in an appropriate setting and location (not in front of other people in a meeting break, not while walking by in a busy hallway, etc.)?

7) When have you really listened to their answer?

8) I know that it is a privilege to have a job (not a right).

9) I know that you are not responsible for [...]

 

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-220-meeting-mayhem-series-virtual-meetings-and-time-zone-treatment.html

SHOW NOTES: This is our series, MEETING MAYHEM™! This episode is, “Virtual Meetings and Time Zone Treatment!"

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1. Earth is our home planet. 
2. We have colleagues, clients, customers, vendors, partners and knowledge experts located around our planet that we need to have meetings with!
3. Due to the physical size of our planet and the rotation of it and other bodies in our solar system, we experience different conditions at the same moment (daylight, darkness, etc.).

4. How many times zones now? "Given a 24-hour day and 360 degrees of longitude around the Earth, it is obvious that the world's standard time zones have to be 15 degrees wide, on average. It is worth mentioning that some sources claim there are 24 standard time zones, while others say there are 25 time zones. The perspective of the number of time zones depends on the definition of a time zone versus the International Date Line." http://www.timeanddate.com/time/time-zones-history.html

5. What? 24 or 25 different time zones is too many!
6. It could be worse. There used to be over 300 time zones in the US alone! 

7. Why bother? Who needs people in different time zones in a meeting? If you don't want clients, customers, vendors, partners or any other opportunities outside 'your' time zone, then that is your choice. It is potentially going to harm your organization (regarding growth, talented labor, etc.). It is a choice.

8. If you decide you do want to explore the best of what the planet has to offer for your organizational meetings (clients, talent, experts, etc.), how do you do so most effectively?

9. DO NOT: 
- State that "it is only one person in that time zone" (so they have to attend at 3 am or else not come at all).
Exclude diverse time zone attendees entirely from the meeting because "it is too much hassle" (we'll just [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-219-hr-heroes-hangout-series-when-team-building-turns-into-team-destruction.html

SHOW NOTES: In this episode our topic is, "When Team Building Turns Into Team Destruction."

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:
1) You can't force teams to bond.
2) Why do you think that you need teams to bond?

3) Functional teams function.
4) Dysfunctional teams do not function.


5) Team Building is a REWARD for FUNCTIONAL TEAMS.
6) Read number 5 again. 
7) Team Building transforms Performing Teams into High Performing Teams. Team Building does not positively impact teams that do not function (as they have no existing foundation to build upon).
8) Lack of leadership is the reason for dysfunctional teams (of managers, supervisors, HR, executives, etc.). 

9) Problems caused by leadership must be solved by addressing leadership (not team building).
10) First, address leadership problems to create an opportunity for a functional team.
11) Second, assess the team to determine if they are functional or dysfunctional.
12) Lastly, Functional Teams are REWARDED with Team Building (indoor, outdoor, on site, offsite, retreat, or of the type that most meets the existing functional team expectations of a REWARD).

13) Dysfunctional teams are not a team (due to [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-218-myth-warriors-series-everybody-knows-thathellip.html

SHOW NOTES: In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1) No they don't.
2) Myth.
3) This is NOT True. 

4) What we know (or think that we know) is simply what we have been exposed to in our lives.

5) Our individual lives are NOT the same as everyone else's.
6) Our individual experiences are NOT universal.

7) Revisit our show: “Why The Smartest Thing You Can Say Is, 'I Don't Know.'” RADIO SHOW/AUDIO PODCAST
Solutions...with Courtney Anderson! (SwCA)
Episode 154 - Originally aired 7/25/2014 9:00 AM - MYTH WARRIORS series 

8) It is sign of narcissism to fail to respect the experiences and opinions of other people. 
9) It is a weak and cowardly behavior to [...]

 

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-217-help-situation-spotlight-series-i-gave-my-boss-great-ideas-and-they-were-ignored.html

SHOW NOTES: This episode is,  "I Gave My Boss Great Ideas AND...They Were Ignored.”

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:
1) Good.
2) Now you know.


3) Revisit our show:  "I am being subjected to 'The Silent Treatment' from someone. How do I handle it?" RADIO SHOW/AUDIO PODCAST Solutions...with Courtney Anderson! (SwCA) Episode 177 - Originally aired 8/27/2014 9:00 AM - HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT series
4) 
 It is a positive aspect that you care enough to share your ideas.

5) Your ideas may be awful.
6) Your ideas may be awesome.

7) Your boss may covet your ideas (because they are brilliant).
8) Your boss may despise your ideas (because they are a disaster).

9) You are not respected when you are [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-216-meeting-mayhem-series-virtual-meetings-and-mute.html

SHOW NOTES: This is the debut episode of our new series, MEETING MAYHEM™! We face meetings around the world, in person, via phone, via video, via online chat, while standing, while sitting, while walking, in boardrooms, hallways, and everywhere else humans may gather…let’s immediately eradicate the most destructive meetings! The most destructive meetings waste time, talent and resources. They create mayhem and this series is dedicated to stopping them.  Let’s make meetings effective and banish the mayhem that poor meeting management (from organizers, presenters and attendees) causes! In this series we work through techniques to tame and mitigate meeting mayhem anywhere, any time for anyone!

This episode is, Virtual Meetings and MUTE!
In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:
1. Meetings are marvelous when conducted in the most optimal manner. 

2. Virtual meetings are virtuous. “Why do we have meetings and events? 1) to exchange information; and 2) to network. Virtual meeting and event technology can facilitate these two objectives easily.” http://www.businessweek.com/debateroom/archives/2009/01/virtual_meetings_will_erase_face_to_face.html

3. Meeting management mastery is a skill set that requires specific knowledge and experience.

4. Insufficient numbers of staff members are formally educated on meeting management mastery. From The Science and Fiction of Meetings from MIT Sloan, [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-215-self-employment-ecstasy-series-my-employees-think-i-am-rich-help.html

SHOW NOTES: This episode is, “My Employees Think I Am Rich. Help!”

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:
1) You are.
2) 'Rich' is relative. 
3) Employees (or contractors) are NOT responsible for the overall firm.
4) Employers are responsible for maximizing staff engagement and retention.

5) The per capita money income in the US is $28,051 USD. - http://quickfacts.census.gov/qfd/states/00000.html 
6) Your 'problems' are NOT your employee's 'problems'.
7) Having the knowledge and ability to open a business is rare.
8) Having the cash, credit or access to capital to start a business is not an 'average' experience.

9) How the sausage is made is not the concern of the staff member (only that it is made).
10) It is not fair for you to expect staff members to [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-214-satisfaction-saturation-series-i-am-tired-of-hearing-must-be-nicehellip-from-people.html

SHOW NOTES: This specific episode is, I Am Tired of Hearing, ‘Must be Nice…’ From People.”

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:
1) It is.
2) All of the hard work and sacrifice was for a "Nice" future.
3) How is being successful a "Bad" thing?

4) What does this really mean?
5) Why do people say this?
6) What reaction do people want from you?

7) Do not self-deprecate.
8) Do not diminish your accomplishments.
9) Tall Poppy Syndrome.

10) If someone covets what another person has, why not [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-213-financial-fierceness-series-money-doesnrsquot-buy-happiness-but-it-buys-options.html

SHOW NOTES: This episode is, "Money Doesn’t Buy Happiness, But It Buys Options.”

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ regarding:
1) What does money represent to you?
2) You are NOT your money (or things). 
3) Why defining yourself by your possessions is dangerous. 

4) Revisit our show: "Never have only one income stream! DIVERSIFY! (Baskets of Money)” - RADIO SHOW/AUDIO PODCAST Solutions...with Courtney Anderson! (SwCA) Episode 113 - Originally aired 5/29/2014 9:00 AM - FINANCIAL FIERCENESS! series
5) Deferred gratification.
6) Why safety and security result from more options.

7) Whom is most important in terms of financial decisions.
8) Why a 'Plan B' is not enough.
9) Why sometimes you need 'Plan [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-212-help-situation-spotlight-series-i-apply-for-jobs-but-am-told-i-am-overqualified.html

SHOW NOTES: This episode is, “I Apply For Jobs But Am Told I Am OVERQUALIFIED!”

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1) You are.
2) Accept it.


3) Perception is reality.
4) Why are you applying for this job?

5) Do you need income immediately?
6) The employer desires someone who can do this job and who will stay for as long as possible.

7) You will not stay for as long as possible.
8) When other opportunities arise, you will [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-211-communications-communiqueacute-series-is-your-speaking-speed-sabotaging-your-career.html

SHOW NOTES: This episode is, “Is Your Speaking Speed Sabotaging Your Career?”

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:
1) SpeakTooFast?
2) S- p-e-a-k- ....T-o-o.... S-l-o-w-l-y....?
3) Force yourself to listen to at least 5 minutes of your voice playback.

4) Speed is not a reflection on intellect.
5) Where did you learn your speaking speed?
6) "Speaking too fast makes your listeners work too hard. And that's the last thing you want to do." - http://www.inc.com/sims-wyeth/how-to-slow-down-if-you-talk-too-fast.html

7) It is our responsibility as the speaker to do everything in our power to be understood.
8) We have a distorted view on [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-210-financial-fierceness-series-why-you-need-a-private-banker.html

SHOW NOTES: This episode is, "Why You Need A Private Banker!”

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ regarding:
1) When I learned about Private Bankers. 
2) What I learned from my grandmother, Edythe Heslip.
3) Revisit our show: “You Get No More Out of Life Than You Demand.” - Edythe Heslip RADIO SHOW/AUDIO PODCAST Solutions...with Courtney Anderson! (SwCA) Episode 148 - Originally aired 7/17/2014 9:00 AM
4) How infrequent deposits and/or irregular amounts impact your banking.

5) What a Private Banker may do for you.
6) What you may do for a Private Banker.
7) Why Private Banking is a relationship and not a transaction.
8) How to identify and interview potential Private Bankers.

9) When to be aware of potential financial fraud.
10) How to help protect yourself from [...]

 

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-209-help-situation-spotlight-series-my-spouse-moves-frequently-for-work-so-i-am-unable-to-get-a-job.html

SHOW NOTES: In our HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared. 

This episode is, “My Spouse Moves Frequently For Work So I Am Unable To Get A Job!”
In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1) Congratulations having a spouse with a job! 
2) Congratulations on desiring your own job!

3) Moving frequently is a rare and wonderful gift!
4) How moving frequently provides you the opportunity to maximize your skills.

5) Why moving frequently used to be viewed as a negative by employers (e.g., you won’t be here long enough).
6) Why moving frequently is now viewed as a [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-208-myth-warriors-series-your-employer-is-not-responsible-for-your-happiness.html

SHOW NOTES: In this episode, our topic is, "Your Employer Is NOT Responsible For Your Happiness.”

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:
1) Not a myth.
2) Why do you want someone else (e.g., your employer) to control your thoughts and feelings?
3) Revisit our show: “You Cannot Make Another Person Happy.” RADIO SHOW/AUDIO PODCAST Solutions...with Courtney Anderson! (SwCA) Episode 202 - Originally aired 10/01/2014 9:00 AM

4) Everywhere you go, there you are.
5) Your employer did not lie to you (even if they did, why have you stayed?).
6) Your employer does not owe you anything (with the exception of the wages you have already earned, a safe workplace, etc.).

7) You are not entitled to a job (or [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-207-joyful-art-of-business-series-ask-for-what-you-want-and-be-prepared-to-get-it.html

SHOW NOTES: In this episode our topic is, ““Ask For What You Want AND Be Prepared To Get It.” The topic is a quote from Maya Angelou!


In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1) What do you want?
2) Do you value yourself?
3) Do you take responsibility for this sacred day?
4) Why are you scared to be vulnerable?
5) What taught you to expect failure?
6) Why do you not value your wants and desires?
7) How do you self-sabotage to [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-206-financial-fierceness-series-never-mention-a-number-first-when-negotiating-a-salary.html

 

SHOW NOTES: Our FINANCIAL FIERCENESS!™ series integrates our financial goals into our development plan for surpassing our goals. We deal with the specific issues we need to explore in order to achieve (and surpass) our financial goals. This episode is, "Never Mention A Number First When Negotiating A Salary.”

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ regarding:

1) Why you decide how much money you will make.

2) First rule of salary negotiations is that humans do not want to talk about salary.

3) Do not be anchored and defined by a past salary.

4) Why you think a “good salary” is different from what your employer thinks.

5) Why negations are a positive experience.

6) How to use your chess and/ or poker skills to win.

7) How to answer an application request for your former salary.

8) How to research [...]

 

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-205-communications-communiqueacute-series-is-your-verbal-crutch-creating-chaos.html

SHOW NOTES: In this series we explore the techniques to most effectively express our ideas. The series is very important as the most brilliant ideas are nullified by the failure to effectively marshall our pathways of idea delivery (it is not what we say but how we say it). Due to the very important nature of each of these shows they are therefore each a communiqué. Thus, our series name, COMMUNICATIONS COMMUNIQUÉ™, is born!

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:
1) What is a verbal crutch (you know, like, umm, etc.)?
2) How I was embarrassed and angry when my verbal crutch was revealed on video.
3) How verbal crutches integrate the mind and body.
4) How a verbal crutch results in not being hired for a job.
5) How a verbal crutch results in not being asked out for a second date.
6) How dangerous it is to fail to prioritize vocal hygiene.
7) What I learned from a speech pathologist that saved my career.
8) How your content is [...]

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-204-myth-warriors-series-its-complicated.html

SHOW NOTES: Our episode today is, “It’s complicated.” 

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:
1) No, it isn’t.
2) This is a myth.
3) Why this is a euphemism for “Maybe” (Or “I don’t want you to hate me.” Or “I hate confrontation but I don’t want this.”).
4) Why this is a lie (myth sounds better).
5) Why this is popular (on social media and in real life).
6) How this myth makes your life worse.
7) Why you want to believe that this is not a myth.
8) How to stop using this in your life (and what alternatives exist).
9) When you should “give up” on people who keep telling you that “It’s complicated.”
10) Why this is cruel.
11) How to decipher what someone “really means” when they say [...]

 

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-203-help-situation-spotlight-series-my-life-is-a-roller-coaster-and-i-want-it-to-be-a-carousel.html

SHOW NOTES: This episode is, “My Life Is A Roller Coaster and I Want It To Be A Carousel.”

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:
1) Roller Coaster definition-
: a ride at an amusement park which is like a small, open train with tracks that are high off the ground and that have sharp curves and steep hills
: a situation or experience that involves sudden and extreme changes

2) Carousel definition-
: a machine or device with a moving belt or part that carries things around in a circle
Carousel. (n.d.). Retrieved September 14, 2014, fromhttp://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/carousel

3) Why I ride roller coasters with my eyes closed.
4) What attracts you to roller coasters and repels you from carousels?
5) Why you repeat behavior that makes you miserable.
6) What stability and predicability on the carousel of life really mean.
7) How to tell when it is time to change rides.
8) Why you are in control of which ride to take.
9) When to recognize that you are lying to yourself about [...]

 

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SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-202-myth-warriors-series-you-cannot-make-another-person-happy.html

SHOW NOTES: Our episode today is, “You Cannot Make Another Person Happy.”

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including: 
1) “To make someone's day, all you have to do is stay physically near her while remaining in a state of contentment, humor, compassion or calm. Try getting deeply happy around any loved one, acquaintance or stranger. Refuse to let go of your good mood. You don't have to say or do anything else. Really.”
http://www.oprah.com/spirit/Spreading-Happiness-How-to-Make-People-Happy

2) What makes people unhappy?
3) Is being unhappy an internal individual action or an externally imposed status?
4) What makes you happy?
5) Why are you so presumptuous to believe that you control other people’s emotions?
6) If you believe that you are able to “make someone happy” why haven’t you made everyone happy (too lazy, too time consuming)?
7) Is your desire to make another person happy kind or cruel?
8) Are you a cause of the unhappiness of another person or is that your [...]

 

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SHOW NOTES: This specific episode is, “Everyone Tells Me What I Want To Hear. How Can I Get Honest Feedback?”

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:
1) This is awesome, right?
2) Why do they tell you what you want to hear?
3) How do they know what you want to hear?
4) Is what they think you want to hear what you actually want to hear?
5) Why did you teach them to do this?
6) Why do you choose to continue to teach them to do this?
7) What are you frightened of if you heard the truth?
8) What tools do you use to entice people to lie to you?
9) Why does it feel so good to be lied to  (even when [...]

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SHOW NOTES: In this episode, our topic is, “Why Telling Someone to ‘Think Different’ or to ‘Think Outside The Box’ Always Fails.”

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:
1) It fails because you are telling them how to think. 
2) People who think differently already do so. 
3) You can hire them but you cannot transform someone into that type of person.
4) “Some specimens of consultant-speak are so cliched that they have long lost any real meaning and have turned into the conversational equivalent of an "ummmm." The most common of these may be the hoary exhortation to "think outside the box. […] The phrase means something like "think creatively" or "be original," and its origin is generally attributed to consultants in the 1970s and 1980s who tried to make clients feel inadequate by drawing nine dots on a piece of paper and asking them to connect the dots without lifting their pen, using only four lines:”
-http://www.fastcompany.com/53187/outside-box-inside-story
5) If you thought differently you wouldn’t need others to do so.
6) If you tell them how to think differently they will do it (as they are obedient), yet that would result in “Think Same” instead of “Think Different.”
7) Why do you think that they need to “Think Different”? 
8) Were you told to do so by someone else? If so, doesn’t that illustrate the absurdity and lack of logic of the premise?
9) How will they simultaneously “Think Different” (i.e., create innovative products and services never before imagined) while continuing to “Think Same” and follow your rules and [...]

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SHOW NOTES: In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:

1) Learn more about Maya Angelou (Seehttp://www.poetryfoundation.org/bio/maya-angelou).
2) This is a very emotional show topic for me so I apologize in advance for my fervor (but this is  a very important topic). 
3) Definition of Priority-
“: something that is more important than other things and that needs to be done or dealt with first”
Priority. (n.d.). Retrieved September 7, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/priority

4) Definition of Option
 “the opportunity or ability to choose something or to choose between two or more things
: something that can be chosen : a choice or possibility”
Option. (n.d.). Retrieved September 7, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/option
5) Do not deprive yourself of the wonder and beauty that life has available by being shrouded in fear and [...]

 

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is, “Why The Worst Thing That Can Happen Is For Your Business To Succeed!”

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:
1) Judgment suffers (e.g., I’ll trust my gut).
2) No one (or almost none one) wants to hear about any of your real problems in life (“Must be nice…”). 
3) Ego inflated.
4) Need self doubt.
5) Feel restrained by expectations and other people (trying to “top” prior success). 
6) Guilt.
7) “Every company needs to find some common enemy upon which to rally the troops. If it can't find such an enemy, it will find the enemy within. This is where the backbiting, the gaming of the system, the convoluting of the mission takes place.”
http://www.informationweek.com/it-leadership/microsoft-a-victim-of-its-own-success/d/d-id/1105435?
8) Develop a past oriented focus instead of future oriented.
9) ”When Alexander saw the breadth of his domain, he wept for there were no more worlds to conquer.”
http://www.pothos.org/content/index.php?page=quotes
10) Revisit our Complacency [...]

 

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is, “Does It Really Matter Where I Go To College? Yes.”

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:
1) Why your education providers (or institutions of higher learning) matter.
2) It depends on what you want to do. 

3) If you want to earn the most money, you have to have the best skills. 
4) If you want the best skills, you have to go to the schools with the best teachers. 


5) Revisit our show "I went to school, but never finished! How can I use the education I have?” 
RADIO SHOW/AUDIO PODCAST
Solutions...with Courtney Anderson! (SwCA) 
Episode 129 - Originally aired 6/20/2014 9:00 AM 

6) Americans with four-year college degrees made 98 percent more an hour on average in 2013 than people without a degree. That’s up from 89 percent five years earlier, 85 percent a decade earlier and 64 percent in the early 1980s. (http://www.nytimes.com/2014/05/27/upshot/is-college-worth-it-clearly-new-data-say.html?_r=0)

7) Revisit our show “How Do I Pick 'The Right' College for My First Degree?”
RADIO SHOW/AUDIO PODCAST
Solutions...with Courtney Anderson! (SwCA) 
Episode 082 - Originally aired 4/16/2014 9:00 AM 

8) "At Harvard, 45.6% of undergraduates come from families with incomes above $200,000 — in other words, incomes in the top 3.8% of [...]

 

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SHOW NOTES: Our episode today is, "You Reap What You Sow.”

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:
1) NOT a myth.
2) Oxford Dictionary , PROVERB, “ You eventually have to face up to the consequences of your actions.”
http://www.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/english/you-reap-what-you-sow

3) Karma.
4) Butterfly effect, from Princeton University, “The butterfly effect is a metaphor that encapsulates the concept of sensitive dependence on initial conditions in chaos theory; namely a small change at one place in a complex system can have large effects elsewhere. “
http://www.princeton.edu/~achaney/tmve/wiki100k/docs/Butterfly_effect.html

5) Just desert.
6) “”What goes around comes around" or "as you sow, so shall you reap" is the basic understanding of how karma, the law of cause and effect, works. “
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/gadadhara-pandit-dasa/karma-what-goes-around-comes-around_b_1081057.html

7) Babies and fairness:  “show that 15-month-old babies value a person’s fairness – whether or not an [...]

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is, “Teaching Gifted Students!” 

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:
1) Full disclosure, I was in gifted (or gifted and talented) programs from elementary school, through middle school, high school and in college (undergraduate study). 

2) I loved these classes and they were often the only bright part of my academic experience. I had challenges with being bored in other classes and would consequently not attend class (as I got older). 

3) I love information and learning. Unfortunately, some of the schools I attended (and I attended a lot of them due to my family moving often as my father was in the military), did not have curriculum that provided me the opportunity to learn new information. I would then either mentally check-out (daydream, etc.) or physically check-out (not show up). 

4) My anecdotal experience and professional teaching experience has led to the conclusion that children on the different ends of the skill acquisition spectrum are not provided adequate resources for a quality education (due to the need for limited staff resources to be directed towards the average student skill set).

5) From the National Association for Gifted Children, "Good teaching for gifted learners is paced in response to the student's individual needs. Often, highly able students learn more quickly than others their age. […] Good teaching for gifted learners happens at a higher "degree of difficulty" than for many students their age." - See more at: http://www.nagc.org/resources-publications/gifted-education-practices/what-it-means-teach-gifted-learners-well#sthash.XlYLESnO.dpuf

6) "Instruction for gifted learners is inappropriate when it asks them to do "more of the same stuff faster." Reading more books that are too easy and doing more math problems that have ceased being a challenge are killers of motivation and [...]

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SHOW NOTES: In this episode our topic is, “You Don’t Need To Be THE BEST; You Just Need To BE (THERE).”

In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™ including:
1) Why I love this show topic! 
2) There is so much that people complain about and/ or use as excuses for why they have failed to surpass their goals in life (bad luck, bad timing, not born rich, not born famous, etc.). 
3) The reality is that simply showing up in life is the key to amazing opportunities. 
4) I have spoken with people who have given me all kinds of rationalizations regarding why they are unhappy and they overlook the immense power of simple presence. 
5) Just be there. 
6) You don’t have to worry about more than that step in many instances. 
7) If none of the people who you think are better than you, smarter than you, more talented than you, better looking than you, better educated than you, etc., show up; by default you will often be selected. 
8) The idiot politician. The incompetent boss. The yucky looking person with a great spouse. The stupid business owner. The famous singer who “has no talent.” The “singer” who has a terrible voice. How did they do it? They all showed up. You didn’t. 
9) That is why they are where they are and you [...]

 

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SHOW NOTES: This specific episode is, "My Life Is More Awesome Than I Ever Dreamed! I Am Grateful But Also Feel Guilty. Help!"

Wow. We have so much in our lives that has surpassed our dreams and goals! Our work (paid and/or volunteer), our community of caring (family and friends), our daily joy. We discuss in this show that some people will have a moment of clarity when they look around and realize how far they have surpassed their goals. (The “I really did it” moment!) Other people have a very specific predefined goal and events related thereto (first day of public trading of their firm, standing on the stand at the Olympics receiving a medal, at their wedding, their child’s first day of school, hitting one million dollars in sales, etc.). 

I share in the show that I never had a specific singular predefined goal. In the past few years I have looked around and realized, I am living the dream! My work is more exciting, challenging, rewarding and fulfilling than I ever imagined. My community of caring is filled with authentic people that I respect and trust. My physical surroundings (homes, etc.) are beautiful. I have the resources to do what I feel like doing when I feel like doing it. I rarely have an unpleasant person in my life that I ‘have to put up with’ and I am containing to add more layers of resources to my financial independence. 

I wake up 99% of the time (except for when I am sick or something horrendous happens in life) really excited about the upcoming day. I dance around in the morning when I rise in celebration of the new day! I can’t wait to see what happens! 

How did this happen?

1) I have had numerous specific goals that I have relentlessly pursued. 

2) I never doubt my ability to work hard. 

3) I dream constantly and take risks to learn new things. 

4) I am truly grateful for the opportunities that I [...]

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SHOW NOTES: In our HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared. This episode is, “"How Do I Protect Myself While Remaining Open To New People?"

ANSWER: Make a commitment to yourself that you will keep yourself safe from harm.

That's how. 

1) Why should you remain open to new people?

“We all know people who are so much afraid of pain that they shut themselves up like clams in a shell and, giving out nothing, receive nothing and therefore shrink until life is a mere living death.” - Eleanor Roosevelt (longest serving First Lady of the US)

 

NOTE: This quote was discussed in these other shows:

RADIO SHOW/AUDIO PODCAST: Solutions...with Courtney Anderson! (SwCA) Episode 076 - Originally aired 4/8/2014 9:00 AM - MYTH WARRIORS! series - “I am scared. My fear is holding me back in life.” - Part 1 of 2

&

RADIO SHOW/AUDIO PODCAST: Solutions...with Courtney Anderson! (SwCA) Episode 077 - Originally aired 4/9/2014 9:00 AM - MYTH WARRIORS! series - “I am scared. My fear is holding me back in life.” - Part 2 of 2

2) What do we mean by 'protect'?

Definition of protect

": to keep (someone or something) from being harmed, lost, etc.

: to save (someone) from financial loss caused by fire, injury, damage, etc."

Protect. (n.d.). Retrieved August 24, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/protect

3) What specifically do we mean by 'open'? (Not vulnerable, not [...]

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SHOW NOTES: Our FINANCIAL FIERCENESS!™ series integrates our financial goals into our development plan for surpassing our goals. We deal with the specific issues we need to explore in order to achieve (and surpass) our financial goals. This episode is, "Be EASY To Work With (or be broke)."

WHAT?

What does this episode title mean?

 

1) You want money. People want to give you money. Why make it hard for them to do so?

Consider:

One of the challenges that all professionals face is frustration at the self-sabotaging behaviors that some humans implement. The intersection of income and attitude is one of the most difficult for me to personally understand. I have worked as a mentor, coach, corporate trainer, speaker, consultant and attorney with people who lament their income. “I don’t make enough money!” “They don’t pay me what I am worth!” “My business is not doing well!” 

Their frustration often stems from the fact that people build artificial blockades between their stated goal and their current situation. In other words, the most simple analysis is that the person wants money and someone else wants to give money away (by hiring an employee, purchasing a good or service, etc.). 

2) We have all been on the side of the equation when we have money and are doing everything that we can to give it away and we are prevented from doing so. We walk into a store to purchase an item and no one that works there will help us. We walk into a restaurant to purchase food and drink and no one will seat us or serve our table. We desperately need more staff members for our business (we are swamped with more work than we can handle!), yet the applicants are late or don’t show up at all. We have to pay our utility bill but no one will answer the phone when we call to give them money. 

But, “My boss is an idiot! My customers drive me crazy and complain all the time! That stupid company sucks! Who would want to work there? That place is a dump! It is only a silly part time job!” 

3) Remember how you feel when someone makes it hard for you to give them money? (The store that won’t help you buy something, etc.) You are frustrated, feel disrespected and are angry. You will walk out without [...]

 

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is, “How Did You Open Your Own Law Firm At Age 26?"

I opened my law firm when I was 26 years old. My office was in a lower income part of town next to railroad tracks. My office rent was less than $300 a month. I had no financial help from anyone. It was one of the best decisions of my life (economically, emotionally, professionally, etc.)! 

 

1) Why?

Why not?

- I made a fantastic income and I was in control of my destiny!

Solo Practitioners annual income  in Texas $97,142 (2009 data) ( https://www.texasbar.com/AM/Template.cfm?Section=Archives&Template=/CM/ContentDisplay.cfm&ContentID=11241)

- I am not alone.

“The number of recent law graduates going solo increased from 3.5 percent in 2008 to 5.5 percent in 2009, the biggest one year jump since 1982, the National Association for Law Placement (NALP) reports. That percentage increased to 5.7 percent of all private practice jobs for the class of 2010, the highest it’s been since 1997.”

(http://www.nbcnews.com/id/43442917/ns/business-careers/t/law-grads-going-solo-loving-it/#.U_T1-bxdVmg)

"As of 2005, some 62 percent of attorneys in private practice work as solo or small-firm practitioners, according to the most recent data avail­able from the American Bar Association. "

(http://www.abajournal.com/magazine/article/so_you_want_to_go_solo_you_sure/)

"Solo practice: ~271,000, or 35% of US lawyers (this takes the ABF estimate of the share of lawyers in solo practice and multiplies it by the total number of lawyers in law offices reported by the BLS) (id.)";

(http://www.law.harvard.edu/programs/plp/pages/statistics.php)

2) Was age an obstacle?

No. We are what age we are. I was aware of it and we discuss in the show that younger people (or those who appear younger) do have to deal with stereotypes in the workplace. That is not a deterrent to opening a business. Yet, awareness of the very small percentage of business owners that are in their twenties is important. We discuss in this show that when you are "the boss" and 26, there are going to be some stereotypes and skepticism that you will encounter.  

“ONE-IN-THREE OF ALL OWNERS OF RESPONDENT FIRMS ARE OVER 55 YEARS OF AGE

In 2002, 31 percent of the owners of respondent firms were over the age of 55, with 20 percent of these owners between the ages of 55 to 64, and 11 percent are 65 and over.

Twenty-nine percent of all owners of respondent firms were between 45 and 54 years old; 24 percent were between 35 and 44 years old; 12 percent were between 25 and 34 years old; and only 2 percent were under 25 years old.”

(https://www.census.gov/econ/sbo/02/cbosof.html)

- Why So Few Young People Start Businesses?

“The share of employed people ages 20 to 24 who run their own incorporated businesses is only 0.3 percent, according to the most recent Bureau of Labor Statistics data.

Because much business knowledge needs to be learned by doing, there is no good substitute for [...] 

 

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SHOW NOTES: This specific episode is, “Have You Already Peaked (is it downhill from here)?”

Is the best of your life already over?

Remember when…? 

Back in the Good Ole Days… 

I used to be…

Those who live in the past are prevented from experiencing the present. The challenge is that the past does not exist. It is a memory, a shared story, a photo, a memento; yet it is not tangible today. It is part of who we are but it does not define who we are. 

When our past had wonderful, extraordinary accomplishments it presents an additional opportunity for us to challenge ourselves to redefine our present day value. If a person is publicly known (and identified) by their past accomplishments it presents a unique situation. On one hand, the person is proud of the past accolades yet they understand that it is their burden to craft a broader, richer, updated and more sophisticated identity than a shorthand public image. In many ways this is similar to the burden we all share to cut through shorthand stereotypes and force ourselves (and other people) to see us as a multi-faceted individual and not a simple caricature. 

We are not simply “former homecoming queen,” “woman,” “Olympic medalist,” etc. We are more than our past and our particular identifiers. We have dreams, goals, fears, hopes, favorite foods, stupid jokes and an array of yet to be discovered talents. New adventures await us. 

We must take up the mantle of our own value and fight to redefine ourselves. The past shackles many people in apathy and disappointment. (“I’ll never live up to that again.”) We are susceptible to that “glory day, groundhog day” syndrome (the desire and action to relive the same past days of glory over and over again). We must admit and acknowledge that no matter what we achieved in the past, it is just [...]

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SHOW NOTES: The HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series addresses challenges, obstacles and problems (real or perceived) that are preventing a person from surpassing their goals! In this series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared. This episode is, “Why Doesn’t My Experience Mean MORE Than Credentials (degree, license, etc.)?”

Here's why:

1) How does anyone know what your experience actually is (versus what you assert it to be)?

Do you want to go to a hospital and have the physician tell you that they have an immense amount of experience (but no actual medical degree or [...]

 

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SHOW NOTES: In our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). The act of engaging in professional endeavors, in any capacity (i.e., as an employee, employer, entrepreneur, contractor, volunteer, paid, full time, part time, intermittently, etc.) is an expression of our ideas and creative talents (“art”).  

In this episode our topic is, “The Real Reason You Can’t Have It All Is…”

So, let’s get right to ‘the answer’!

A) You don’t want ‘it all.’

B) ‘It All’ doesn’t exist.

There are many public discussions that are gender focused regarding the general concept of working outside of a family and unit and contemporaneously working inside of a family unit. The stereotype is that a female is not able to work outside a family unit while working inside of one (and that their work and family will both suffer due to the lack of time and attention). For males the stereotype is that they are not able to work outside the family unit while working inside of one (and that their family unit will suffer due to the lack of time and attention while they prioritize their outside work). There is guilt, shame and regret for males and females in their pursuit of an unattainable fiction ('it all').

In the Harry Chapin song, “Cat’s in the Cradle” a father laments that his child [...]

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SHOW NOTES: In the MYTH WARRIORS™ series we are targeting ideas to begin to assess whether they are credible or not. We are warriors fighting to establish clarity between what is accurate and what is simply a myth (or falsehood) in life. We are deploying our highest level critical thinking skills in this series to fight to ensure that we are not taken advantage of or exploited by information disparities. We don both defensive protective gear and offensive weaponry. On offense we thrust forward, probing, testing and examining content to discern if it should be defeated and discarded (as a lie) or retained and utilized in our lives in our mission to surpass our goals. 

This is not a series for the weak minded or fearful as we will leave no stone unturned in our quest to ensure that we are not exploited, not ignored and not used as pawns by powerful people. Our education (formal and informal) is our most powerful weapon to equalize our opportunities for success (on our own terms). 

Our episode today is, “Failing To Plan Is Planning To Fail.”

This is not a myth, It is accurate.

The issue is why do you have the goal of failure? Why do you want to fail?

Imagine an adolescent child that is told by their parents that they are going to learn to play the flute. (I wanted to play the flute when I was younger but never learned, anyway, back to the example.) They are provided a flute and enrolled in flute lessons. The child couldn’t care less about the flute. They do not practice between lessons. They lie to their parents when asked about practicing and state that they did so. They do not think about the flute at all other than when they are forced to go to their flute teacher. They try out for the school band and due to their lack of skill they are not accepted. 

They have seemingly failed. Their parents are disappointed (perhaps even angry due the fees associated with acquiring the flute and the flute lessons). Has the child actually failed? No. They had a plan. They succeeded. The failure to learn the flute was what they wanted. They did not [...]

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SHOW NOTES: Our MANAGEMENT MAGICIANS™ series is dedicated to those exceptional few who step forward to serve as guides, sages and responsible parties for others in pursuit of the greater good for society and their organization! These are managers who redefine their job titles to ensure their own personal contentment as they motivate, monitor and mentor their team members each day. The “magic” that a talented manager is able to create changes their lives, the lives of their team members and ripples throughout the larger society. We salute their sacrifices and share their techniques and “secrets” to achieving sustained positive experiences for themselves, clients, customers, peers, team members, and the public at large! In this episode, our topic is, “I love being a leader! Yet, I am lonely. Is it really lonely at the top?”

Yes.

I usually advise that we avoid using absolutes, but in this case, they are appropriate. It is lonely at the top. It is not your imagination. You are not the cause of the loneliness. It is a result of the structural nature of serving as a manager (and/or leader). Those that are in charge have the trust of their team members. To maintain that trust you must maintain your managerial behavior.  

“It seems that the higher up the corporate ladder one travels, the more lonely the journey. […] If left unchecked, this loneliness and sense of isolation can severely limit executive careers and in the worst cases it can be a precursor to depression and self- harm. Anecdotally it is widely recognised that careers can be curtailed as chief executives burn out, suffer psychological exhaustion, turn to alcohol or, in the worst cases, have a complete emotional breakdown.” […] “The most important thing is [...]

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is, “How did you buy your first home at age 27 as a single woman?”

I purchased my first home at age 27. I still own it today as an investment property (over 15 years later as of the time of this show). I bought it on my own. I used money I earned working (as an employee and from my own business) for the down payment, closing costs and fees. I received no money from anyone else (family or friends, etc.). I borrowed the remainder of the purchase funds from a bank. 

NOTE: I discussed how to buy your first home in another show: Solutions...with Courtney Anderson! (SwCA) Episode 047 - Originally aired 2/26/2014 9:00 AM - FINANCIAL FIERCENESS! series - “How to buy your first (or next, or best) home!” 

I discussed credit scores (and reports) in a two part show: RADIO SHOW/AUDIO PODCAST Solutions...with Courtney Anderson! (SwCA) Episode 022 - Originally aired 1/22/2014 9:00 AM - FINANCIAL FIERCENESS! series - “'Credit score, who cares?!' You should...here's why. (Part 1 of 2)” and RADIO SHOW/AUDIO PODCAST Solutions...with Courtney Anderson! (SwCA) Episode 024 - Originally aired 1/24/2014 9:00 AM - FINANCIAL FIERCENESS! - “'Credit score, who cares?!' You should...here's why. (Part 2 of 2)" 

1) How did I buy my first home?

With money I earned and saved, 2) use of my credit report and score 3) and income verification to qualify for a loan from a lender for the balance. The home was priced at approximately $115,000 USD. It is a single family, unattached, three bedroom, two bath brick home that was brand new when I purchased it (from the builder). It was fulfillment of one of my dreams when I received the keys! 

2) Was I limited by my age?

No. We are what age we are. I was aware of it and we discuss in the show that younger people have smaller rates of homeownership than older age groups. 

In the US: “The average age of a first-time homeowner is 34, according to the most recent American Housing Survey data collected in 2009.” (http://universe.byu.edu/2011/10/11/average-age-of-first-time-homeowners-remains-high/#sthash.Jhy9NwVQ.dpuf)

“For the second quarter 2014, the homeownership rates were highest for those householders ages 65 years and over (80.1 percent) and lowest for the under 35 years of age group (35.9 percent).” (http://www.census.gov/housing/hvs/files/qtr214/q214press.pdf)

3) Was I limited by my gender? What about the fact that I was single (unmarried, no partner or other co-signer for the home)?

No. We are the gender identity that we are. I was aware of my gender and we discuss in the show that females have not been able to own homes on their own until recent history (in the US and many other parts of the world). I was single. There was no one else to purchase the home with and I [...]

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SHOW NOTES: Our HR HEROES HANGOUT™ series is dedicated to those who serve our societies each day, toiling in the bowels of the human capital infrastructure issues that fuel all organizations (hiring, retention, engagement, efficiency, compensation, legal compliance, policy and procedure continuous improvement, training and education, litigation mitigation, etc.); our HR HEROES! These are the unsung heroes that ensure that organizations achieve and sustain maximum human capital competitive advantage! In this episode our topic is, "How HR Helps (or hurts) Retention in the Hiring Process!"

In this episode we explore the hiring process situations where our HR HEROES actually are SUPER-HEROES! 

How? The mission for our HR Hero is to simultaneously defend the organization against "bad apples" while trying to lure in and retain "good apples." A "bad apple" is a human who does not want to be part of the organization. A "good apple" is a human who does want to be part of the organization. A "bad apple" must be warded off, defended against and expelled (if one gets past the organizational defenses). 

Why? Someone who "does not want to be here" will destroy everything they come in contact with. They complain, sabotage, obstruct, create conflict and spread the misery and pain that they are experiencing to peer staff, supervisor, customers, vendors, social media and any other entity that they interact with. They do not want to be there so they don't care about the mission statement, the customer, the goals, the culture, their coworkers, their boss, anything at all. 

You may wonder, why would a "bad apple" even bother to try to enter our organization if they don't want to be there? Well, they have other motives. 1) They are broke and need money. Your organization represents a path to meet this immediate need for money. 

Or, 2) They are bored. Your organization is hiring so it will occupy their time to and give them something to do. 

Or, 3) They are planning to open a competitor to your firm so they want to collect corporate intelligence by getting hired. 

Or, 4) Any motive other than a sincere desire to be part of the organization. 

The catch is that "bad apples" often will disguise themselves as "good apples" (to gain entry into your organization). They will say all the right words, pledge their undying loyalty and use every tool of manipulation and trickery to [...]

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SHOW NOTES: his is our COMMUNICATIONS COMMUNIQUÉ™ series! Our ability to express our ideas is critical to achieving any of our goals in life. We may possess the secret to eternal life and perpetual joy but if it is trapped inside our thoughts with no way to share it with others it is useless. When we speak, write, stand, touch, move, see, hear, taste and use any of our body to express what is in our mind we are able to create real life manifestations of our internal thoughts. 

Writing, speaking and using our body language are some of the most common paths that we utilize to express our ideas externally. This is the field of communications! 

We explore the techniques to most effectively express our ideas in this series. The series is very important as the most brilliant ideas are nullified by the failure to effectively marshall our pathways of idea delivery (it is not what we say but how we say it). Due to the very important nature of each of these shows they are therefore each a communiqué. Thus, our series name, COMMUNICATIONS COMMUNIQUÉ™, is born!

Definition of COMMUNICATIONS

“5 a :  a technique for expressing ideas effectively (as in speech)”

Communication. (n.d.). Retrieved August 10, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/communication

Definition of COMMUNIQUÉ 

“an official announcement about a usually very important piece of news”

Communiqué. (n.d.). Retrieved August 10, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/communiqué

I will utilize my experience in professions where elite level use of communications is required including as an attorney, professor, television and radio performer, and keynote speaker. Using our body, breathing, speaking, and all other available techniques to gain the attention of our audience, convey the message we desire most powerfully and persuasively and achieve results that surpass our goals is what this series is all about! Join in and let’s unleash your untapped reservoirs of transformative communications power!

This specific episode is the debut of our COMMUNICATIONS COMMUNIQUÉ™ series and is,“How to Use Your Voice to Succeed in a Phone Job Interview!”

1) What is the purpose of an interview? 

To get the job offer. 

2) What are the advantages of a phone (or voice only) job interview? 

You have less variables to address so it is ‘easier’ in some respects. In a visual interview (in person and to a lesser extent on video) you have to monitor and control your voice, body, posture, facial expressions, scent, grooming, attire, etc., and with the voice-only interview you only have to address your voice (and breathing). 

3) In the show we discuss how to accept that you are a performer. 

Yes, you are. Each time you choose to interact with external entities beyond the confines of your private living space (in person, via voice, via video, in writing, etc.), you are a performer. 

4) Have you ever watched someone out at a store that is destroying their opportunity to get what they want (help with a purchase, etc.) by using poor communication techniques (such as yelling, insulting, aggressive body language, too soft speech, etc.)? 

We all have. 

It is amazing how frequently people choose to deny themselves their desires by making it difficult (if not impossible) to be understood and assisted. This is what many people do on the phone interview. They take money out of their own pocket by refusing to study communications (as we do in this series) and they force the interviewer to offer the job to another applicant (often a less qualified one!). In this show we discuss some of the reasons why. 

5) In this show you will learn how to start a new plan immediately to customize an individual inventory of your communication techniques that are robbing you of professional opportunities! You will also learn how to use your breathing, sighing, speed, volume, pacing, projection, elimination of verbal crutches, etc., to ensure that you will garner the job offer! People can hear your [...]

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SHOW NOTES: The HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series addresses challenges, obstacles and problems (real or perceived) that are preventing a person from surpassing their goals! In this series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared. This episode is, “A Work Colleague Has Experienced A Tragic Death of A Loved One. What Should I Do?”

Life. Death is a reality for all of us. A tragic death (accident, homicide, suicide, etc.) is not. What do you do if a tragic death becomes a reality for a work colleague?  

1) Be there.

2) Listen.

If you have experienced a tragic death in your life you have an advantage (in some respects) when your work colleague experiences one in their lives. The compassion, empathy and understanding that a tragic death survivor is able to provide to another person is an asset. 

The natural aversion to the colleague (from people who have not experienced a real life tragic death themselves) is understandable at some level. We all hear about tragic death. It is on the news. It is in our media in film, music, poetry, video games, etc., yet that is an abstract awareness devoid of the devastation of the actual child, spouse, friend, boss, parent, partner, that we know who is gone. 

The most ‘helpful’ things you should do, I repeat:

1) Be there.

2) Listen.

I learned about these types of situations when my only sibling committed suicide. 

With a tragic death there are also the extra issues to deal with in many instances of media inquires and coverage. This forces public attention on the survivors. In many instances it is the only public information about their loved one and it defines their entire life into often graphic and painful details of their demise. The loved one with a name, a personality, a special smile, is reduced to a headline. I still remember the online complaints on the local news sites that the police investigation into my sibling’s death was blocking traffic and how people were angry and inconvenienced by the delays. Wow. People. 

I) DO NOT:

a) Discuss your belief system (religious, spiritual, atheistic, scientific, etc.). It gives you comfort and that is fantastic. Yet, this situation is not about you. If you believe that it is “better” for the loved one or that they are “being punished” this is not the time for sharing. Even if you and your work colleague have previously shared about your similar beliefs (in other contexts), this is not the time. Do not add to the burden of the work colleague right now (addressing some conversation about beliefs, etc.). Do not. 

b) Discuss your own life and how “grateful” you are that your child, parent, friend, spouse, etc., is alive and not the victim of a tragic death. Do not share how “it could have been my child.”

c) Discuss how “you understand how it feels” (and then talk about a non tragic death such as when your great grandfather died naturally at 105 years old or how your sister was ill last year but is still alive). The tragic death and non-tragic death are not the same. Your failure to acknowledge that is a burden to your work colleague. 

d) Discuss how you “can’t imagine” what they are going through. Duh. So, why say it. Do you think they wanted to imagine or experience this?

e) Ask them “how they are?” You know how they are. Just say “hello” instead.  

f) Try to “change the subject” as there is no other subject. I know it is so painful to listen to them but you must.

g) Do not judge them. They are in agony. They may say things that are shocking or painful for you to hear. Do not judge. Just listen. 

h) Do not burden the colleague. They are not equipped to handle it right now (no matter how they are acting or how they “seem” to be to you). 

I know that many people say that they don’t know what to say so that is why these types of inappropriate content spill out of their mouths. This show is intended to address exactly that issue. You don’t need to say anything.

Shut-up.

This is not about you. Your nervous talking is not helping. Do not pester the work colleague with questions even if well intentioned (“how can I help”, “what time is the service”, “do you want me to cover for you in the meeting next week”, etc.). Shut-up.

The most ‘helpful’ things you should do, I repeat:

1) Be there.

2) Listen.

Do monitor the person for basic survival issues (hydration, food, sleep). Bring them something to drink. Bring them something to eat. Sit with them and make sure they drink something. Don’t say anything about it, just give it to them. Then keep listening. I know that the desire to leave is incredibly strong. Everyone wants the tragedy to “go away.” No one more than the colleague whose loved one is dead. Yet, they are not able to “leave it” so if you volunteer to be there with them and listen, it is truly brave (and appreciated). Listen. 

NOTE: If the work colleague who is grieving shows signs that need professional help, get it for them immediately! They may have physical and/ or psychological situations that require professional help (dehydration, self harm, post traumatic stress disorder, etc.) Contact emergency services immediately! Better safe than sorry.

II) DO:

a) Educate yourself about some of the research on grief (which is heightened and enhanced with a tragic death):

i) There are no rules. 

We often think of [...]

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SHOW NOTES: In our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). The act of engaging in professional endeavors, in any capacity (i.e., as an employee, employer, entrepreneur, contractor, volunteer, paid, full time, part time, intermittently, etc.) is an expression of our ideas and creative talents (“art”). All of this is in furtherance of our mission to surpass our goals! Our episode today is, “Would you rather be a pig happy or Socrates unhappy?” (i.e., is ignorance bliss?) 

Where did the show topic come from?

From a book written by John Stuart Mill. The book is titled, “Utilitarianism” and was first published in 1861. 

From Frostburg University, “Is the high-strung and hardworking intellectual superior to the relaxed and benevolent airhead? Considering that high culture requires so much attention and effort, and that it does not seem to pay off too well in terms of sociability and contentment, is it really worth the price it exacts?  This is the question that John Stuart Mill tries to answer in the second chapter of his book Utilitarianism (first published in 1861). In that chapter Mill offers the famous judgment (in favor of the New Yorkers, as it were) that "it is better to be a human being dissatisfied than a pig satisfied; better to be Socrates dissatisfied than a fool satisfied." Basically Mill contends that a highly cultured person is a happier person, a person who gets more pleasure out of life than an airhead--even if such a person experiences a great deal of frustration and dissatisfaction as a result of being educated and cultured.” (http://faculty.frostburg.edu/phil/forum/Mill.htm)

What is Utilitarianism?

From Stanford University, “Though there are many varieties of the view discussed, utilitarianism is generally held to be the view that the morally right action is the action that produces the most good.  There are many ways to spell out this general claim. One thing to note is that the theory is a form of consequentialism: the right action is understood entirely in terms of consequences produced. What distinguishes utilitarianism from egoism has to do with the scope of the relevant consequences. On the utilitarian view one ought to maximize the overall good — that is, consider the good of others as well as one's own good.” (http://plato.stanford.edu/entries/utilitarianism-history/)

Who was Socrates?

“Socrates,  (born c. 470 bce, Athens [Greece]—died 399 bce, Athens), Greek philosopher whose way of life, character, and thought exerted a profound influence on ancient and modern philosophy.” (http://www.britannica.com/EBchecked/topic/551948/Socrates)

Are pigs ignorant or intelligent?

It appears that they may be much more intelligent than previously thought! From the New York Times, “Pigs Prove to Be Smart, if Not Vain […R]esearchers present evidence that domestic pigs can quickly learn how mirrors work and will use their understanding of reflected images to scope out their surroundings and find their food. The researchers cannot yet say whether [...]

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SHOW NOTES: In the COURTNEY! I AM CURIOUS series you ask and I answer! I hope that my journey through life helps you more fully explore what is probable in your life! This episode is, “How Did You Graduate From College with your Bachelors degree at 20 Years Old?”

I graduated from high school when I was 17 years old. I graduated from college with my bachelor’s degree three years after I finished high school. I was 20 years old. 

1) How did I do it (graduate from college with my bachelor’s degree in three years)?

I completed all of the requirements for the degree by that time. I completed 124 credit hours and 120 were required for graduation. Thus, I graduated because I finished the degree program requirements. From RADIO SHOW/AUDIO PODCAST: Solutions…with Courtney Anderson! (SwCA) Episode 082 - Originally aired 4/16/2014 9:00 AM - HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT series - “How do I pick 'the right' college for my first degree?", “in general (from a US perspective), degrees are awarded based on completed credit hours. One credit hour is based on one class hour per week throughout the duration of a semester. So, a class that meets for three hours per week for an entire term will be worth three credit hours upon successful completion. An associate degree is roughly 60 credit hours. A bachelors degree is 120 credit hours. Thus, to earn a bachelors degree would take 40 different three credit classes (which is why it takes several years to graduate).”

2) How did you complete all of the degree requirements in three years?

By planning ahead and setting a goal to do so! The most candid response I can give is that from my earliest memory my goal was to move as quickly as possible through undergraduate school. I knew that I was going to be earning (most likely several) graduate degrees. So, the longest (in terms of credit hours) prerequisite degree was the undergraduate degree. In my mind, as a teenager, undergraduate school was simply a time-consuming requirement for me to enter my next graduate program (initially I was planning to go to medical school and then I switched to law school). 

My transcript shows:

55 credit hours transferred:

- 9 AP credit hours from high school, 

- 13 hours of credit completed on campus during by freshman year fall semester at Texas A&M University College Station, 

- 16 hours of credit completed on campus during by freshman year spring semester at Texas A&M University College Station, 

- 14 hours of credit from summer school at Central Texas Community College after my freshman year of college, 

- 3 hours of credit from summer school at Austin Community College after my freshman year of college

69 credit hours at University of Texas at Austin:

- Year 2 - Fall semester 14 credit hours, spring semester 15 credit hours,

- Year 3 - Fall semester 16 credit hours, spring 15 credit hours, summer 9 credit hours

= 124 credit hours

* I left off the classes I withdrew from and dropped. As I note below, my original plan was to finish in 2 and 1/2 years but it took me actually three years (with summers)

3) How did you know about undergraduate school (requirements, prerequisite for graduate school, etc.) to understand what your options were?

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SHOW NOTES: You are craving a new mountain to climb. This series, “SATISFACTION SATURATION™”, is for you. We will address the challenges in reaching the SATISFACTION SATURATION state in regards to specific experiences, how to recognize it, how to treat it, how to prevent it, and how to handle the feedback from other people (“Must be nice to have that job, that house, that car, that award,” etc.). 

This specific episode is, “I Am Successful. I Am NOT Happy. Why?”

1) You are not successful if you are not happy.

2) Why did you do the things to be partially successful? To please others? Because they were easy for you?

As per number one above, if you are in a prolonged, chronic state of unhappiness, you are not successful. The entire purpose of our “Joyful Art of Business” practice is to prevent an outcome where we have some limited success (in prestige, income, accolades, reputation, etc.) and we are miserable. We should focus on our emotional and psychological return on our investment (ROI) of time and resources in our work endeavors. 

That means that we do not accept a job or professional opportunity because “everyone thinks we should” or because “it is what our parents wanted for us.” We are going to monitor our individual feelings and reactions to our work. If we dread our work and have a headache every time we go to our office, we need to make some changes. We should have some level of anticipation and excitement about the work that we do! 

We all are aware of stories of rich and sad executives, lonely superstars, famous and miserable public figures who “suffer in silence” behind closed doors. Suffering is still suffering whether it is out in the open or hidden behind closed doors. If you have an ability to alleviate some of your suffering, do so. You have some areas of success (income, accomplishments, etc.) so you must leverage those to transition to a different daily professional life that results in you feeling positive more than feeling negative. 

Just because you have experienced some aspects of success does not negate your intrinsic value as a human (which is equal to other humans). You have value and your feelings matter. If other people who are dependent on you (financially, emotionally, etc.) and/ or who live vicariously through you are angry about you changing your life in order to address your unhappiness, that is their issue. 

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SHOW NOTES: In our HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared. This episode is, “I am being subjected to ‘The Silent Treatment’ from someone. How do I handle it?”

You Don’t.

This is a challenging subject as many of us would prefer to remain silent about “the silent treatment” (ouch). Yet, we cannot do so. We prefer our aggression served out loud so that we are able to hear it. When we are confronted with aggression masquerading as innocent activity, it is slithery and elusive. When exactly did it start? Are we imagining it? Is silence really deafening or are we simply too sensitive? 

In this show we discuss ‘the silent treatment’ at work and in our personal lives. These two questions will be our guides irrespective of the setting. 

1) How much are you invested in the person? 

 

2) How much are you invested In the relationship?

 

What is ‘the silent treatment’? Maybe I am simply imagining it? Or, perhaps I am confused and mistake a quiet person for an act of aggression?

The silent treatment is a form of aggression. It is not your imagination. It is not you being too sensitive. It is not that some people are quiet (as quiet people are not entirely silent, they simply speak less loudly and less often). 

Specifically, this behavior is passive-aggression. “Passive aggression is aggression by “not doing” — and deliberately not communicating or giving someone the “silent treatment” is one of the more common forms of it. And passive-aggression can be one tool in an arsenal of weapons that people use to manipulate and/or abuse others.” (http://askthepsych.com/atp/2010/09/09/is-the-silent-treatment-a-form-of-abuse/)

Why does a person use ‘the silent treatment’?

In general, because they want to and they are allowed to (please access Episode 114 where I discuss this issue). Specifically, “The silent treatment is a passive-aggressive action where a person feels bad but is unable to express themselves. Their being 'silent' is never a silent act. It generates what the sulker wants. Attention and the knowledge others are hurt. Plus a feeling of power from creating uncertainty over how long the ‘silence’ will last. Some therapists see this kind of social rejection purely as poor communication. Others are more concerned by it, viewing it as a form of control or even abuse. […] 

Whether they have learned this in the past or present, if they repeatedly engage in this behaviour as an adult this is something they are making a deliberate choice to do. Even if they feel like they have no control over their feelings or actions. This is particularly important to remember if you are prone to try and ‘fix’ things in the relationship or if you feel you have done something to cause them to withdraw. (http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/sex/10020662/Silent-treatment-how-to-snap-him-out-of-it.html)

How do I handle ‘the silent treatment’?

As I share in this show, you don’t. I have dealt with being a victim of aggression via the silent treatment and it is very effective (in getting attention for the aggressor and for inflicting pain on the victim). As the victim has no relationship to the behavior (we didn’t cause it, we don’t control it, we can’t fix it), all we can do is identify it, acknowledge it and accept it. It is like [...]

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SHOW NOTES: In our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). The act of engaging in professional endeavors, in any capacity (i.e., as an employee, employer, entrepreneur, contractor, volunteer, paid, full time, part time, intermittently, etc.) is an expression of our ideas and creative talents (“art”). All of this is in furtherance of our mission to surpass our goals! Our episode today is, “Each Time That You Treat Yourself Badly, Your Enemies Rejoice. So, STOP. ”

We hurt. We hurt ourselves. Our enemies rejoice. Wait! What?

Someone tells me, “You are an idiot.” I know that person is not a part of my community of caring (as those people all pass the test that ‘my happiness is their happiness’). So, this person who caused me to be unhappy (by calling me an idiot) does not care about me at this time. I choose to think to myself, “It is true. I am an idiot. I am also ugly.” Then, I deliberately do not plan ahead for my work project (because I am focused on being an ugly idiot). My work product is therefore not to the best of my ability (it is late, poor quality, etc.). Now, those who intend to cause me harm (aka enemies) are very happy (and rejoicing). 

Enemies wanted to cause me harm and they surpassed their goal: 

1) They called me an idiot. 

2) I chose to believe them. I called myself an idiot (and added extra insults about being ugly). 

3) I intentionally chose to sabotage my work product. 

4) My poor quality work product resulted in being denied an opportunity for a promotion. 

My enemy is ecstatic! They only took one action to cause me harm (calling me an idiot) but then I voluntarily took at least three more actions on my own to cause myself more harm. 

I did my enemies’ work for them! The question is, why? [...]

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SHOW NOTES: This is our COURTNEY! I AM CURIOUS™ series wherein you ask and I answer! Specifically, this is a series for questions about my personal experiences, perspectives and life lessons. 

I coined the term the “Workplace Relationship Expert” by 1999 and have been using it in my professional materials since that time! The reason is that I research and write about workplace interpersonal relationships that impact organizational outcomes (between management and staff, between peers, etc.). 

Definition of Workplace:  “a place (as a shop or factory) where work is done”

Workplace. (n.d.). Retrieved August 6, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/workplace

 

Definition of Relationship:

“: the way in which two or more people, groups, countries, etc., talk to, behave toward, and deal with each other

: a romantic or sexual friendship between two people

: the way in which two or more people or things are connected”

Relationship. (n.d.). Retrieved August 6, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/relationship

What happens at work is not isolated to work process and goals. It is largely impacted by the internal relationship motives people have not addressed (which results in harassment, bullying abuse, illegal employment decisions, etc.). My job is to address that reality and provide consequence and clarity of the individual choices that team members decide to make. 

What led to my identification as 'The Workplace Relationship Expert'?

1) I started dealing with workplace legal issues (wrongful termination, etc.) as an attorney at my law firm (which I opened in 1998). 

2) I had numerous clients that I helped with cases where their employer had allegedly not complied with the law (hiring, evaluations, discipline, termination, etc.). 

3) I was shocked to observe well known and successful organizations that had individual staff members engage in inappropriate and potentially illegal behavior. 

4) I therefore started my corporate education, training and consulting practice specifically to be part of a proactive solution for employers to prevent (or mitigate) potentially illegal employment action. 

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SHOW NOTES: This is an episode that I feel compelled to do! Our MYTH WARRIORS™ series is about targeting ideas to begin the assessment of whether they are credible or not. This episode topic is, “We All Need Someone To Believe In Us.”

No. We don’t need it. This is a myth.

Definition of need:

“: a situation in which someone or something must do or have something

: something that a person must have : something that is needed in order to live or succeed or be happy

: a strong feeling that you must have or do something”

Need. (n.d.). Retrieved August 4, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/need

We may want someone to believe in us. A want is not a need. The challenge is that if we convince ourselves of the lie (myth) that we need someone to believe in us and we don’t have anyone who does; we argue that we have to give up on life. No one believes in us. We don’t believe in ourselves. We engage in self-destructive behavior. We sabotage ourselves. We befriend bitterness, regret and anger. We waste each day mired in self-pity. 

Of course, it is wonderful if someone believes in you! If many people believe in you, congratulations! You are very fortunate! Yet, that is not a guarantee of any specific outcome (e.g., success, wealth, etc.). It is also not an entitlement. Just because your grandfather, sister, best friend and 7th grade teacher believe in you and have told you that you are special and super-awesome, does not mean that the rest of the world shares that same sentiment. We are all judged as adults as individuals. 

Potential is just that. It is not purpose and it is not rewarded. We all have potential. The issue with this show topic is that [...]

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is, “Are Your Insecurities and Fears Preventing Employee Empowerment?”

Yes.

To clarify, although this show is part of our MANAGEMENT MAGICIANS™ series we are obviously not addressing the existing management magicians when we discuss individuals who are suffering from insecurities and fears that hurt their organization (and themselves). These individuals may aspire to be management magicians in the future (or they may have been so at some time in the past and hope to return to that state). It is unhealthy for a person to be prevented from using logic and data to make decisions and instead to base actions on their fears and insecurities.

1) The sufferer of the afflictions of raging fears and insecurities needs help and treatment as soon as possible to get them on the path to recovery. Popular culture cruelly ridicules people afflicted with fears and insecurities that appear to be irrational (fear of butterflies, etc.). Aren’t all fears and insecurities equal? We will want to view our fears and insecurities as ‘real’ (and often have explanations for why they are rational). We want to view other people’s fears and insecurities as silly. Isn’t it all subjective? Isn’t the issue the fear and insecurity (and the toll they take) and not what triggers the fear and insecurity? We should not judge others as we are not immune to the same challenges. 

2) What toll does the manager who is motivated by their fear and insecurity take on their organization?  

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SHOW NOTES: This series is designed for the statistically rare, yet often overlooked, self-employed individual who marches to their own drummer and loves it! This is not a series for people who want to consider future self-employment (aspiring) and how to become self-employed. This is a series for existing self-employment individuals. A very small number of people  are self-employed ‘full-time’ (not the best term but it does convey the intended meaning). 

How are we defining self-employed in this series?

Definition of Self-employed -

":  earning income directly from one's own business, trade, or profession rather than as a specified salary or wages from an employer”

Self-employed. (n.d.). Retrieved August 4, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/self-employed

There is a very different professional situation for a self-employed person who operates as their own safety net. No guaranteed paycheck, no benefits. Self-employment is a joy for those who value autonomy and possess high levels of self-discipline. From Bloomberg Businessweek, “self-employed people are happier with their jobs than the wage-employed. According to the Pew report, "Nearly four-in-ten self-employed workers (39%) say they are 'completely satisfied' with their jobs, compared with 28% of all wage or salaried employees." This is consistent with earlier studies showing that, in a wide range of countries, a higher percentage of the self-employed are satisfied or very satisfied with their jobs than the wage employed.” (http://www.businessweek.com/smallbiz/content/apr2010/sb2010041_151187.htm)

Why are we referring to the series as self-employment ecstasy? 

Because the data shares that this group (self-employed) are happier than the non self-employed. 

Definition of Ecstasy - 

“a state of very great happiness : extreme delight”

Ecstasy. (n.d.). Retrieved August 4, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/ecstasy

Due to the higher levels of happiness for self-employed individuals, this series in entitled, SELF-EMPLOYMENT ECSTASY™! 

In this series we will explore that small percentage (about 11% in the US as per Pew Research at http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2009/09/17/take-this-job-and-love-it/). The population of self-employed in the US is also decreasing. “For the first century of its existence, the United States economy was dominated by independent workers. […] Self-employed farmers, ranchers, hunters, fishermen, and loggers made up more than 8% of the workforce in the late 1940s. Now it’s less than 1%.” (http://blogs.hbr.org/2014/02/where-are-all-the-self-employed-workers/)

 This small minority of individuals has unique and often overlooked challenges and motivations. From Pew Research, “Self-employed adults are more likely than others to be working for the intangible psychological benefits that come from a job.  To be sure, a paycheck is important to the self-employed — eight-in-ten said a big reason they worked is to support themselves and their families. But money is less of a motive to work for these workers than it is to wage and salaried employees. […] Other factors clearly motivate those who work for themselves. When asked the big reasons they worked, the self-employed are more likely than salary or wage employees to say they work in order to live independently (84% vs. 76%), feel productive (75% vs. 67%) and “to help improve society” (55% vs. 46%). They also are more likely to work to give themselves “something to do” (50% vs. 39%) and to be with other people (43% vs. 34%).” (http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2009/09/17/take-this-job-and-love-it/)

Our series is therefore focused on the issues important to this population, independence, productivity, being of service to society and healthy interaction with others! 

This first episode in our new series addresses a topic that many of our self-employed ecstasy community members are familiar with! It is, “I Have So Many Ideas That I Lose Track of Time All of The Time! What Should I Do?”

We all deal with time management challenges whether we are self-employed, non self-employed or not employed at all! The specific issues that we are discussing in this show are [...]

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SHOW NOTES: Our episode today is, "GO BIG or GO HOME! (Except for with people, money and health.)" 

You are the type of person who gets the job done! People admire your tenacity, focus and intensity! You are squared away and run a tight ship. You live life to the fullest and you work and play with glee and exuberance! You don’t have any regrets as you have left no stone unturned in ensuring your life is better than your dreams. In fact, you are often the person who is asked to handle the most intense and challenging work projects. Other people trust that your seemingly inexhaustible resources of energy and determination can make the impossible, possible. You love the big risk, big reward action! 

No safety net, no submission to fear. You are addicted to the adrenaline rush of the biggest adventures in life. Start a business from scratch with no money, no connections and no credit? No problem. You are a believer in what is achievable with a well planned strategy and sheer will driving the execution plan. You have been rewarded for this zeal and extraordinary focus in work, in competition and in your personal pride in surpassing your goals!! 

In fact, you often are confused by what you perceive to be the lack of desire and dedication in other people (‘how can they stomach giving such a half-hearted effort?!’). When you show up to the game of life, you come to win. You give everything that you have to everything that you do and you leave it all out on the field. These traits have served you well professionally, financially and in many aspects, psychologically. You are able to immerse yourself in your tasks and truly feel alive and inspired the majority of the time! 

What could possibly be the problem with this fired up, passionate, authentic lifestyle? How could there ever be a negative ramification of giving your all to everything that you do (e.g., Go BIG or Go HOME!)? Give it your all! Except…

1) People. Don’t give your heart up front. I know that you are incredibly decisive. When you make a decision, it is made and you are pleased and relaxed. So, when you find a person that is wonderful, you commit wholeheartedly! This is not the best approach. You overwhelm other people and they may not want to spend time with you. Remember, the intensity that you feel is not typical. This often works to your benefit in your career but it is a detriment with interpersonal relationships. You must force yourself to tone it down, turn it down or use any other method to make yourself less of a force of nature. You must dole out small doses of your commitment and then force yourself to do nothing and wait for reciprocity. If they do not reciprocate, you must cease your actions to “take the relationship to the next level.” Give them space and time.

2) Money. Time is your friend. Small doses of action and long term strategy are the key to long term stability. Go big by spending everything you have will likely hurt you, your loved ones, and your ability to enjoy life. Budget your risk money (a tiny percentage of your overall resources) and have fun with that. Never exceed this budget. The financial graveyard is littered with the ruins of many great minds who failed to restrain themselves financially and ended up destitute. You are better than this outcome so force yourself to practice mundane, predictable long-term financial focus.

3) Health. Everyday consistency. We all know about the person who abused their health with poor diet, abuse of alcohol, lack of exercise, excessive exercise, abuse of performance enhancing drugs, etc., and ‘got away with it’! Yes, but why play a game that deprives your only physical body of the best possible outcome. If you cheat and ‘get away with it’ you have lost. It is your body. The only one you will ever have. Taunting and testing it to its limits is foolish and only hurts you. You are better than treating your physical form like a garbage receptacle. Healthy diet, exercise and self care are ‘boring’ in some aspects yet they result in a higher probability of longer and higher quality of life. 

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SHOW NOTES: This is our EDUCATORS’ EDEN™ series wherein we explore the paradise that the most passionate, creative and committed educators create for themselves, their students, peers, administrations and institutions! This episode is, “Why Don’t Students Read…the Syllabus, Assignment Instructions, My Email, etc.?” 

“Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.” - Nelson Mandela

It is exciting when we educators create and disseminate the tools to enable out students to succeed! We are eager for them to enjoy learning new content, to enlarge their vision of the world and to uncover their hidden talents via our course. Our intention is for them to have every available opportunity to prepare, plan and provide their best quality work! This drives us to provide clarity and communication to make their tasks as well defined as possible. What is required, when it is required, how it should be submitted, where it should be submitted, how it will be evaluated and graded, when it will returned to them, etc., are all important details that we want them to have by the start of the course! Thus, they will be able to plan ahead to achieve all of their academic goals in conjunction with all of their other responsibilities throughout the course term. 

We are in a constant improvement process to enhance and improve our syllabus, assignments, instructions, class communications, etc., to make them clearer and more comprehensive. Ideally, our students will be able to use these documents as guides to ensure that they understand all of the requirements and are meeting their own individual academic goals. 

The most pristine and powerful documentation is useless if it is not accessed. The deflating reality is that in some instances our students decide not to read the documents that we worry so much about (in terms of making them better and more effective for our classes). A great novel that is never read by a student is not a great novel for that student. The same principle applies to our class content. 

We educators lament, “The answer is in the syllabus. Why don’t they read the syllabus that I provided to them instead of asking me a question that I have already answered?” We lose perspective in that instant and selfishly focus on all of our labor, our love of the course content, our intense effort to create documentation for make their lives easier. We must step back and accept and respect the choices that our students make in their own lives. 

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is the debut of this new series (COURTNEY! I AM CURIOUS) and the show topic is, "Aren’t You Scared Traveling All Around The World As A Woman?"

No. 

I struggle with this question as I don't think of myself as any different from anyone else. So, I don't dream in gender, or age, or nationality, or any other individual trait. I simply dream. Then, I do. To me this question is like asking me, "Aren’t You Scared Traveling All Around The World As A 63 inch (1.6 meters) tall human? I am aware of my height but it is not something that I think about in terms of stopping me from traveling. Of course, there may be some instance where I am too short to reach something (and then I ask for help from a person or for a ladder). There are certainly cultural norms that I must be aware of and respect as I travel (in the US and everywhere else). We all have to do this so I don't think that it is a unique burden for me.

1) Why do I travel?

Because I want to. I travel for work and for the pleasure of seeing my planet. This is my planet just as it is your planet. Why shouldn't we explore as much of it as we are able to (and desire to)? When I travel for work it is because I want to work and I want to learn as much as I am able to in order to provide my clients, students, business partners, investors and you with accurate information. The world is 'out there' so if I choose to stay in one location and miss out on learning about what is happening it will be my loss and a deficiency in my ability to address international business solutions.  

Watching a television show about someone eating an apple is not the same as me eating an apple in real life. I need to experience real life to be able to provide real solutions in my work. I also need to more fully understand the context and reality of different parts of our planet. My ability to understand an apple is much greater if I eat it myself than if I read about it or watch someone else eat it on television and it the same with other experiences. I have been to India, South Africa, Japan, Hong Kong, Spain, Canada, Mexico, Italy, Australia, The Netherlands, etc., in order to better understand my planet. 

2) You are a female so it is an issue when you travel. How do you address it?

I agree. I am female. I am not alone (as per my gender identity) in my enjoyment of exploring my planet, “Females are estimated to comprise 50 percent of frequent fliers, according to Travel & Leisure's Begley. If a woman has a family, she may make 70 percent of all her family's personal travel decisions, Begley continued. Forty percent of business travelers today are women, while just thirty years ago female executives comprised only one percent. A glance around any airport or train station confirms that things have changed.” (http://hbswk.hbs.edu/archive/4611.html)

I do study the locations that I will be going to (in the US and internationally) to make sure that I have lodging, transportation and logistics to provide the safest probable outcome. This is how I address my gender (and height and everything else that I am). I do not suggest that anyone (of any gender identify) randomly go places without researching the location and planning ahead. Again, I am not alone in my concerns,  “In corporate travel, female executives are often interested in two specific areas: safety and connectivity,” (http://www.bbc.com/travel/blog/20130213-business-travel-gets-a-female-touch)

Here are some potential resources for travel information from the US and Canadian governments (always pay attention to travel warnings):

http://travel.state.gov/content/passports/english/go/checklist.html

http://travel.gc.ca/travelling/publications/her-own-way

3) Are you ever alone?

Yes. I am often on a plane by myself. That is not unusual for business travelers, as, “Sixty-three percent of male business travelers say they often travel alone. That compares to 48 percent of female business travelers.” (http://www.cnbc.com/id/48433282#)

4) Don't you travel more than most people?

Yes. I did not realize this but as we often discuss on the show, data is our friend. I talk to my friends and people in my daily life and they are always sharing about some fascinating trip somewhere I haven't been (or not been to recently). So, I am always thinking that I travel an average amount. Also, I grew up as a 'military brat' (my parent had a career in the US Army and retired as a Lt. Colonel). I was born in Germany (Nuremberg) and moved around the world my entire life when I was growing up. I am not 'from' any specific place and am very used to moving around and learning about new parts of the world. I also spent the majority of my time growing up in the US living and going to school on military bases (which are more diverse than many other parts of US society). My personal experience thus skews my perception on travel and exploring our planet (compared to someone who was born and grew up in one town). 

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SHOW NOTES: In the MYTH WARRIORS™ series we are targeting ideas to begin to assess whether they are credible or not. We are warriors fighting to establish clarity between what is accurate and what is simply a myth (or falsehood) in life. This episode is, “Everything Happens For a Reason.”

Our options that we discuss in this show are:

1) Everything happens.

2) Everything happens for a reason.

3) Everything happens for a specific reason (religious based, scientifically based, etc.).

This is intriguing show! Please join in as we explore some ideas that will challenge our assumptions about “what we know.” I did not anticipate that I would be so drawn into examining my own ideas about our world as I was in this show! I am not a theologian, a historian, a philosopher, a physicist or anything other than a layperson with curiosity about these topics. If you do not want to think about the questions this show poses, just go to another episode. My intent is for all of us to be “unsure” about “what we know” by utilizing a process of critical thinking and inquiry.

A) In addressing option 1, “Everything happens,” how do we know what is ‘everything’ and what is actually happening? In the show we discuss that we may be experiencing reality right now or we may not. We may instead be experiencing a facade of reality (or a simulation) like in the movie, The Matrix (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0133093/plotsummary). Or, we may be simply viewing shadows that we are mistaking for reality (e.g., Plato, The Allegory of the Cave https://faculty.washington.edu/smcohen/320/cave.htm). 

B) In addressing option 2, “Everything happens for a reason,” how do we begin to ascribe a reason to our still undefined ‘everything’ that we perceive to be ‘happening’? 

C) In addressing option 3, “Everything happens for a specific reason,” this is where people may become angry in asserting that they have the ‘correct’ specific reason to explain the still undefined ‘everything’ that we perceive to be ‘happening.’ Some people have a religious or spiritual faith that they assert is the specific reason. They often have a requirement in their belief system to share their knowledge with other people to help them (save them from the consequence of having the incorrect specific reason). 

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SHOW NOTES: In our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). The act of engaging in professional endeavors, in any capacity (i.e., as an employee, employer, entrepreneur, contractor, volunteer, paid, full time, part time, intermittently, etc.) is an expression of our ideas and creative talents (“art”). All of this is in furtherance of our mission to surpass our goals! Our episode today is, “I Am Competing With Three Billion People For My Job! Really?”

Yes. 

This show is intended to remind us that whether or not we want to think from a global perspective as individuals that we are subject to global realities. Thus, instead of focusing on your employment opportunities in a particular city, country, region or other limited part of our planet, you are impacted by global competition for professional opportunities. 

This title of this episode was inspired by the following content, “A good job is a job with a paycheck from an employer and steady work that averages 30+ hours per week. Global labor economists refer to these as formal jobs. Sometimes leaders and economists blur the line between good jobs (formal jobs) and informal jobs. Informal jobs are jobs with no paycheck, no steady work. […] Of the 7 billion people on Earth, there are 5 billion adults aged 15 and older. Of these 5 billion, 3 billion tell Gallup they work or want to work. Most of these people need a full-time formal job. The problem is that there are currently only 1.2 billion full-time, formal jobs in the world. This is a potentially devastating global shortfall of about 1.8 billion good jobs. It means that global unemployment for those seeking a formal good job with a paycheck and 30+ hours of steady work approaches a staggering 50%, with another 10% wanting part-time work. [...]This also means that potential societal stress and instability lies within 1.8 billion -- nearly a quarter of the world's population.” (http://businessjournal.gallup.com/content/149144/coming-jobs-war.aspx)

We are all competing (in some sense) for the optimal quality of life for ourselves and our loved ones. We seek the ability to stretch ourselves intellectually, to be able to apply our knowledge in useful ways to better society and have an enjoyable and productive live. The article quoted above is from a book that asserts a “coming jobs war.” We should at least consider the possibility that we are not isolated in our professional and career aspirations no matter where we currently are on the planet. 

I love international business issues! I was born in Germany, live in the US currently and have worked as a speaker/ corporate educator in India, Hong Kong, Japan, Australia, Spain, Mexico, Canada, Italy, South Africa, The Netherlands, 49 out of 50 US states including Alaska and Hawaii (I still need to work in Wyoming), and many other parts of our planet. I have had the privilege of learning more about myself and our wondrous planet. I have also had the first hand opportunity to meet and share knowledge with people from diverse areas of our planet. Although there are differences among us regarding local laws, cultural norms and perspectives there is a uniform desire for people to be respected, fairly compensated and provided future growth and development in their careers. It is amazing how similar we humans are! In fact, [...]

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SHOW NOTES: You are craving a new mountain to climb. This series, “SATISFACTION SATURATION™”, is for you. We will address the challenges in reaching the SATISFACTION SATURATION state in regards to specific experiences, how to recognize it, how to treat it, how to prevent it, and how to handle the feedback from other people (“Must be nice to have that job, that house, that car, that award,” etc.). 

This specific episode is, “I Am Used To Having Things MY WAY and I Have NO PATIENCE When They Aren't. Help Me!"

Who are we after an extended time period of being catered to by others? 

When we get used to having our needs and desires met (because we are the boss, the important client, the well paying supporter, etc.) it may result in us starting to believe that we deserve to be catered to and treated as a “special” person. We get used to having our meals served as we prefer and not having to wait in lines (because we are granted special access or we pay for extra convenience). Our ability to tolerate discomfort and to simply wait passively for attention is reduced. We start to think that any obstacle in our path is simply a temporary issue that with money or other resources will be removed from our life. 

We know that we can often leverage our income and/ or power to make our lives easier. This is one of the primary reasons we made the sacrifices that we did to surpass our goals! We treat ourselves to our favorite experiences and why not? Yet, we are quick to anger and become frustrated when we hear that magic word that no human likes directed towards their request, “No.” We hear this word more rarely now (for some it is a faint memory from an earlier time that they try to forget). Everyone is usually so “nice” to us (asking us if we need anything, checking on our preferences, paying attention to us, etc.). Instead of that dreaded word “no”, in a stressful situation (where we are not immediately receiving what we desire) we may be told, “let me see what I can do for you.” 

We change our thinking and behavior and start to expect attentive deference. Why not? We pay top dollar. We are a great customer or client. Why shouldn’t we be treated as someone who is important by employees, vendors, and even family or friends who we “help” with our guidance and generosity? The prolonged exposure to having our needs and desires met, to not hearing “No” may result in us becoming intolerant, impatient and a pathetic caricature of the pampered, incessantly demanding and insensitive “successful” person. 

STOP! We are not that spoiled, insipid, whiny baby who always has to have things our way. So, why are we acting like that?

“As a person’s levels of wealth increase, their feelings of compassion and empathy go down, and their feelings of entitlement, of deservingness, and their ideology of self-interest increases,” (http://blog.ted.com/2013/12/20/6-studies-of-money-and-the-mind/)

How did this happen?

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SHOW NOTES: In our HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared. This episode is, “ I Was Taught That I Have to Be Twice As Good As Them…and I Am Exhausted."

This is an episode that I feel very strongly about! The central question is who is in charge of your life? Is it you? Or, someone or something else? If you are in charge of your life then you define your goals, your value and your experiences. If you accede that power over your life to other people or entities then they will define your goals, your value and your experiences. 

How much money should you make per year? What type of neighborhood should you live in? Either you will decide or someone (or something) else will decide. When do you decide that you have done your best (versus when you have more to give)? What is ‘good enough’ and what constitutes success?

When you choose to let other people or entities make these decisions they will have their own ideas of how much money you will earn (especially as it relates to how much money they earn), where you will live (by determining how much you will be able to spend on housing as part of your salary) and everything else in your life. If you elect to exercise your own personal power over your life, then you decide. Are you qualified for a job? You decide. How much money will you earn this year? You decide. What type of neighborhood will you live in? You decide. 

What if you are operating under the understanding that everything you do is weighed down by some aspects of who you are? That you are running the race of life with heavy weights around your ankles that slow you down? That the weights make you have to run twice as fast as other people (those without weights) just to have any opportunity at finishing (or competing to win) the race? 

Many of us have cultural, societal, family, or other group feedback that taught us from an early age that we are weighed down. That when we run in the race of life we have to overcompensate for who we are (e.g., gender, ethnicity, religion, socioeconomic group, national origin, disabilities, color, size, etc.) by laboring at least twice as hard as those who are free of the weights we bear. Are some of us given specific information that who we are is a liability and that we have to work at least twice as hard as people without our burdens? Yes. 

Here is an example of this language (being twice as good) from a fictional television show out of the US, Scandal: 

“Rowan: Did I not raise you for better? How many times have I told you? You have to be what?

Olivia: Twice as good.

Rowan: You have to be twice as good as them to get half of what they have.” (http://www.salon.com/2013/10/04/scandals_racially_charged_motto_you_have_to_be_twice_as_good_as_them/)

Here is an example of this language (being twice as good) from a biography title about a real life US former Secretary of State, “Twice As Good: Condoleezza Rice and Her Path to Power.” (http://www.amazon.com/Twice-As-Good-Condoleezza-Power/dp/B001FOR6EI) I have to share that I was in the audience a few years ago at an educational event where Ms. Rice was the keynote speaker. She was eloquent and powerful.

What do a fictional television show and a real life biography have in common that results in the language regarding being “twice as good” appearing? The most simple similarities are [...]

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SHOW NOTES: Our episode today is, "Why You Have To Apply For Jobs You Don’t Think You Are Qualified For!”

I often make the assertion that “data is your friend.” That is because credible data will help us make better decisions as we will have more reliable information and facts. We will also have a more accurate perspective on society at large (instead of simply relying on our individual skewed experiences and beliefs). 

One challenge is that you will never have perfect data. There will be some incomplete, outdated or corrupted information that impacts your decisions. Thus, how do you know that you are not the most qualified for a job? Perhaps you determine that you are unqualified because you ‘only’ have 55% of the stated job criteria, yet you do not know who else will apply and what their percentages will be. This is due to the fact that you only have complete data on yourself and incomplete data on the overall applicant pool, etc.. 

You have nothing to lose by determining your own value. Logically, if you apply for a job that requires a doctorate degree in physics and you have a high school education and no college degree, it is highly probable that you will not be hired. Yet, if you have a high school education and experience as a bookkeeper, why not apply for a job that requires bookkeeping experience and states a preference for a college graduate? If there are 10 criteria listed for a job and you have met 6 of them, why not apply? 

Here is a statistic that asserts that some gender groups (males) do exactly that (emphasis added),  “Confidence gap: He thinks he can. She thinks she can’t […] A few years ago, the computer giant Hewlett-Packard found that their female employees applied for a promotion only when they believed they met 100pc of the job requirements. The men were happy to apply when they thought they could meet 60pc. “Underqualified and underprepared men don’t think twice about leaning in,” write Kay and Shipman. “Overqualified and overprepared, too many women still hold back. Women feel confident only when they are perfect. Or practically perfect.” (http://www.independent.ie/entertainment/books/book-news/confidence-gap-he-thinks-he-can-she-thinks-she-cant-30428323.html#sthash.uJVRw2oM.dpuf)

Why do some people feel happy to apply to apply when they meet 6 out of 10 requirements and other people deny themselves opportunities at 60%, 70%, 80%, 90%, 95%, and wait all the way until they feel they meet 100% of the requirements? Simple. They are qualified (to some degree) and competent but they believe they aren’t. It is their imagination but these imaginary issues deny them real life jobs, income and opportunities. Consider the following (emphasis added), “Compared with men, women don’t consider themselves as ready for promotions, they predict they’ll do worse on tests, and they generally underestimate their abilities. This disparity stems from factors ranging from upbringing to biology. […] In studies, men overestimate their abilities and performance, and women underestimate both. Their performances do not differ in quality.” (http://www.theatlantic.com/features/archive/2014/04/the-confidence-gap/359815/)

The individuals (of any gender identify) who refuse to participate in professional opportunities guarantee that other less qualified people will be hired. They are waiting around on the sidelines of life not even competing. So, the person who is 60% qualified applies for the job. The next closest qualified candidate that applied met only 40% of the requirements and the 60% candidate was hired. The illogical decision of the person who was 95% qualified to not even apply for the position left them with no job. They also failed to take advantage of the other benefits that even an unsuccessful applicant may glean from applying and being considered (making a positive impression, networking contacts that may result in future professional opportunities, etc.). 

The strange thing is that the person who voluntarily refused to be in charge of their lives and refused to apply for the position will later complain about how people less qualified than them earn more income, have a more powerful job title, etc.. Well of course they do! They showed up to their own life and took charge of what they would do (and applied). 

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SHOW NOTES: Our show topic is, “Grading Feedback...How Much Is Too Much?"

I really enjoy grading student submissions! Yes, I honestly look forward to the student grading process. Grading student submissions  is one of the most fascinating aspects of teaching! We just have to prepare and plan ahead for it to be fun! Having the opportunity to access the student submissions where they share their innermost thoughts, their analysis, and their unique worldview is a privilege. The entire process of disseminating information to several students at the same time and in the same manner (via in class lecture in a physical classroom, via releasing an audio lecture in an online classroom, etc.) and then having the ability to observe how different students accessed that information and interpreted it is exciting. It is like going to see a movie with a group of friends and then discussing it afterwards and finding out how differently we all experienced the same content. There are times when it will seem like we didn’t even see the same film! The way we all interpret information is related to our individual experiences, our existing knowledge base, our interests, our biases, and a range of other factors. 

It is the same exploration of how we and other people process the world when I have the opportunity to grade student submissions. We all have been in the same class with the same information yet that shared experience is filtered through the lens of each scholars’ unique combination of factors that make them an individual.  There are times when I grade work and I learn that I need to address enhancement of, or replacement of, a particular issue that was not conveyed effectively to a large portion of the group. At other times I will ask myself if we all were in the same class (based on the different interpretations of the content and assignment parameters). Some students have heightened attention to the smallest details and will address items that I did not even note when preparing the lesson and/ or assessment. There are other times when students do not read the assigned material, assignment instructions, syllabus and/ or other mandatory material and that omission will result in them not completing the required tasks. That is their choice and it is insightful to access what actions the student decided to take (or not to take). 

Grading permits me to gain individual data about how each student learns, what their interests are, where their skill weaknesses exist and what strengths and mastery they already possess. It also permits me to obtain group data regarding the course content (where the group had similar challenges is often an indicator of the need for additional improvement of that specific content delivery process). I also learn new ways of interpreting the material myself, which is a delight! 

The reality is that all of our enthusiasm for teaching in general and for grading specifically may result in us providing inappropriate and excessive feedback to our students.  This may happen because we:

1) Want to do everything in our power to ensure that the students are as eager and enthusiastic about the subject matter as we are. 

2) We fear that our students will not access all of our content so we think that if a little feedback is good, more feedback is better.

We must be aware of the following: [...]

 

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SHOW NOTES: In the MYTH WARRIORS™ series we are targeting ideas to begin to assess whether they are credible or not. We are warriors fighting to establish clarity between what is accurate and what is simply a myth (or falsehood) in life. This episode is, “You Don't Have To Do Anything That You Don't Want To Do!”


Angry. Bitter. Regretful. Ecstatic. Proud. Enthusiastic. I have worked with all types of people throughout my career. In some professional capacities people are at their lowest points (they are facing divorce, child custody conflict, probating the will of a loved one who has died, facing criminal charges, facing bankruptcy, etc.). As an attorney I have been needed by clients to address some of the most stressful, painful and difficult issues in life. In my other professional roles, for example, as a consultant and corporate educator, I have had the joy of working to elevate the performance of a business unit, addressed challenges with employee engagement, and assessed the organizational and cultural changes of going public (for a privately held firm).  As an university educator I have celebrated with jubilant students on graduation day. There are so many opportunities. Highs and lows. Celebrations and pain. The one constant that I use to stay focused is that we all have choices (assuming that free will exists). 

I have had conversations as an attorney with people who are facing criminal charges and encouraged them to explore their potential options. Engaging in different behavior (not getting intoxicated, not stealing, etc.) may result in different outcomes (no additional criminal charges, etc.). The question of what we "have to do" is central to our understanding of our lives. 

Some people have made the argument that they have no choices and that they "have to work" or "pay taxes" or "keep this crummy job." I wonder. Are there people who are healthy (who could work) but simply choose not to? Yes. It is rare. Yet, it is an option. Are there people who are fully aware of their responsibility to pay taxes who choose not to do so? Yes. It is rare. Yet, it is an option. I have heard the retort, "Well, I don't want to be destitute! I don't want to go to prison!" I concur. I don't want those outcomes either so those are some of the many reasons that I choose to work and pay taxes.  We have some ability to determine the most desired outcome and engage in behavior in furtherance of those goals. 

There are no guarantees. Some innocent people are wrongfully convicted and placed in prison. Some people who desperately desire a job are not offered one. The question is what do we have to do? Much less than many of us assert that we do. We do many things because we determine they are ethical, the "right thing" to do (such as help someone in need, take care of a sick friend, etc.). Some people claim that they "have to" take care of their children. Are there people who are healthy but choose not to take care of their children? Yes. It is very rare. Yet, it is an option. 

If we reframe our thinking and explore the possibilities of our input and our alternatives, we may view our lives in a more positive manner. If we feel unburdened by what "we have to do" and instead view our lives as the result of the choices we have made (to some extent), we may feel more empowered. So many people live other people's lives (their parents, their community, etc.) and don't experience the wonder and the rush of living their own lives.  Many of them would prefer to conclude that it is a myth that "You don't have to do anything that you don't want to do," and they are inaccurate. It is NOT a myth. You do not have to do anything that you don't want to do. There are outcomes of those choices. Some of the outcomes are repugnant to you so you reject them. That is what we all do. We can discuss why you feel that outcome is undesirable and why [...]

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SHOW NOTES: This specific episode is, “I am financially comfortable! How do I stop that from making me complacent?”

Is it a “real problem” for someone to worry about being complacent if they have financial resources?

Yes. 

Have you ever known about a person with wealth who hurt themselves (or even self-destructed)? Abuse of alcohol, drugs, food. Addictions. Greed. Being victimized by people. We know the story so well. It is partially due to the challenges that we face when we accomplish financial stability. We forget, in our quest to surpass our goals, to examine how our lives will change after we accomplish what we set out to do! How will our options and daily decisions change once we live out our dreams? What do we do afterwards? 

Striving for financial independence takes up an enormous amount of time and energy (budgeting, working, saving, planning, commuting, visualizing, sacrificing, etc.). Once we achieve it, how do we adjust to all of the time and energy that we now have available? When we no longer “have to” work for income, will we? When we have the financial resources available for our current situation, short term and long term goals (and those of our descendants and/ or charities, etc.), how do we fill our days? How do we fill our dreams? Do we stop dreaming? Do we...

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SHOW NOTES: In our HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared. This episode is, “I want to be someone else.”

The title of this episode makes me sad. One of the fascinating and wonderful aspects of being alive is that we have characteristics that are uniquely ours. Most of us have unique DNA and even identical twins are rarely completely the same (http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/identical-twins-genes-are-not-identical/). All of us are unique in terms of the way we express ourselves (via our behavior).  “Researchers have identified that every individual creates a unique pattern of physical behaviour including the speed at which they type, the way they move a mouse of the way they hold a phone. About 500 different behaviours are unique to every individual and, taken together, form what they call "eDNA", or electronically Defined Natural Attributes.” (http://www.theguardian.com/technology/2014/jul/18/how-your-electronic-dna-could-be-the-secure-login-of-the-future)

Thus, since we are “one of a kind” why would we want to be anyone else? 

At the core of someone expressing that they want to be someone else is dissatisfaction with themselves combined with unrealistic fantasies of other people’s lives. In terms of dissatisfaction with ourselves, a few points.

1) “Perfection” does not exist. 

Entropy is one of the reasons why as, “Entropy describes how nature -- including business operations -- is the movement from order to chaos.” (from http://yourbusiness.azcentral.com/entropy-business-26522.html)

You will experience moments of subjective perceptions of perfection (a “perfect date”, “perfect meal”, “perfect score”, etc.) yet the entire system we are in is moving toward disorder. Thus, you are no more and no less “perfect” than other other person.

2) How will you be this other person?

They already exist (if they are a real person and not a fictional character). There is no method that I am currently aware of to permit you to transfer your brain into another person’s body (or vice versa) or to reanimate deceased people and then transfer brains and or/ bodies. Therefore, this a moot point (being someone else).

In terms of unrealistic fantasies of other people’s lives:

3) Who do you want to be?

Is it a friend, family member or famous person? It is a normal part of growing up to look to other people as role models to help us begin to understand who we are (I used to tape pictures of older teens and adults that I looked up to on the pictures of my room as a young teenager!). “Since identity formation is a central focus during adolescence, adolescents are particularly likely to be influenced by the adults in their environment (Erikson, 1968). Adolescents often look to adults in order to determine appropriate and acceptable behavior, as well as to identify models of who they want to be like.” (J Youth Adolesc. Jul 2009; 38(6): 777–789). 

As we mature into adults, we define ourselves. We are who we want to be like instead of seeking out other people to copy their behaviors. 

4) Why do you want to be this other person?

It is because you think that their lives are “better” than your life. How do you know this? Have you ever admired who you thought someone was and then later found out that you did know them at all? We have this in popular culture all the time where someone who is admired (for their wealth, accomplishments, talent, beauty, etc.) is found out to be living a life of self destructive behavior. You don’t know that their life is like behind closed doors but you do know what your life is like. All that glitters is not gold (even if people want you to think that it is). 

5) Data is your friend. 

You must get a better understanding of how your life really is in comparison to other people (not based on social media and other forms of marketing images that we want people to believe). Here are some potential resources for you to check and see how other people really are living (so that you will stop taking your good fortune for granted): 

- http://www.census.gov/topics.html

-http://www.pewresearch.org/data  

- http://unsdsn.org/resources/publications/world-happiness-report-2013/

6) Feeling better about yourself by “enhancing” different aspects of yourself (better nutrition, better stress management, etc.) is healthy! 

Yet, this behavior may be detrimental if it becomes unhealthy and/ or excessive (remember, all things in moderation). Ask these questions to maintain a healthy perspective on self-improvement/ self-enhancement: 

-Are you content with yourself without your “enhancements”? 

-When is the last time you were out without your enhancements?

Where is the line between self-improvement and self-hatred? Ensure that you remain aware of the demarcation in your life.

You are you. That is a done deal. Accept that you are one of a kind, make friends with yourself and enjoy the rest of your journey as yourself!

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SHOW NOTES: Our episode today is, “Is The Size of Your Vocabulary Limiting The Size of Your Paycheck?”

Whoa! Do words matter that much? I was teased as a kid in school for "using big words" and "reading too much" (it was not fun being teased and taunted). I have a lifelong love of words and reading. I was not popular when I was growing up, especially when I would rudely "correct" people for using or pronouncing words inaccurately (so don't do this!). I am naturally biased to want to believe that all of the teasing had a silver lining and that there is a benefit to having larger vocabularies. That does not mean it is true, just that I would love for it to be true as it would make me feel better. So, as we discuss in many of our programs, what does the data tell us?

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SHOW NOTES: In this episode our topic is, “How much law do I really need to know to succeed in the HR field?” 

Answer: As much as possible.

Human Resources is all about humans! Finding, hiring, retaining, engaging, educating and serving humans. The end-users for organizations are humans. Even at a veterinarian the human is the end-user customer who finds, procures and pays for the animal medical service. In the arts the human audience or attendee is the end-user. For-profit organizations have human end-users as clients and customers as do public governmental agencies. The human is the entire focus of commerce, government and society. It is therefore logical that the expert in human resources is a pivotal role in an organization!

The HR professional is a professional. The field of HR is rapidly changing with new issues impacting business (technology, transparency, innovations, inventions, etc.) and the wider societal frameworks that businesses operate within (law, custom, etc.). The HR professional must understand the basics of the legal framework that their organization exists within. It is not sufficient for an HR professional to know that a particular form must be filled out by staff. They have to understand why the form is filled out (what is the purpose, how does it impact other areas, etc.). 

I make the analogy in the show that the legally uninformed HR professional is analogous to a person who does not know how to play a sport being told to stand on a playing field and do a certain movement. What is the bigger picture framework of the game? What are the rules? What is the purpose of the recommended action? 

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SHOW NOTES: In our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). The act of engaging in professional endeavors, in any capacity (i.e., as an employee, employer, entrepreneur, contractor, volunteer, paid, full time, part time, intermittently, etc.) is an expression of our ideas and creative talents (“art”). All of this is in furtherance of our mission to surpass our goals! Our episode today is, “Fake it ’Til You Make It?”

This is a popular concept and we need to really explore what it means!

1) What are we faking?   

Confidence.

2) What is confidence?

Belief in yourself that is communicated to other people. It strongly correlates to power as people believe in leaders who believe in themselves.

“Perhaps the clearest, and most useful, definition of confidence we came across was the one supplied by Richard Petty, a psychology professor at Ohio State University, who has spent decades focused on the subject. “Confidence,” he told us, “is the stuff that turns thoughts into action.” (http://www.theatlantic.com/features/archive/2014/04/the-confidence-gap/359815/)

3) Why are we faking it?

Because it is necessary, we don’t have it and we know it. Effective (and contented) leaders (of an organization, of a family, of a group, etc.) believe in themselves and then have a much easier time having other people follow their lead.

“A growing body of evidence shows just how devastating this lack of confidence can be. Success, it turns out, correlates just as closely with confidence as it does with competence.” […] “When people are confident, when they think they are good at something, regardless of how good they actually are, they display a lot of confident nonverbal and verbal behavior,” Anderson said. He mentioned expansive body language, a lower vocal tone, and a tendency to speak early and often in a calm, relaxed manner. “They do a lot of things that make them look very confident in the eyes of others,” he added. “Whether they are good or not is kind of irrelevant.” Kind of irrelevant. (http://www.theatlantic.com/features/archive/2014/04/the-confidence-gap/359815/)

4) So, what is the problem with faking it?

Everyone else knows that we don’t have it and are just faking it. 

“Fake confidence, he told us, just doesn’t work in the same way. Studies Anderson is now conducting suggest that others can see the “tells.” No matter how much bravado someone musters, when he doesn’t genuinely believe he is good, others pick up on his shifting eyes and rising voice and other giveaways. Most people can spot fake confidence from a mile away.” (http://www.theatlantic.com/features/archive/2014/04/the-confidence-gap/359815/)

5) What does it mean when we “make it”? 

It means we finally have confidence. 

The concept (fake it ’til you make it) is that we don’t have confidence and we pretend that we do until some future undefined time when we finally possess it. The problem is that does not work. How will someone magically possess confidence at some future undefined time when don’t have it initially? What would change? 

The idea, potentially, is that someone without confidence pretends to have it (fakes it) and that if everything goes well and they succeed over time that success will magically teach them to possess confidence. That fails in real life because it rarely happens that everything goes well and each time a person without confidence (a faker) is confronted with failure, it reinforces their lack of confidence. Even in the rare event that almost everything or everything is a huge success (according to external metrics) a person without confidence will continue to doubt that “they deserved it” and will self-sabotage. This is how people who are famous and/ or acclaimed are still able to destroy themselves (“I won the championship but I don’t deserve it so I will abuse drugs”, “I am an award winning artist but I feel like I’m not good enough so I will spend all of money and go bankrupt trying to make other people like me”, etc.)

6) So, what do we do?

Don’t fake it. Have it. 

“True overconfidence is not mere bluster. Anderson thinks the reason extremely confident people don’t alienate others is that they aren’t faking it. They genuinely believe they are good, and that self-belief is what comes across.” (http://www.theatlantic.com/features/archive/2014/04/the-confidence-gap/359815/)

7) How do we have it?

Believe in yourself. It is free. You have thoughts that tell yourself a narrative that you “genuinely believe” that you are good. You have the ability to think new thoughts. You also have the ability to observe your current existing thoughts. If you are able to not have confidence (by telling yourself in your thoughts, “You are an idiot”, “You are going to fail”, etc.) you are able to have confidence (by telling yourself in your thoughts, “You are a good person”, “You are going to succeed”, etc.). It is the same process. Which outcome do you choose?

Don’t fake it ’til you make it. Have it and hold it. 

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SHOW NOTES: Our FINANCIAL FIERCENESS!™ series integrates our financial goals into our development plan for surpassing our goals. We deal with the specific issues we need to explore in order to achieve (and surpass) our financial goals. This episode is, “Suze Orman Is Right! You Can’t Afford It and Neither Can I!

This show is referencing the “Can You Afford It” segment on the Suze Orman show (here is the link to apply to be a guest on it at http://www.suzeorman.com/the-suze-orman-show/be-a-guest-on-the-suze-orman-show/topics/can-i-afford-it/). I have watched this show and it amazes me how people who cannot afford anything (other than bare necessities) appear to be shocked when they are told they cannot afford the purchase (due to debt, low or no income, insufficient savings, etc.). On the other end of the spectrum people who can afford the purchase (based on income, investments, savings, low or no debt, etc.) are shocked when they are told they can afford the purchase! This is due to a lack of data influencing our math decisions and a lack of self-awareness influencing the emotional decisions. 

Money I have - Money I Owe = Money I Can Use (save, spend, etc.)

Money I have = Money I have

Future money ≠ (does not equal) Money I have

Future money includes future paycheck, future appreciation, etc. 

The default position we all should have is that we cannot afford it! We may not be able to afford the math part of the equation (not have sufficient income, savings, etc) or we may not be able to afford the emotional aspect of the equation (decreased happiness due to lack of anticipation). No matter how many financial resources we have, the anticipation of a treat (by denying, delaying and/ or limiting a purchase) will make us happier. For example, “a large body of research suggests the value of what we call “Make it a Treat.” By limiting our access to certain products, we enhance our consumption greatly once we encounter those products again.” (http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/using-money-to-buy-happiness/)

I deny myself items that I want all of the time!

Consider:

1) We can’t afford it.

2) Plan ahead (save and/or research more) to create and enhance anticipation.

3) Purchase only when the math supports it (in regards to debt, savings, etc.).

4) Maintain the purchase.

5) Repair the purchase.

6) Last option is to replace the purchase.

Remember to use your “Money Days” to go through your bills and cut costs. A penny saved is a penny earned.

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Your mission is to keep as much money as you can and not give it away (by buying something). Start with the assumption that you and I can’t afford it and we will enhance our financial and economic opportunities together!

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SHOW NOTES: Our MANAGEMENT MAGICIANS™ series is dedicated to those exceptional few who step forward to serve as guides, sages and responsible parties for others in pursuit of the greater good for society and their organization! These are managers who redefine their job titles to ensure their own personal contentment as they motivate, monitor and mentor their team members each day. The “magic” that a talented manager is able to create changes their lives, the lives of their team members and ripples throughout the larger society. We salute their sacrifices and share their techniques and “secrets” to achieving sustained positive experiences for themselves, clients, customers, peers, team members, and the public at large! In this episode, our topic is, "How to effectively avoid the ‘Mean Manager Syndrome’!”

Remember, most people do not want to be managers (aka “the boss”)! “According to a new Pew survey, 43% of respondents say they wouldn’t want to be a boss or top manager manager someday.” (http://business.time.com/2014/01/13/5-reasons-you-definitely-dont-want-to-be-the-boss/) Many of the reasons relate to the “extra” tasks, responsibility, stress, etc. It is therefore reasonable and strongly recommended that you conduct an honest self-assessment to determine if you really want to accept a new opportunity (or continue to accept an existing one) to serve in a management position. Do not equate being a manager with automatically being a mean person. Yes, there are some managers that also happen to be mean. There are also some managers that happen to be six feet tall. There is no correlation between being a manager and being mean or tall. The “Mean Manager Syndrome” often is a result of a person who never should have accepted (or continue to accept) a management position as it overloads them (in terms of time, stress, skills, emotional outlay, etc.). You will not experience the syndrome if you:

1) Do not accept a position as a manager if it is “too much” (of anything).

2) If you do accept a position as a manager (or continue to accept one), understand that your goal is for your team to view you as “tough but fair.” When this is achieved you will not be viewed as mean but as someone who cares (about the organization, getting the work done the right way, yourself, and them). 

Here are your tools to reach this goal of being “tough but fair”:

- Care about yourself (physically, emotionally, etc.). When you are kind to yourself, you are kind to others. 

- Smile (or show humor in a manner that fits your personality and demeanor)

- Demonstrate that you care about the organization and the team (with actions not simply words)

- Hold yourself accountable…and everyone else to the same rules (no favorites or special treatment). 

- Consistency, Confidentiality and Compliance are your code of conduct.

CAUTION: If a manager is not fair, they FAIL as a manager. 

FAIR = EQUAL TREATMENT UNDER THE RULES 

Not Fair = Mean Manager Syndrome

You chose (or will choose) to be part of the minority of people who step up to lead. It can be exhilarating and enriching to serve as a manager at the right time, in the right organization for the right person. It is your responsibility to continue to be vigilant and monitor whether you are that person for the organization at this time! 

No individuals with Mean Manager Syndrome are Management Magicians (and you know that you want to be a Management Magician)!

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SHOW NOTES: In the MYTH WARRIORS™ series we are targeting ideas to begin to assess whether they are credible or not. We are warriors fighting to establish clarity between what is accurate and what is simply a myth (or falsehood) in life. This episode is, “Why The Smartest Thing You Can Say Is ‘I Don’t Know.’”

“I Don’t Know. “

Beautiful in its simplicity. Concise in its meaning. Unambiguous. Powerful. Indicative of intellect and introspection. Underused.

How often are you in communication with someone and they use a word or phrase that you don’t know? All of the time. It happens to me on a daily basis. Let’s imagine that someone was talking to me at work about types of snow skies and I have never been snow skiing, have never read anything specifically about snow-skiing and have no prior interest or knowledge about snow skiing. 

What would be the best (in terms of good outcomes for me) way to respond to the following question, “What do you think of the Armada TST?”

Option A: “Yeah, those are great.”

Option B: “I think that that green eggs and ham are awesome.”

Option C:  ”I don’t know.”

Option A is a lie (as I don’t know what Armada TST is so I certainly don’t know if it is great or horrible). So, I am a dishonest liar to use this type of response. It also puts me at risk for being asked the dreaded follow-up question, “Why?” I cannot answer that question so it is not a good idea to use this response as my ignorance will be exposed. If I get lucky and there is a thing called Armada TST and it is a snow ski, the person talking to me will want to keep the conversation going and talk more about this “shared interest” that we have. As I am unable to keep talking about this (as I don’t know what it is), I will have to leave or change the topic or end the conversation right after this response (which are rude behaviors).  This will render me a rude liar. 

As I don’t know what Armada TST actually is, I risk humiliation in this response (and I have anxiety and fear while waiting to see how embarrassed I will be when caught in my lie). If the person asking the question was simply testing me to see if I knew anything about snow skis, my ignorance is immediately exposed. What if there is no such thing as Armada TST and I use this response? What if there is something called Armada TST and it is a type of men’s watch and not a snow ski? In any case, this response shows that I am not intelligent. This actually is a snow ski and it is one of the 2013 Editor’s Choice selections at On The Snow (http://www.onthesnow.com/news/a/580093/2013-editors--choice--the-best-men-s-all-mountain-skis).

Option B is a nonsense response that is not related the question at all. People use these types of options to try to change the subject. On the positive side, at least it is not a lie (assuming that I know what green eggs and ham are and I genuinely think they are awesome). This response shows that I am not intelligent as I either did not understand the question or I really think that green eggs and ham are a type of snow ski. 

Option C is clear. It shows that I understand the question (it is about the Armada TST) and that I understand that I don’t know what it means. It is honest and not rude. Ideally, I should follow this statement up with a request for knowledge such as, “I don’t know much about skiing! Please tell me about this ski and what you think about it. I would love to learn more about it!” The enthusiasm is optional but the honest answer shows that you are intelligent and interested in learning new information and acquiring new knowledge. Most people are delighted to talk and teach someone else about their interests!

What others are saying about the intelligence and power of “I don’t know.”:

"I think those words can be so incredibly liberating," she tells NPR's Steve Inkseep. "They can just make your shoulders drop with relief. Once you finally own up to what you don't know, then you can begin to have honest interactions with the people around you.” (http://www.npr.org/2013/09/18/223402246/dont-know-just-admit-it)

“And I’ve found it’s really one of the most destructive factors in business — is that everyone masquerades like they know the answer and no one will ever admit they don’t know the answer, and it makes it almost impossible to learn.” (http://freakonomics.com/2012/01/04/why-is-%E2%80%9Ci-don%E2%80%99t-know%E2%80%9D-so-hard-to-say-a-new-freakonomics-radio-podcast/)

 

Let’s discuss how to show our intelligence and intellectual curiosity by using the powerful (almost magic) words, “I Don’t Know.”

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SHOW NOTES: In our HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared. This episode is, “They Don’t Want Me Here.”

Rejection. Isolation. 

Shunned. Ostracized. Despised. Reviled. 

When we are somewhere that we are not wanted, it may hurt. We all crave acceptance, support and being embraced by others. In our families, in our social groups, with our romantic partners and friends we must be treated with affection, attention and acknowledgement. We design and choose (as adults) all of these relationships that we engage in on a daily basis. As we have discussed in many other programs, people who positively care about us, who are our friends all pass this test, “Our happiness is their happiness. Our hurt is their hurt. Our disappointment is their disappointment.” If a person is happy when we are hurt, they are not our friend and are not deserving of being in our close community of caring comprised of family and friends. 

Outside of our community of caring we interact with a very different population in terms of being wanted (i.e., at work and when dealing with the general public). The general public is not our community of caring. They (ideally) all each have their own community of caring as we do. The general public most often does not notice us. This is normal and expected with over seven billion people on our single planet! Of the small group of the general public that does notice us (we are coworkers, volunteers at the same organization, etc.), the majority of people are agnostic about us (i.e., they have no opinion about us at all). This is normal. They are not invested in our lives and although they may know our names they don’t think much about us at all (we simply are the person that sits at the front desk or brings the files to the meeting, etc.). There are very small general public populations that actively engage with noticing us and having a desire for us to leave (the office, the group, etc.). Remember, the opposite of love is not hate, it is disinterest (they don’t care abut us at all). Thus, on a positive note, those who don’t want us to be there do care about us.  

Definition of ‘Want’:

“: to desire or wish for (something)

: to need (something)

: to be without (something needed)”

Want. (n.d.). Retrieved July 20, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/want

Relating to the situation when “They Don’t Want Me Here”:

1) How do you know this?

Make sure you are not simply projecting your own desire “not to be here” (i.e., telling yourself in your thoughts, “I’m not good enough. No one likes me. I am a failure.”, etc.) onto other people who actually do not either notice you or do not care about you. 

2) Why do you care?

Why would you give any weight to your decision to people who don’t notice you or don’t care about you? If someone does care about you in a negative manner (they are jealous of you, they don’t like you, they think you are an idiot, etc.), take it is a compliment that the are spending their time thinking about you but do not spend your time thinking about them.  You have your community of caring who support you and embrace you. The general public is not your community of caring. You would be a narcissist to think that in a competitive (and at times complementary) world that other people would defer their desires and wishes to your desires and wishes. If someone else thinks that you will defer your wants (to be here) to their wants (that you are not here), they are misguided narcissists. 

3) Do you want to be there?

 

If you want to be here, be here. If you don’t want to be here, don’t. You decide.

 

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SHOW NOTES: Our FINANCIAL FIERCENESS!™ series integrates our financial goals into our development plan for surpassing our goals. We deal with the specific issues we need to explore in order to achieve (and surpass) our financial goals. This specific episode is “Getting ‘Rich’ is Easy. Staying ‘Rich’ is Hard. Why that is and how to beat the odds.”

As we have previously discussed in other programs, wealth is relative. A person will determine if they feel wealthy (or “rich”) based on their upbringing, culture, ethics, religious, spiritual, education, philosophical and political frameworks. If a person has more resources (or appears to have more resources) than other peers, it tends to make them feel wealthy. If a person has less resources (or appears to have less resources) than peers, they feel poor. I have known people who made $2,000 USD a month and felt very wealthy (as their peers made much less on fixed incomes of around $1,000 USD a month). I also have known people who made $60,000 USD a month who felt poor (as their peers made $100,000 USD a month). 

Once we have our basic necessities met in life, there is a universal human tendency to judge our economic ‘success’ relative to peer groups. This leads many people to try to spend money to seemingly match their peer behavior (i.e., keeping up with the Joneses). This is a large part of why people who have resources (aka “rich”) do not keep them. 

Consider:  

- “On average, 90 percent of lottery winners go through their winnings in five years or less.” (http://bucks.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/12/03/a-financial-plan-for-misbehaving-lottery-winners/?_php=true&_&_r=0)

 - “Sports Illustrated estimated in 2009 that 78 percent of NFL players are bankrupt or facing serious financial stress within two years of ending their playing careers and that 60 percent of NBA players are broke within five years of retiring from the game.” (http://usatoday30.usatoday.com/sports/story/2012-04-22/Pro-athletes-and-financial-trouble/54465664/1)

How does someone receive individually incredibly large sums of money (by almost any measure) winning the lottery or signing a contract as a professional athlete and end up broke? There is a documentary I found really insightful that I watched about former professional athletes being broke at http://espn.go.com/30for30/film?page=broke. How does someone receive tens of millions or even hundreds of millions of dollars and end up broke within five years? It is a very simple answer, they spent the money. 

So, taking even an extremely rare occurrence where someone overnight “gets rich” (by winning the lottery) it is harder to stay rich than it was to get rich. Join in with this show as we discuss why we (humans) make it so hard for ourselves to enjoy resources long term and instead give them away in the short term. Desires for attention, affection, admiration and power are the keys to your ability to either beat the odds (and have a lifetime of economic comfort) or end up broke (with memories of fleeting times in the past when there was an opportunity to stay rich). They say it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. Maybe. I do not agree that it is better to have been “rich” and lost it all than to have never been “rich” at all. It is very difficult to “go back” to economic instability and lack of opportunity after experiencing a lifestyle of economic opportunity. 

 

So, let’s make sure that you have a plan to go forward financially and never go back!

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SHOW NOTES: In the MYTH WARRIORS™ series we are targeting ideas to begin to assess whether they are credible or not. We are warriors fighting to establish clarity between what is accurate and what is simply a myth (or falsehood) in life. All of this is in furtherance of our mission to surpass our goals! In this episode we explore, “Stereotype Threat does not exist.”

What is a Stereotype?

"Stereotypes are widely held cultural beliefs that are resistant to change." 

(Block, Koch, Liberman, Merriweather, & Roberson, 2011)

What is Stereotype Threat?

“The phenomenon known as “stereotype threat.” Members of groups believed to be academically inferior — African-American and Latino students enrolled in college, or female students in math and science courses — score much lower on tests when reminded beforehand of their race or gender. […] found that black students performed comparably with white students when told that the test they were taking was “a laboratory problem-solving task.” Black students scored much lower, however, when they were instructed that the test was meant to measure their intellectual ability. In effect, the prospect of social evaluation suppressed these students’ intelligence.”

Minorities aren’t the only ones vulnerable to stereotype threat. We all are. A group of people notably confident about their mathematical abilities — white male math and engineering majors who received high scores on the math portion of the SAT — did worse on a math test when told that the experiment was intended to investigate “why Asians appear to outperform other students on tests of math ability.” (PAUL, 2012)

Does it exist?

Other resources - 

Dr. Kenneth Clark Conducting the “Doll Test” at http://www.loc.gov/exhibits/brown/brown-brown.html

Stereotype Threat Widens Achievement Gap at 

http://www.apa.org/research/action/stereotype.aspx

Join in as I discuss why it does exist (for everyone) and why this is show title is, indeed, a myth. 

References

Block, C. J., Koch, S. M., Liberman, B. E., Merriweather, T. J., & Roberson, L. (2011). Contending with stereotype threat at work: A model of long-term responses. Counseling Psychologist, 39, 570–600.

PAUL, A. M. (2012, October 6). It’s Not Me, It’s You. The New York Times [New York], p. SR9. Retrieved from http://www.nytimes.com/2012/10/07/opinion/sunday/intelligence-and-the-stereotype-threat.html?_r=1&

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SHOW NOTES: This HELP! Situation™ series addresses challenges, obstacles and problems (real or perceived) that are preventing a person from surpassing their goals! What is holding you back from surpassing your goals? In this episode we examine the issue, "I Keep Getting Fired From Jobs! What Should I Do?”

Why are you fired? 
Be honest. No excuses and/ or rationalizations. I have been fired (several decades ago when I was working minimum wage jobs in food service and retail).  I was fired due to my soft skills (attitude). I was always asking questions and trying to "improve" things. My job was to carry out the established processes and procedures and not to try to reengineer and change those established parameters. My desires to enhance and modify practices are fantastic assets as a business consultant. They were not the right skills for those jobs. I either needed to change my skills or change my job ( or I would keep getting fired). 

Hard Skills - The content of the job itself.
Soft Skills - The skills that are required to be able to deliver the job requirements (time management, organization, attitude, self discipline, etc.).

What do you want? 
Decide how you want to work (indoor, outdoor, day shift, night shift, on a computer, not on a computer, alone, with lots of other people, etc.). You may be unemployable (and need to be a contractor or entrepreneur). 
 
Only you will be able to make the best decision for yourself.

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series wherein we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). The act of engaging in professional endeavors, in any capacity (i.e., as an employee, employer, entrepreneur, contractor, volunteer, paid, full time, part time, intermittently, etc.) is an expression of our ideas and creative talents (“art”) . This episode is, "Where is your 'Idea Generation Location'?" (NOTE: it can be anywhere, even the shower!)

Definition of Idea-

: a thought, plan, or suggestion about what to do

: an opinion or belief

: something that you imagine or picture in your mind

Idea. (n.d.). Retrieved July 12, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/idea

Generation

2b :  the process of coming or bringing into being 

Generation. (n.d.). Retrieved July 12, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/generation

Location

: a place or position

Location. (n.d.). Retrieved July 12, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/location 

You will commit to yourself and dedicate a location to listen to and access your ideas.

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SHOW NOTES: In the MYTH WARRIORS™ series we are targeting ideas to begin to assess whether they are credible or not. We are warriors fighting to establish clarity between what is accurate and what is simply a myth (or falsehood) in life. All of this is in furtherance of our mission to surpass our goals! In this episode we delve into the somewhat deceptively simple concept of, You Get No More Out of Life Than You Demand.” - Edythe Heslip

Full disclosure, Ms. Edythe Heslip (née Edythe Eulalia Boyd, Anderson Heslip, June 25, 1924 - March 3, 2010) was my paternal grandmother and an incredibly powerful person. She was a businesswoman who took over a prosperous family funeral home that she inherited from her uncle.  She managed that business for several more decades (my uncle was the mortician). She was also an educator, teaching elementary school for decades in public school and teaching in Head Start programs after she retired from full time teaching.  

She taught me about small business ownership including using SBA loans, real estate investing, and the importance of having a "private banker" (who you would have a relationship at the bank to ensure efficient service and loans when needed). She was one of the most forceful personalities I have ever encountered and she lived vividly, vibrantly and entirely her way. There was not a joke left untold, a dance left uncompleted or a good time missed in her life. I miss her terribly and she shaped much of my perspective and tenacity in life. She always said, "Go for it Girl!" with such certainty that you never doubted what was possible. I used to call her right after every national and international television show I did (she loved to watch me on CNN, MSNBC and FOX News) from the limo and she was the best critic and fan. She insisted that I get in as many big smiles as possible and not yield to anyone else (to let them drown me out). She died several years ago and suffered from Alzheimer's at the end of her time here. 

She was stubborn in the best sense of the word and was someone whose zest for life and personal power ensured her the best possible life (although she faced intense racism, sexism and societal forces that tried their best to deny her what she wanted). She demanded to be treated with respect and she was. Don't take my word for it. Please read this interview with her in the archives at Baylor University at http://digitalcollections.baylor.edu/cdm/ref/collection/buioh/id/2616. My grandmother and her sister, my Great-Aunt Marjorie Pryor (who was another phenomenal human being that I share about in other programs), were truly originals.

She always said, "You Get No More Out Of Life Than You Demand." She meant it. She did it. You can to.  


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SHOW NOTES: Our MANAGEMENT MAGICIANS™ series is dedicated to those exceptional few who step forward to serve as guides, sages and responsible parties for others in pursuit of the greater good for society and their organization! These are managers who redefine their job titles to ensure their own personal contentment as they motivate, monitor and mentor their team members each day. The “magic” that a talented manager is able to create changes their lives, the lives of their team members and ripples throughout the larger society. We salute their sacrifices and share their techniques and “secrets” to achieving sustained positive experiences for themselves, clients, customers, peers, team members, and the public at large! 

In this episode, our topic is, "Being Powerful is Like Being a Lady. If You Have to Say You Are, You Aren’t.” This quote is attributed to Margaret Thatcher, former British Prime Minister (http://www.usatoday.com/story/news/world/2013/04/08/thatcher-quotes/2062835/). 

This concept is similar to "Speak Softly and Carry a Big Stick" (attributed to former US President Theodore Roosevelt at http://www.loc.gov/exhibits/treasures/trm139.html).

The idea is that if you are loudly pronouncing your qualities and character, "I am attractive", "I am in charge", "I am powerful", "I am smart", etc., you aren't. You don't pronounce power, you possess it, project it and wield it. 

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our EDUCATORS’ EDEN™ series wherein we explore the paradise that the most passionate, creative and committed educators create for themselves, their students, peers, administrations and institutions!

“There is only one good, knowledge, and one evil, ignorance.” - Socrates.
This series acknowledges the power of education! Those fortunate enough to be educators share knowledge to ensure that their love of learning is able to flourish and thrive in a version of eden! Teaching (any students, in any format, in any setting) is honorable and one of the most special endeavors that humans engage in. “Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.” - Nelson Mandela

Our show topic is, “Sage on the stage? Good, bad, obsolete?”

Definition of SAGE:
1 a :  wise through reflection and experience
2 :  proceeding from or characterized by wisdom, prudence, and good judgment 
Sage. (n.d.). Retrieved July 12, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/sage

The effective and contented modern sage on the stage must combine the love of knowledge with the love of sharing of knowledge (especially the challenge of communicating complex concepts to learners with no understanding and/ or interest in the material). Technology is a tool for use in teaching as other prior tools have been (physical textbooks, in class films, etc.).

BOTTOM LINE: Sage on the stage first, and then guide on the side second.

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SHOW NOTES: JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS: “RECIPROCITY! Is it REQUIRED for Professional Success?”

This episode is part of our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series wherein we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). Our episode topic is, “RECIPROCITY! Is it REQUIRED for Professional Success?”

This show brings this song lyric to mind, “Tell me who I have to be to get some reciprocity.” (Song: Ex-factor, Album: The Miseducation Of Lauryn Hill, Artist: Lauryn Hill, Songwriters: SCOTT, THOMAS WRIGHT / HILL, LAURYN N.)

Definition of Reciprocity:

“: a situation or relationship in which two people or groups agree to do something similar for each other, to allow each other to have the same rights, etc. : a reciprocal arrangement or relationship” 
Reciprocity. (n.d.). Retrieved July 5, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/reciprocity

Bottom Line: If you actions are not reciprocated, STOP. WAIT. If your actions are never reciprocated, that shows you that you have to recalibrate your choices. Either give voluntarily with no expectation of being treated in the same manner in return, or cease to do more than the minimum required by the relationship and circumstances. DO NOT GIVE AND THEN GROW ENRAGED THAT YOU ARE NOT TREATED WELL IN RETURN. You chose this unbalanced relationship.

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our FINANCIAL FIERCENESS!™ series! This series integrates our financial goals into our development plan for surpassing our goals. We deal with the specific issues we need to explore in order to achieve (and surpass) our financial goals. In this episode we are examining the issue of “Why I LOVE Paying Taxes! Seriously."

Sharing. It is not something that comes easily to all of us humans!

Definition of SHARE:
": to let someone else have or use a part of (something that belongs to you)"
Share. (n.d.). Retrieved July 13, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/share

Depending on where we live on the planet, what we believe (in terms of ethics, politics, religion, etc.) and what are resources we have, we approach the concept of sharing differently. Specifically, we perceive voluntary sharing (a.k.a. charity) and mandatory sharing (a.k.a. taxation) differently. 

In the USA, federal income taxes are dependent on resources (how much and what type of classification). Thus, several decades ago when I earned minimum wage at my employment (and had no other assets or income), I did not pay any federal income taxes (due to earning so little income). I now pay federal income taxes and LOVE it! Very simply, I love having more resources and one of the consequences of having more resources is that I share more of them (voluntary and mandatory).  I am grateful to have the opportunity to have the resources and choices that I currently have!

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series wherein we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). Our episode topic is, “Replace ‘TRY’ with ‘DO’!”

Words matter. "I'm going to try to...(get a new job, buy a house, get in shape, complete my degree, etc.). What does that really mean? 

Definition of TRY:

": to make an effort to do something : to attempt to accomplish or complete something"

Try. (n.d.). Retrieved July 13, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/try

Definition of DO:

to bring to pass :  carry out

Do. (n.d.). Retrieved July 13, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/do

When you say that you are "going to try" or that you are "trying" it does not mean anything. It leads to confusion as some people will erroneously interpret your language to mean that you are going to do what you are referencing (and will be frustrated when you do not take action). Other people will interpret your language to simply mean that you had a thought about the issue but that you are not going to be expected to follow through and complete the task. 

 

Take ownership of your language and clarify your terminology. If you mean that you are going to actually complete a task, replace the word "try" with "do!"

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SHOW NOTES: In the MYTH WARRIORS™ series we are targeting ideas to begin to assess whether they are credible or not. The topic for this episode is, “If It Was EASY, Everyone Would Do It.”

Definition of EASY- 

“: not hard to do : not difficult

: free from pain, trouble, or worry

: not hurried”

Easy. (n.d.). Retrieved June 16, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/easy

Do you expect things to be easy? If so, why? What is the joy in accomplishing something that is easy? 

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our FINANCIAL FIERCENESS!™ series! This episode is,”Why ultra-wealthy (beyond “rich”) people love bargains (and why you should too)!”

Have you ever heard the stereotype that rich people are cheap? 

CONSIDER:

- "the biggest barrier to becoming rich is living like you're rich before you are." 

Read more at http://www.kiplinger.com/slideshow/spending/T037-S001-frugal-habits-of-the-super-rich/index.html?ss_last=3#XAd5FFCGeo4gCucZ.99

“Being cheap helps you to become rich. It doesn’t happen by accident. And, as many wealthy, un-flashy people know personally, being cheap helps you to remain comfortably well-off. […] it’s the wannabes—the “aspirationals”—who are always drive new cars, wearing designer labels, dropping big bucks on swanky dinners. Often, these folks aren’t rich, though they try so desperately to appear so. They don’t have nearly as much money in the bank compared to the prudent, ascetic Warren Buffett types who have money to a large extent because they don’t spend it.”

- http://business.time.com/2010/01/04/guess-whos-cheap-people-who-know-lots-about-money/ 

 

Let's see why bargains are so popular amongst people who can afford to purchase the most expansive products!

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SHOW NOTES:  In our HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared. This episode is, "How do I know when to 'Never Give Up!' versus when to 'Let it Go.'?"

The “answer” to this question is to “Never Give Up” when positive outcomes are occurring the majority of the time (i.e., “it is working”) and to “Let It Go” when negative outcomes are occurring the majority of the time (i.e., “it is not working”). 

How do you figure this formula (if positive outcomes are occurring the majority of the time or negative ones are instead) out? You must make a written inventory. Do not trust a mental list as you are going to be heavily influenced by what you have as a predetermined result. For example, if you are trying to determine if you should never give up your current job, if you are frightened of change you will potentially skew your inventory to favor a majority of positive of outcomes. Committing the inventory of outcomes to writing will help (but not 100% prevent) “wishful thinking.” 

Making decisions is difficult. If it was easy there would be no need for help or advice and everyone would be content and happy in their lives. I do want to remind you to include how you feel (whether it is happy, sad, excited, anxious, etc.) in your written inventory as that individual emotional ROI is extremely important. 

You have to make a new inventory on a schedule (e.g., every six months) to ensure that you are continuing to make the choices that will result in the best outcomes. So, let’s get started today on answering what you should do in your life with this episode! Join me as we discuss when to “Never Give Up” and when to “Let It Go.” 

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series wherein we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). Our episode topic is, ”Are you a prisoner of your own hope (i.e. unhappy & hoping for change)?”

HOPE: “to want something to happen or be true and think that it could happen or be true”

Hope. (n.d.). Retrieved June 19, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/hope

We must have hope to be able to imagine and envision our goals. It is required. The challenge is that we have to balance and combine hope with action. Hope + Action = Positive Outcome

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SHOW NOTES:  This is our EDUCATORS’ EDEN™ series wherein we explore the paradise that the most passionate, creative and committed educators create for themselves, their students, peers, administrations and institutions! This specific episode is, “Teaching the Underachiever!” 

Underachiever: "someone (such as a student or athlete) who does not perform as well or work as hard as he or she can Underachiever."  (n.d.). Retrieved June 18, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/underachiever 

Why?

A) Capable and unmotivated students. Or;

B) Motivated and unskilled students.

BEWARE: “The phenomenon known as “stereotype threat.” Members of groups believed to be academically inferior — African-American and Latino students enrolled in college, or female students in math and science courses — score much lower on tests when reminded beforehand of their race or gender. […] found that black students performed comparably with white students when told that the test they were taking was “a laboratory problem-solving task.” Black students scored much lower, however, when they were instructed that the test was meant to measure their intellectual ability. In effect, the prospect of social evaluation suppressed these students’ intelligence.” (http://www.nytimes.com/2012/10/07/opinion/sunday/intelligence-and-the-stereotype-threat.html?_r=0)

 

What should you do?

1) Combat your stereotypes (what you think about students). 

2) Combat stereotype threat (what students think about themselves). 

3) Create an environment that addresses attributional style issues.

4) Demonstrate consistent behavior that establishes and confirms the intrinsic value of your students and your belief in their capabilities.

 

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SHOW NOTES: In the MYTH WARRIORS™ series we are targeting ideas to begin to assess whether they are credible or not. The topic for this episode is, “Taking college courses online is easy!”

This is a myth. If you already have completed one or more college degrees, it is a myth yet you have a higher probability of success with this modality of college classes (as college classes are not easy whether online or on campus).

Is it “true” that many people are taking online college courses? Yes.

“According to Columbia University’s Community College Research Center, for example, about seven million students — about a third of all those enrolled in college — are enrolled in what the center describes as traditional online courses.” (http://www.nytimes.com/2013/02/19/opinion/the-trouble-with-online-college.html?_r=0)

If everyone is doing it (i.e., it is popular), it must be easy, right? Wrong.

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SHOW NOTES: In our HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared. This episode is, “I Am Addicted to Approval (from everyone)!”

What is the definition of “Approval?”

: the belief that something or someone is good or acceptable : a good opinion of someone or something

: permission to do something : acceptance of an idea, action, plan, etc.

Approval. (n.d.). Retrieved June 10, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/approval

 

What is the definition of “Addicted?”

: a strong and harmful need to regularly have something (such as a drug) or do something (such as gamble)

: an unusually great interest in something or a need to do or have something

Addiction. (n.d.). Retrieved June 10, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/addiction

What is the reason for the the addiction to approval (from everyone)? 

It is the core belief that, “I am not good (enough).” So, you try to “fix it” by seeking out other people to make you feel “good enough” (but they are not able to counter your internal belief so you stay stuck in pain).

How to “fix it?”

Change your belief to, “I am good (enough).”

How?

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series wherein we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). Our topic is, “Lead. Follow. Or, get out of the way.”

Who originated this quote? Thomas Paine? US General George S. Patton?

What does the quote mean? That we must take responsibility for those instances when we are driven to lead with our vision. We must invest the time and resources to define, refine and communicate our vision to others. We have to ensure that we are treating ourselves and others with kindness and respect.

We should be leaders, followers and those who get out of the way at different times in our lives. When we are followers, we must take responsibility and refuse all offers for us to lead. We are in this role to balance our lives and must insist that others understand and accept that. When the role of follower is excessive (in terms of time or other resources), we must take responsibility for our decision to get out of the way. We should not feel obligated to everything. It is healthy to “get out of the way” when we decide that an endeavor is not for us. 

CAUTION: If you think that you are “the leader” in everything in your life (work, family, hobbies, etc.), you are not. You are a micro-managing [...]

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series wherein we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). Our episode topic is, "Who told you that you weren’t good enough? Why do you believe them?”

Who is your source for the information (that you are not “good enough”)?

Are they a credible source?

Definition of Credible:

: able to be believed : reasonable to trust or believe

: good enough to be effective

Credible. (n.d.). Retrieved June 15, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/credible

What is their motive for telling you this? 

Are they trying to take advantage of you? 

Are they trying to sell you something? 

Are they using you for their own motive?

Why do you believe this information (that you are not “good enough”)? 

How many other items of information are they accurate about? 

How “successful” are their lives? 

Are they happy? 

Are they loved (by [...]

 

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our EDUCATORS’ EDEN™ series wherein we explore the paradise that the most passionate, creative and committed educators create for themselves, their students, peers, administrations and institutions! This specific episode is, “How to Handle Grade Disputes (I never got a ___ grade before)!”

In some cultures student grade disputes are rare, in some they are nonexistent and in some they are frequent. The educator is not able to control the social norms and cultural expectations of an entire locale. Other than an educator selecting where they will teach, they must accept the schema that is operational in that culture in regards to educators and disputing their renderings (e.g., grades). If an educator selects to teach in a locale where student grade disputes occur, they must accept that there is nothing that they will be able to do to prevent them. They are part of the cultural expectation.

There are steps that the educator may take to be optimally prepared for them and to remove all anxiety or concern on their part.

1) You were a student. What were your worst memories of poor grading and feedback? Use those as models of what NOT to do. 
2) Grading is sharing and showing your work. For example, I provide multiple modes of grading and feedback (voice notes, text detailed feedback regarding each aspect of the rubric elements and written embedded comments in substantive papers).  
3) Consistently demonstrate and illustrate to your students your joy and passion for your work.

NOTE: If you are teaching in an institution that has unethical/criminal leadership that you are not able to educate in a legal or ethical manner. You will have to relocate to an ethical and legal organization to be able to do so.

Document everything that you can in writing. Keep records organized.
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SHOW NOTES: In our HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared. This episode is, “Something AWESOME happened in my life! But no one else is happy for me.” 

Good times! Something AWESOME has happened! This is one of those moments that make life exquisite! CONGRATULATIONS! 

Yet, “no one else is happy” for you. So, the soaring joy you were feeling crashes and burns. Now, you are sad, disappointed and hurt. 

-Are you being accurate with the assertion that “no one” is happy for you? Are you taking for granted your grandparents (i.e., “they don’t count as they have to be nice to you.”)? If you have a grandmother that is genuinely happy for you, be grateful. She does not “have to” be happy for you and many people have grandmothers who aren’t.

-Are you hurt that “someone special” who you want to be happy for you isn’t (boss, new boyfriend, best friend, etc.)? Stop it. 

-Even if you authentically do not have anyone else who is happy for you (e.g., all of your relatives are dead, etc.), you are still inaccurate. You are a person and thus you are someone. Thus, at least one person is happy for you! Unless you are not happy for yourself. Are you happy for yourself? How did you celebrate with yourself? 

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SHOW NOTES: Our MANAGEMENT MAGICIANS™ series is dedicated to those exceptional few who step forward to serve as guides, sages and responsible parties for others in pursuit of the greater good for society and their organization! In this episode, our topic is, “I am Lucky! My Team is Marvelous! How do I get them to stay?”

First, we don’t plan on “luck” (if it happens fine, that is just an extra bonus in life)! So, let’s discard that part of the show title (it is usually used for self-deprecation and humility). Good choices have played a large part in having a “marvelous team.” Let’s focus on those aspects of the situation. Here are 10 tips for ensuring maximum employee engagement and retention (aka, how to get them to stay):

1) It is about them, not you.

2) Repeat #1.

3) Give them control of their lives.

4) Get out of their way.

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SHOW NOTES: In the MYTH WARRIORS™ series we are targeting ideas to begin to assess whether they are credible or not. The topic for this episode is, “Trying to lean on someone who bends is futile.”

In many shows we share quotes from famous (or infamous) or notable individuals. Yet, information comes from all types of sources. I was reading a public forum about medical sleep disorders and found the quote that is the show topic at http://forums.narcolepsynetwork.org/index.php?/topic/6237-breaking-up-cuz-he-just-doesnt-care/.

We are not evaluating the credibility of this public internet discussion forum, but instead are assessing the content of the assertion. Is it a myth that when we try to lean on (emotionally or physically) someone who bends that it will be pointless (or futile)?

If our goal is to lean on someone and remain standing (literally or figuratively), it is logical that if I lean on someone for support (to remain standing) and they bend that I will fall. Thus, it is futile to lean on something that is not stable enough to support (or hold) me. But, how do we know who will bend and who will hold us? The most helpful answer is [...]

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SHOW NOTES: In our HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared. This episode is, “I went to school…but I never finished! How can I use the education that I currently have?”

The short “answer” is that you can’t. You need to go back and complete school. The value in a credential is in obtaining the credential. Now that we have answered what to do (go back to school), the next step for you to determine is how (what school, when, etc.)!

Why?

Educational attainment in the United States, Age 25 and Over (2013)

Education    Percentage

High school graduate    88.15%

Some college    58.33%

Associate's and/or Bachelor's degree    41.50%

Bachelor's degree    31.66%

Master's and/or Doctorate and/or professional degree    11.57%

Doctorate and/or professional degree    3.16%

Doctorate    1.68%

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series wherein we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). Our episode topic is, “Steve Jobs: Legacy? Lesson? Stay Hungry/ Stay Foolish?” 

Few business leaders are widely known. Even fewer receive an outpouring of emotion for their work. Fewer still are publicly mourned. Steve Jobs is one of those who left a legacy. What lessons may we learn from his journey through life? (Read about that journey at [...]

 

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SHOW NOTES: Our MANAGEMENT MAGICIANS™ series is dedicated to those exceptional few who step forward to serve as guides, sages and responsible parties for others in pursuit of the greater good for society and their organization! In this episode, our topic is, “How much of a ‘Leader” does a ‘Manager’ need to be?”

What’s the answer? 0? 100? Imagine a four year old child as a leader over a 34 year old manager of a household (aka parent). The four year old decides what to eat, when to go to sleep, what to wear, etc.. All the 34 year old manager does is conduct the tasks to carry out what the four year old has decided (drive them to the restaurant, pay for things, etc.). The 34 year old asks the four old to do things (i.e., for permission to leave a restaurant, wear a coat, go to bed, etc.). This is not only an imaginary scenario. It is a reality in many households. Sad.

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SHOW NOTES: Our HR HEROES HANGOUT™ series is dedicated to the unsung heroes that ensure that organizations achieve and sustain maximum human capital competitive advantage! In this episode our topic is, “Whose ‘side’ is HR really on? Employer or Employee?” 

HR is a glamorous and exciting field (it really is) where every single aspect of an organization is addressed. It deals with money (compensation, promotions, benefits, etc.), power (promotions, etc.) and respect (the concept of being valued). Our HR HEROES understand that they are not a peripheral “administrative” entity but are instead the very heart of the organization! 

I have been asked whether our show topic is a “trick question.” It is not!

Tips:

Law = What You Have To Do

Policy and Procedure = What You Have Decided to Do (organization specific)

Ethics = What You Should Do

 

HR is on the ‘side’ of what is best for the organization itself. 

1) Ask, “What’s the rule? [Law first, policy and procedure next and finally ethics].

2) Ask, “What is going [...]

 

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series wherein we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). Our episode topic is, “Separate the probable (what is most likely to happen) from the possible (might be able to happen).”

Definition of Possible:  

“able to be done

: able to happen or exist

: able or suited to be or to become something specified

Full Definition of POSSIBLE

1

a :  being within the limits of ability, capacity, or realization <a possible but difficult task>

b :  being what may be conceived, be done, or occur according to nature, custom, or manners <the best possible care> <the worst possible circumstance>

2

a :  being something that may or may not occur <a possible surprise visit>

b :  being something that may or may not be true or actual <possible explanation>

3

:  having an indicated potential <a possible housing site>” 

Possible. (n.d.). Retrieved May 31, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/possible

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SHOW NOTES: In the MYTH WARRIORS™ series we are targeting ideas to begin to assess whether they are credible or not (i.e., they are a myth, fallacy or even a lie). The topic for this episode is, “You are not a helpless victim.”

Helpless definition?

“: not protected : not able to defend yourself : unable to do something to make a situation, task, etc., better or easier : not able to be controlled” Helpless. (n.d.). Retrieved May 31, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/helpless

Learned helplessness definition? 

“[L]earned helplessness, in psychology, a mental state in which an organism forced to bear aversive stimuli, or stimuli that are painful or otherwise unpleasant, becomes unable or unwilling to avoid subsequent encounters with those stimuli, even if they are “escapable,” presumably because it has learned that it cannot control the situation. […]Seligman coined the term learned helplessness to describe the expectation that outcomes are uncontrollable. [...P]rior learning can result in a drastic change in behaviour and seeking to explain why individuals may accept and remain passive in negative situations despite their clear ability to change them.” Learned helplessness. (2014). In Encyclopædia Britannica. Retrieved from http://www.britannica.com/EBchecked/topic/1380861/learned-helplessness

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our FINANCIAL FIERCENESS!™ series! Our FINANCIAL FIERCENESS!™ series integrates our financial goals into our overall strategic development plan for surpassing our goals. We deal with the specific issues we need to explore in order to achieve (and surpass) our financial goals. This episode is, “Why am I always living paycheck to paycheck even when I get salary increases?”


Budgets?
Be cautious about budgets. People may create “ideal” (or fantasy) budgets. The goal is attaining and sustaining financial independence so you need to increase your income (and income producing assets) and lower your expenses. 

The title of this episode states that there is already more income yet they are still paycheck to paycheck. Thus, we should immediately focus on expenses. Remember, the path to financial dependance (aka “broke”) is to spend more money when you earn more money. Instead, you must simultaneously work to increase income (or revenue) while decreasing expenses. Focusing on decreasing expenses, you must do the opposite of the inclination (i.e., I got a raise so I can get the bigger satellite package, etc.). 

Money Days?
This is my term for when I go through all of my expenses and cut costs (or increase my money that I have possession of). I take all of my required expenses (utilities, etc.) and my desired expenses (cell phone, etc.). I usually take 1-3 of the total list on each Money Day and do the following:
1) Call the vendor.
2) Have a timid demeanor.
3) State, “I am not able to afford this. Will you please help me lower my bill?
4) I tell the customer service agent that I don’t want to cancel my service but I am just unable to afford it. If they do not make any acceptable reductions, I will then go to the cancellation department (usually an agent trained in retention of customers who will be able to offer better savings to me).
5) Add up all of the money that I have saved each Money Day!

Make the following commitment to yourself: I will pay myself money that I was giving away and I will move closer to attaining and/ or maintaining financial independence! 

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series wherein we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). Our episode topic is, “Other people's craziness has not managed to make me crazy.” - Lucille Clifton

Here is the full quote in context: ”I do not feel inhibited or bound by what I am. That does not mean that I have never had bad scenes relating to being Black and / or a woman, it means that other people's craziness has not managed to make me crazy." (http://www.oregonlive.com/books/index.ssf/2012/10/poetry_punctuated_with_poise.html)

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SHOW NOTES: In our HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared with me. This episode is, “People tell me that I am ‘too intense!’ What should I do?” 

“Full Definition of INTENSE

1

a :  existing in an extreme degree <the excitement was intense> <intense pain>

b :  having or showing a characteristic in extreme degree <intense colors>

2

:  marked by or expressive of great zeal, energy, determination, or concentration <intense effort>

3

a :  exhibiting strong feeling or earnestness of purpose <an intense student>

b :  deeply felt”

Intense. (n.d.). Retrieved June 1, 2014, from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/intense

 

Solution Process?

What are the negative outcomes? 

What are the positive outcomes?

Are there more negative or positive outcomes?

 

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SHOW NOTES: In the MYTH WARRIORS™ series we are targeting ideas to begin to assess whether they are credible or not (i.e., they are a myth, fallacy or even a lie). The target for this episode is, “We cannot create what we cannot imagine.”

Imagine: “Form a mental image or concept of:”  (http://www.oxforddictionaries.com/us/definition/american_english/imagine) Create: “Bring (something) into existence:” (http://www.oxforddictionaries.com/us/definition/american_english/create?q=create)

Are we able to bring something into existence that we are unable to form a mental image or concept of? No. 

One of the challenges in my mentoring and coaching practice has been working with clients who put up the wall, “I don’t know how to do that!” Once a client states that they have not done something and do not want to do something it is virtually impossible to [...]

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SHOW NOTES:  This episode is part of our EDUCATORS’ EDEN™ series wherein we explore the paradise that the most passionate, creative and committed educators create for themselves, their students, peers, administrations and institutions! This specific episode is, “Teaching the Overachiever!”

- Overachievers have their own internal standards and expectations for what is “good enough.” Sharing data with them regarding collective class performance will help assure the overachiever that they are performing “well enough.” They often do not understand how atypical their individual expectations are (relative to the average student performance) and are often worried that everyone else is “doing better” than they are. Any anonymous class data that helps them better understand the real life performance of their peers will be helpful for them.

-They will usually self-identify (detailed questions, requests for clarification, sit at front of classroom, reach out prior to the start of class start with questions and concerns, etc.).

-Educators must calibrate their interaction to ensure that they are “challenged” and are not bored. Supplemental content, are additional interaction are methods to keep them engaged.

-They are fastidious regarding requirements and grading feedback. Educators must provide high quality and quantity feedback. 

-CAUTION: Some overachievers may be unrealistic regarding “perfection” and/ or may be self-critical. They need support and guidance helping them place activities in context (e.g., grades do not define you, have fun, etc.). 

The overachiever may pose novel questions that enrich the educator skill set. Embrace your overachievers! Ensure that you are explicit, transparent, consistent and customized with all of your content, communication and interaction with this set of scholars!

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our FINANCIAL FIERCENESS!™ series! Our FINANCIAL FIERCENESS!™ series integrates our financial goals into our overall strategic development plan for surpassing our goals. This episode is, “What ‘Rich’ families know about college that ‘Poor’ families don’t.”

Education = Economic Opportunity: “Rich” families know that and ensure that they and their children obtain degrees from the most competitive colleges possible. Thus, the “rich” get richer.

Consider:
At Harvard, 45.6% of undergraduates come from families with incomes above $200,000 — in other words, incomes in the top 3.8% of all American households. (http://www.forbes.com/sites/maggiemcgrath/2013/11/27/the-challenge-of-being-poor-at-americas-richest-colleges/)

- Americans with four-year college degrees made 98 percent more an hour on average in 2013 than people without a degree. That’s up from 89 percent five years earlier, 85 percent a decade earlier and 64 percent in the early 1980s. (http://www.nytimes.com/2014/05/27/upshot/is-college-worth-it-clearly-new-data-say.html?_r=0)

- "Just under three-fifths of those from the no-degree families who started college reported finishing it, compared with roughly 70 percent of those from both two- and one-degree families. […] "In the old days, say the 1980s, the parental income predicted children's success," he said. "Now the [parental] educational variable appears to be more powerful than income." Studies, Carnevale said, suggest that parents' educational attainment shapes outcomes for children through a "steady drumbeat" of attitudes and experiences." (http://www.theatlantic.com/education/archive/2014/04/are-college-degrees-inherited/360532/)
Would you rather earn $827 per week or $1,714 per week? (http://www.bls.gov/emp/ep_chart_001.htm)
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SHOW NOTES: We all know that no one is perfect. We all have walked an individual path to arrive where we are today in life. If you want to know how to get where you want to go, keep walking. Asking another person how they accomplished their goals is not going to give you “the answer” to how to accomplish your goals. It may help motivate you to keep working towards your goals, but you are living a unique life and your path to success is unique for you. 

We all are on our unique life paths. You are the expert on your life. 

People have shared with me that they found it illuminating and/ or motivating for me to divulge my explicit failures and how I responded. Thus, this series, FAILURE FLASHBACK!™ exists. In it, I share some of the tools and processes that I have used to face my failures, learn from them, not repeat them and keep walking forward (hopefully) towards future accomplishments. Sometimes people will say to me, “Easy for you to say…you don’t know how hard it is!” I do. I will share with you my past experiences in the hope that it prevents you from experiencing the same. 

This episode addresses my failure resulting in, “I let someone else make me doubt myself.”

How did it happen?

How did I respond?

What solutions did I deploy?

How do I remain vigilant today?

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SHOW NOTES: In our HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared with me. This episode is, “I Am Shy but People Think I Am ‘Stuck-Up’ and a ‘Snob!’ What should I do?”

Some people feel very comfortable sharing a lot of personal information about themselves, with large amounts of people very soon after meeting them. That is great! Other people may calculate what what personal information they share, how much they share, how many people they share it with and how long it will take for them to share. That is also great!

The challenge is that some cultures and settings have expectations that are not met by individuals. What that occurs, there may be a resulting negative outcome to the non-conforming individuals. If someone exceeds the expected quantity and quality of expected personal information, they may accused of “TMI” (too much information) or being “crude” or “having a big mouth.” If someone does not meet the minimum expected quantity and quality of expected personal information, they may be accused of being “stuck-up”, a “snob” or “thinking they are better than other people.” For shy individuals it is more often the latter situation that takes place.

The shy person is warm, friendly and engaging! They just calculate how much personal information to share, when to share and whom to share it with differently than others. They are more conservative with their feelings and expressing private information and beliefs (full disclosure, I am very shy).

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SHOW NOTES: Our MANAGEMENT MAGICIANS™ series is dedicated to the “magic” that a talented manager is able to create. Our topic is, “If my title says manager, why do I feel like a babysitter?”

Competent management is predicated on a healthy, confident, talented individual who is practicing the joyful art of business! If a person is promoted to a management job position but they are insecure, disappointed in themselves, resentful of others, angry, jealous and/ or any other high-risk unmet need, they are unable to function as a manager. Instead, they will work to undercut the confident team members, they will take credit for ideas that are not theirs, they will plot against other staff members and peers.

They will spend the overwhelming majority of their time on personal issues (who they like, who they hate, who is “on their side,” who is “an enemy,” etc.). They will also lament that they are not able to “manage” because they are spending their time as a “babysitter.” They will gleefully share all of the failures and foibles of their peers, subordinates and supervisors. They are ruthless and relentless in their quest to cast themselves in a favorable light and diminish the accomplishments of others.

Stable, confident and satisfied managers are never babysitters (and never feel that way). They are aware that their job is to hire the best, clearly set expectations, nurture their team, continually provide feedback to their team, and other than that they [...]

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series wherein we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). Our episode topic is,  “Why do people do what they do? Because they want to and they are allowed to.”

Why was my team member late to work every day last month? Why did my friend ignore my phone calls? Why did the person I was dating call me ugly? Why did my boss tell me I was a disappointment? Why did the person behind me in line at the store step on my foot? Why did my friend not invite me to their birthday party? Why is my supervisor mean to me? Why does my child refuse to clean up their room? Why does my cousin borrow money from me and never pay me back? Why does the dry cleaner continue to lose my clothes? 

We could on forever asking why about specific situations. The universal core issue is why do people do what they do? The “answer” is, “Because they want to and they are allowed to.” 

We are not able to control what other people want. We are only going to focus on allowing people to behave the way that they do. 

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our FINANCIAL FIERCENESS!™ series! Our FINANCIAL FIERCENESS!™ series integrates our financial goals into our overall strategic development plan for surpassing our goals. This episode is, “Never have only one income stream! DIVERSIFY! (Baskets of Money)”

Diversify: "to change (something) so that it has more different kinds of people or things"
(http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/diversify)

Option 1) No Diversification/ Only 1 income stream:

You have a full time job with a large company. You earn $3,700 USD gross per month ($44,400 USD annual salary). After taxes and other mandatory withholding, you have $2,600 USD per month (your net take home pay). Out of this amount you have to pay all of your necessary bills (utilities, etc.) and ideally you should save a percentage (15% or more is suggested). Then the “extra” leftover money is yours to use at your discretion for fun (entertainment, dining, etc.). You lose your job (layoffs, the firm goes out of business, etc.). Your income is now $0 USD per month. What do you do?

Option 2) Diversification/ More than 1 income stream:

You have a full time job with a large company. You earn $3,700 USD gross per month ($44,400 USD annual salary). After taxes and other mandatory withholding, you have $2,600 USD per month (your net take home pay). In addition, you have 5 rental properties (paid for with no mortgages). The total rental income is $6,000 USD per month. The necessary bills (property tax, insurance, etc.) total $1,850 per month. Your income (for your business or yourself depending on how you structure the ownership of the properties) is $4,150 per month. After taxes (which will vary depending on how you structure owning the properties), and other expenses (maintenance, repairs, etc.), the amount left is $2,500 USD per month. Your total income each month is $2,600 wages + $2,500 income from rental properties. You lose your job. Your income is now $2,500 per month.
Which option do you prefer?

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SHOW NOTES: In the MYTH WARRIORS™ series we are targeting ideas to begin to assess whether they are credible or not (i.e., they are a myth, fallacy or even a lie). The target for this episode is, “Don’t take NO for an answer!” 

When you want something in life you have to go for it! It is your job to overcome objections and turn a “No” into a “Yes.” Quitters never win and winners never quit.

No means No. 

What do you believe?

It is challenging to understand when we are supposed to “push ahead” and take what we want in life and when we are supposed to accept “no” and stop a behavior.

Bottom Line: If you receive one “No” response, you should stop asking that same entity (person, company, college, etc.) for the same thing (i.e., knocking on the same door). If you receive two “No” responses, you must stop asking that same entity for the same thing. It is time to move to another door.

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SHOW NOTES: In our HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared with me. This episode is, “I Feel Invisible.”

Consider:

From the UK

“Employment Law Study Shows Brits Feel Invisible at Work - Brits feel invisible in the workplace at the age of 54, a new study has revealed.” (http://www.slatergordon.co.uk/media-centre/press-releases/2014/02/employment-law-study-reveals-brits-feel-invisible-in-the-workplace/)

From Australia

“[T]he social phenomenon known as "invisible women's syndrome": a condition generally understood to affect women aged from about 45 to 59 – or 2.2 million Australians.” (http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life/the-mysterious-case-of-the-disappearing-women--20130119-2czy8.html) 

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our FINANCIAL FIERCENESS!™ series! This episode is, “Why a “good job” making “good money” will leave you poor.”

A “good job.” Is it the solution to financial insecurity? No. Financial independence is the goal. This is when you have no debt and income from what you own (rental properties, interest, etc.) pays your bills on your necessities (property taxes, utilities, etc.) and provides you with “extra money” for you to use at your discretion (going out to eat, entertainment, etc.). 
Financial dependance (i.e., being “poor”) is when you do not have enough income to pay your necessary bills and provide you with “extra money” to use for fun (discretionary income). There is a limit to how much income you are able to earn from your labor. You are able to increase the variable of how much you earn per hour (based on wages and increased efficiencies), yet you are always limited to how many hours you are able to utilize for labor due to the fact that you are one person. What happens if you “lose” your job? If you don’t have the income (from what you own) to pay your bills, you are financially dependent (or “poor”).

Earning more income at a “good job” is a way to take those wages and buy things (securities, real estate, etc.) that you will own that will generate income for you around the clock. Owning income producing assets is the key to financial independence. So, a “good job” making “good money” is a way to obtain the resources to purchase investment generating assets, but that is all. It is “a means to an end” and not “the end”(the financial goal of independence). 

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SHOW NOTES: In our HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared with me. This episode is, “How do I Handle ‘Frenemies’ (friend/enemy) at Work?”

What is a frenemy?
“A frenemy is a person you spend time with, enjoy talking with, and rely on at work—but you can't completely trust. He or she is so much a part of your working day that a relationship that isn't strictly business between you two is not just assumed—it's unavoidable. And, day in and day out, it's not unpleasant.
But at the same time you have been burned by this person, who hasn't demonstrated the unyielding loyalty and support you'd expect—and get—from an out-and-out friend.”  

(http://www.businessweek.com/stories/2007-06-14/frenemies-at-workbusinessweek-business-news-stock-market-and-financial-advice)

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series wherein we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). Our episode topic is, “We are afraid to care too much, for fear that the other person does not care at all.” - Eleanor Roosevelt (longest serving First Lady of the US)

I have previously shared another Eleanor Roosevelt quote. It is, “We all know people who are so much afraid of pain that they shut themselves up like clams in a shell and, giving out nothing, receive nothing and therefore shrink until life is a mere living death.” - Eleanor Roosevelt

We have all suffered in our own way when it comes to the issue of caring. Some people have “too much” where they feel stifled and smothered by the affection from others. Some people have “too little” where they feel isolated and alone without anyone caring for them. Most people are in the middle where they have some people who have loved and cared for them and others that they wanted to care for them who did not. The stinging burn of having a person that we care for reject us completely (they do not care for us at all) lingers for a lifetime. 

The embarrassment and anger at having risked our hearts and emotions and having our feelings met with stony indifference hurts. Some people decide that they will prevent future pain by not showing that they care for anyone. They build walls around themselves with the goal of protecting themselves from rejection. The challenge is that [...]

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SHOW NOTES: Our LAW LOVER'S LOUNGE™ series addresses a general overview of some of the most important issues to the general public! I have owned a general practice law firm since 1998 in Texas, USA.

There is no client relationship created between this show and Attorney Courtney E. Anderson, or The Law Offices of Courtney E. Anderson (Litigation-Mitigation.com). These disclaimers are very important. The content in these shows is for general educational purposes and is not the delivery of legal services. This episode is, “What are my Free Speech rights at work? Tell me!”
1) What are your Free Speech rights in society at large? Are people legally guaranteed free speech? For example, in the USA the right to Free Speech is in the federal constitution. It states, “AMENDMENT I - Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the government for a redress of grievances.” (http://www.law.cornell.edu/constitution/first_amendment).
What are the Free Speech rights in practice (i.e., what happens to people in real life who engage in unpopular speech)? Pay attention to this aspect of your analysis!

2) What are the employment rights in society? Are people legally guaranteed [...]

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SHOW NOTES: In the MYTH WARRIORS™ series we are targeting ideas to begin to assess whether they are credible or not (i.e., they are a myth, fallacy or even a lie). The target for this episode is, “Attractive people make more money than unattractive people!”

Consider: 
- “Why do you think beautiful people earn more? Hamermesh: People may more attention to them, listen to them better.” (http://www.cbsnews.com/news/how-your-looks-affect-your-salary/)
- “People who were rated as good-looking made more money, were better educated, and were more confident. But a person’s intelligence affected their income more than their looks did. […T]he effects of self-concept are particularly noteworthy. Its effects on income are stronger than those of attractiveness and nearly as strong as those of intelligence (http://www.webmd.com/beauty/20090520/want-a-higher-salary-get-brains-beauty)
- “Attractive people earn about 5 percent more in hourly pay than their average-looking colleagues, who in turn earn 9 percent more per hour than the plainest-looking workers. […] Researchers Markus Mobius and Tanya Rosenblat found that confidence makes up 20 percent of perceived attractiveness.” (http://www.cnn.com/2007/US/Careers/02/28/cb.pretty/)
- ““Women feel that beauty is [...]

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SHOW NOTES: Our MANAGEMENT MAGICIANS™ series is dedicated to those exceptional few who step forward to serve as guides, sages and responsible parties for others in pursuit of the greater good for society and their organization! These are managers who redefine their job titles to ensure their own personal contentment as they motivate, monitor and mentor their team members each day. The “magic” that a talented manager is able to create changes their lives, the lives of their team members and ripples throughout the larger society. We salute their sacrifices and share their techniques and “secrets” to achieving sustained positive experiences for themselves, clients, customers, peers, team members, and the public at large!  Our topic is, “Critical thinking staff or obedient staff? Pick only one.”

Who cares? 
“No. 1 Critical Thinking (found in 9 out of the 10 most in-demand jobs)” (http://www.forbes.com/sites/meghancasserly/2012/12/10/the-10-skills-that-will-get-you-a-job-in-2013/)

What is it? 
"Critical thinking: The objective analysis and evaluation of an issue in order to form a judgment. "(http://www.oxforddictionaries.com/us/definition/american_english/critical-thinking
"Obedience: Compliance with an order, request, or law or submission to another’s authority."
(http://www.oxforddictionaries.com/us/definition/american_english/obedience)

What’s the problem? 
"A survey of HR professionals [...] found that a full 70 percent of employees with a high school education were deficient in critical thinking skills. Even among employees with a four-year college education, [...]

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series wherein we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). The act of engaging in professional endeavors, in any capacity (i.e., as an employee, employer, entrepreneur, contractor, volunteer, paid, full time, part time, intermittently, etc.) is an expression of our ideas and creative talents (“art”). In this episode we are exploring the specific topic of, “I am not here by accident. I am here by MY choice.” 

I often hear from people, “They don’t want me to be here.” This is usually in regards to workplace issues and the point is that the person is stressed out because “they” don’t want them to be in the meeting, in the job title, etc. 

The challenge is that we are where we are by choice. We are not “here” (at work, in our personal relationships, etc.) by accident. We make the decision every single day to be here. That is our decision (we are “the decider”). 

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SHOW NOTES: In our HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared with me. This episode is, “Do Smart Gals and Nice Guys Finish Last? I am Successful at Work! So, Why am I Single?”

Tremendous changes in society have impacted traditional gender roles and expectations.  Women used to be excluded from individual accomplishment (by law and/or custom). In the past, even the most ambitious woman had to achieve her goals through a male relative (parent or spouse most often). Thus, traditional female roles traded their “support” for a “provider” and vice versa. There were obstacles to leaving the relationship as there was a high level of dependency.

The challenge is that when a modern female (a smart gal) is their own “provider” where does that leave her? Where does it leave a potential mate? What about a modern male (a nice guy) who is not able to “provide” millions of dollars? They are in a fantastic place where they have the freedom to be loved for who they are versus what they can do for someone!

If you are successful at work, how awesome! If you are single and don’t want to be, how awful. These two issues (success at work and being single) are not related to each other. Many wealthy and [...]

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SHOW NOTES: In the MYTH WARRIORS™ series we are targeting ideas to begin to assess whether they are credible or not (i.e., they are a myth, fallacy or even a lie). The target for this episode is, “I am an INTJ (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator).” (Or, am I?)

What is it? 
“More than 10,000 companies, 2,500 colleges and universities and 200 government agencies in the United States use the test. It’s estimated that 50 million people have taken the Myers-Briggs personality test[.] MBTI is their framework for classifying personality types along four distinct axes: introversion vs. extroversion, sensing vs. intuition, thinking vs. feeling and judging vs. perceiving. […] For example, he might be introverted, a sensor, a thinker and a perceiver. Or, in Myers-Briggs shorthand, an “ISTP.”

How is it used and why should I care about it? 
“Today, organizations administer the personality test to employees, then use the results as a basis for training programs."

Is it credible? 
“No major journal has published research on the MBTI, which academics consider a strong repudiation of the test’s authority. […] It is a classic chicken-and-egg problem: No major journal has published on it, therefore no elite academic will support it, therefore no major journal will publish on it.” (all quotes from The Washington Post, “On Leadership - Does it pay to know your type?”, December 14, 2012 by Lillian Cunningham)

I am an INTJ (or am I):
“INTJ - Have original minds and great drive for implementing their ideas and achieving their goals. […] Skeptical and [...]

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SHOW NOTES: In our HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared with me. This episode is, “REJECTION. How do I handle it?”

The dream job that you desperately desired and did not get. The new romantic relationship that you knew was “the one” that dissipated into a cruel void of emptiness. The “forever” friendship that ended abruptly. REJECTION.

In all of its forms it is searingly painful and brings to the surface the most powerful emotional responses possible. Why did they get the job/work assignment/ promotion and  not you? Why are they dating them and not you? What is wrong with you? What could (or should) you have done differently? 

Rejection has the potential to trigger deeper issues within ourselves and bring historical abandonments and rejections (parents, past jobs, past personal relationships, etc.) roaring to life to wreak havoc in our minds and our behavior. We could enter into the downward and destructive spiral of telling ourselves, “You are never good enough.” We will not.

How do we “handle” rejection? We don’t. We acknowledge it. We refuse to “accept” it and we leave it where it is. We do not [...]

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SHOW NOTES: From our HR HEROES HANGOUT series, this episode is, "What does "employment at will" really mean?

Short Answer: An employee may quit, or be fired, at any time with or without notice or cause.

Longer Answer (from http://www.ncsl.org/research/labor-and-employment/at-will-employment-overview.aspx):

"I. The At-Will Presumption Employment relationships are presumed to be ?at-will? in all U.S. states except Montana. The U.S. is one of a handful of countries where employment is predominantly at-will. Most countries throughout the world allow employers to dismiss employees only for cause.

A. At-Will Defined At-will means that an employer can terminate an employee at any time for any reason, except an illegal one, or for no reason without incurring legal liability. Likewise, an employee is free to leave a job at any time for any or no reason with no adverse legal consequences. At-will also means that an employer can change the terms of the employment relationship with no notice and no consequences. For example, an employer can alter wages, terminate benefits, or reduce paid time off. In its unadulterated form, the U.S. at-will rule leaves employees vulnerable to arbitrary and sudden dismissal, a limited or on-call work schedule depending on the employer's needs, and unannounced cuts in pay and benefits.

B. Modification by Contract The at-will presumption is a default rule that can be modified by contract. Typically, U.S. companies negotiate individual employment agreements only with high-level employees. Collective bargaining agreements usually provide that represented employees may only be terminated for cause. Cause generally includes reasons such as poor employee performance, employee misconduct, or economic necessity."

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series wherein we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). Our episode topic is, “What they call you is one thing. What you answer to is something else.” - Lucille Clifton

This quote is pragmatic and powerful. I do not have the power to change the hearts and minds of other people. I do not have the power to to stop people from saying things that are hurtful, cruel and abusive. I have been called more insulting names than I can remember in my life. This quote is a reminder that what someone else calls us is not our issue, it is what we answer to that matters. 

Here is another quote from Lucille Clifton, “come celebrate with me that everyday something has tried to kill me and has failed.” - Lucille Clifton 

Again, the strident self image of the episode title quote resonates. We have more to rejoice in our lives than we acknowledge. You and I determine our destiny. We define who we are.

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SHOW NOTES: Our MANAGEMENT MAGICIANS™ series is dedicated to those exceptional few who step forward to serve as guides, sages and responsible parties for others in pursuit of the greater good for society and their organization! These are managers who redefine their job titles to ensure their own personal contentment as they motivate, monitor and mentor their team members each day. The “magic” that a talented manager is able to create changes their lives, the lives of their team members and ripples throughout the larger society. We salute their sacrifices and share their techniques and “secrets” to achieving sustained positive experiences for themselves, clients, customers, peers, team members, and the public at large! In this episode our topic is, “How to Successfully Manage People that You Do Not (Really) Like!”

Some people we love, some we like, some we tolerate and some we do everything in our power to never be around! That is life for all of us. In our professional lives, we understand that we are going to have interactions with clients, customers, vendors, contractors, supervisors, executives and team members that we don’t love (some of them we don’t even really like). Even for a self-employed professional and/or a corporate officer there will be [...]

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SHOW NOTES: In our HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared with me. This episode is, “He hasn’t called! What does it mean?”

Silence. Often a craved for retreat from the noise and chaos of the world. Yet, it can be a perceived enemy depriving us of an opportunity to realize our deepest professional and personal desires. When the phone doesn’t ring, what does it mean? 

The parallels between our personal and professional lives are helpful and insightful at times. When we are waiting for a call to let us know we have a job (or a second interview) or that we have a second date, it can be stressful and scary. Some people are tempted to turn their anxiety about “waiting for an answer” inwards against themselves. They will criticize and insult what they wore, what they said, how they looked, etc., and begin to place the blame on themselves for the awful silence. 

Some people escalate the anxiety into inappropriate (or even illegal) behavior and “follow-up” to “make sure” that their desires are known. They send letters, emails, leave phone messages, send text messages, post on social media, go to the office and even to the home of the object of their desire. They think, “I want this job/ date and they have to know how I feel.” This repeated behavior is inappropriate and may even lead to criminal issues regarding stalking. They know how you feel. Stop.

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SHOW NOTES: In our HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared with me. This episode is, “How do I know if someone is really my friend?”

Ah, friendship. The bond that forms where we are safe to share our secrets, fears and dreams. We take off our “masks” that we use with the world (to protect us) and we share our authentic selves. The bliss of spending time with a true friend is one of the best parts of life.

Yet, what about the painful experience of letting our guard down, sharing our authentic selves, trusting a person and then later having to face the fact that we were deceived, tricked and manipulated by the person we trusted? We are broken as a person when our trust is broken. How may we ensure that we have “real” friends in our lives while preventing being hurt and made a fool of by “pretend” friends?

Q: How do I know if someone is really my friend?

A: The behavior of a friend is based on the foundation that your happiness is their happiness. Any behavior to the contrary indicates that they are not (yet or still) a friend.


Insults, making fun of you, etc., these are all behaviors that show you the person is not (at this time) your friend. Is it possible that [...]

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SHOW NOTES: In the MYTH WARRIORS™ series we are targeting ideas to begin to assess whether they are credible or not (i.e., they are a myth, fallacy or even a lie). The target for this episode is, “Nobody can teach me who I am.” 


“Born in Nigeria in 1930, Chinua Achebe attended the University of Ibadan. In 1958, his groundbreaking novel Things Fall Apart was published. It went on to sell more than 12 million copies and been translated into more than 50 languages. Achebe later served as the David and Marianna Fisher University professor and professor of Africana Studies at Brown University in Providence, Rhode Island. He died on March 21, 2013, at age 82, in Boston, Massachusetts.” 
(http://www.biography.com/people/chinua-achebe-20617665#awesm=~oDpf0csGuWAzTf )

The larger quote for our episode is, “Nobody can teach me who I am. You can describe parts of me, but who I am - and what I need - is something I have to find out myself.”

Option 1 - People can teach you who you are.

Option 2 - Nobody can teach you who you are.

Option 1 is seductive as it would be “easier” for someone else to tell me and show me who I am and all I would have to do would be to simply follow their instructions. 

Option 2 is “harder” as it would require me to do all of the work determining who I am (with no instructions to follow). Yet, if someone else teaches me who I am, then aren’t I simply a reproduction (or copy) of them with no original individuality? It might be

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SHOW NOTES: In the MYTH WARRIORS™ series we are targeting ideas to begin to assess whether they are credible or not. We are warriors fighting to establish clarity between what is accurate and what is simply a myth (or falsehood) in life. Our topic is, “You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.” - Eleanor Roosevelt (longest serving First Lady of the US)


What do other people really think of me? They don't.

This may sound blunt (it is simply direct!) but the obsession with perceptions of what other people think about us is difficult for me to understand. Most of us spend our waking hours on our own lives (what we are doing, feeling, etc.). The belief that we are forefront in the minds of other people (beyond our closest loved ones) is narcissistic.

There are stages of human development that we all experience (to some extent) as adolescents where we are learning to define ourselves and are focused on our peer feedback. The continuation of this behavior into adulthood is not going to result in the best possible outcomes.

1) How do you know what other people think at all? 
You don’t. You only know what they tell you they claim to be thinking (which is not necessarily accurate). If you ask a friend, “How do I look in this dress?” What incentive do they have to tell you anything other than what you want to hear?

2) If other people tell you what they claim to think about you, so what? 
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SHOW NOTES: Our MANAGEMENT MAGICIANS™ series is dedicated to those exceptional few who step forward to serve as guides, sages and responsible parties for others in pursuit of the greater good for society and their organization! These are managers who redefine their job titles to ensure their own personal contentment as they motivate, monitor and mentor their team members each day. The “magic” that a talented manager is able to create changes their lives, the lives of their team members and ripples throughout the larger society. We salute their sacrifices and share their techniques and “secrets” to achieving sustained positive experiences for themselves, clients, customers, peers, team members, and the public at large! In this episode our topic is, “SUPERSTARS!! How to make them stay and not burn-out!”

 Definition of Burnout: “the condition of someone who has become very physically and emotionally tired after doing a difficult job for a long time" (Merriam-Webster Dictionary)

What is a “Superstar” employee? The best. “A-players” who increase output and productivity. 

“The direct benefits of a superstar can be substantial, but it’s also important to consider how the hire will effect other employees’ productivity. […] [R]esearchers found that the superstar’s impact on recruiting was far and away the more significant driver of improved organizational productivity.” (Harvard Business Review at http://blogs.hbr.org/2014/04/the-big-reason-to-hire-superstar-employees-isnt-the-work-they-do/). 

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series wherein we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). The act of engaging in professional endeavors, in any capacity (i.e., as an employee, employer, entrepreneur, contractor, volunteer, paid, full time, part time, intermittently, etc.) is an expression of our ideas and creative talents (“art”). In this episode we are exploring the specific topic of, “I am bored. Is this all there is to life?”

You are fortunate and know it. You have enough money to pay your bills and even afford a few nice “extra treats” at times (vacation, going out to dinner, etc.). Yet, you feel a nagging feeling as you wake up each day and do the same thing over and over again. 

You are not sad. You are not ungrateful for this good life when so many people are trapped in famine, civil war, natural disasters and other horrible circumstances. You know that it is a wonderful gift to have the health you have, the work you have, the people you have in your life. Yet…you feel a sense of numbness with the repetitive days and nights. You feel embarrassed even to mention it, but, you are bored. 

How can this [...]

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SHOW NOTES: In our HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared with me. This episode is, “I Do My Job AND Their Job! Am I a SUPERSTAR or a SUCKER?!”

Are you a SUPERSTAR (the best, an overachiever, etc.)? Or, are you someone that is being taken advantage of (a “SUCKER”)? 

What is the difference? 
A Superstar is measured by their results (higher/ better/ more/ compared to their peers) and is an overachiever. An overachiever is achieving over and above their peers (early promotion, bigger pay raise, awards, recognition, etc.). The key is the achieving aspect. They have results at work that are more than their peers (more pay, bigger office, better schedule, rewards, etc.).

If you are salesperson of the month every month (with the highest commissions in the office) and you love it, you might be a superstar! 

If you are paid equal to (or less than) your peers, your reviews are average and you are toiling away in obscurity (no promotion, no raise, etc.), you are not a superstar but instead are a “sucker” (your peers are taking advantage of you). 

It is simple to tell the difference between the Superstar and the Sucker because the Superstar is achieving more than their peers and the Sucker is not(they are receiving equal to or even less than their peers). 

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SHOW NOTES: In the MYTH WARRIORS™ series we are targeting ideas to begin to assess whether they are credible or not (i.e., they are a myth, fallacy or even a lie). The target for this episode is, “Only 6% of all individuals in the US earn $100,000 USD a year!? Really?” (Really.)

The six-figure income threshold. It is bandied about in popular culture and media. It represents a demarcation of “success” (or does it?). How many people actually earn six-figure individual income per year in the US? 

Why does this matter? 
Well, if the majority of people in the US earn $100,000 or more and you earn $30,000 you are far below average. With accurate data you may better understand how much you would need to increase your individual annual income to equal what the average individual earns. On the other hand, if you earn $100,000 or more and you feel like you “don’t have enough money” that may be accurate if the reality is that the majority of people earn $300,000 a year (you feel broke because you earn substantially less than the average individual). The data will then help us understand our financial choices. 

Are we average/middle class and therefore should be able to have average items? Or, are we far below average/ poor and thus are not able to afford average items? Or, are we far above average/ rich and thus are able to afford average items and a bit extra?

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our FINANCIAL FIERCENESS!™ series! Our FINANCIAL FIERCENESS!™ series integrates our financial goals into our overall strategic development plan for surpassing our goals. This episode is, “Rich” on $1,800 USD (or less) a month? Really!? How?” 

Imagine, you have at least $300 USD per week to spend on whatever you want. All of your bills are paid. You have your own home and all of your bills are paid (including health costs, medicine, etc.). You have an “extra” $300 USD to use per week on whatever you desire. Go out to eat, to the movies, visit a friend out of town. Buy yourself something nice to wear. You are in charge.

$1,800 - necessary expenses (property tax, water, electricity, gas, internet, etc.) of $600 per month = $1,200 per month/ $300 per week “extra” 

But, I could spend $1,800 on one dress! Or, one meal at a fancy restaurant! Or, one bottle of wine! This show is stupid and ridiculous!

You can spend how much you want on what you want. That is your choice. A dollar saved is a dollar earned. This show does not delve into saving, but saving is one of the best things to “buy” with your money! The stress-free lifestyle of having all of your bills paid is a choice.

Join in as we discuss the options and the choices to be “rich” or not?

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our EDUCATORS’ EDEN™ series wherein we explore the paradise that the most passionate, creative and committed educators create for themselves, their students, peers, administrations and institutions! This specific episode is, “What is “the right” college for my first online teaching job?”

Why are you planning to teach online? Is it because you have the thirst for teaching and online is the only method that will fit your schedule or other restrictions? If so, I would suggest that your first online teaching organization should be one that is free (that provides the opportunity to express your joy for teaching without specific restrictions or requirements that might be onerous). For example, University of the People is a tuition free option for students that provides volunteer faculty opportunities (http://uopeople.edu/groups/faqs). 

If you desire to teach online and have an honest desire to earn income and/ or to pursue full time teaching opportunities in the future, please be cognizant of the wide range of faculty pay and expectations per course at different types of institutions.

Do not be afraid to turn down an opportunity that does not meet your individual needs! “No,” is a beautiful word and you should use it to ensure that you are joyful in regards to your online teaching. You should confirm the requirements regarding synchronous or asynchronous formats. Also, confirm the course enrollments, the organizational culture (more autonomy or more corporate conformity), the expectations for faculty at the institution, etc.. 

Let’s explore how you should determine what “the right” institution of higher learning is appropriate for you as you start your online teaching journey! 

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SHOW NOTES: We all know that no one is perfect. We all have walked an individual path to arrive where we are today in life. If you want to know how to get where you want to go, keep walking. Asking another person how they accomplished their goals is not going to give you “the answer” to how to accomplish your goals. It may help motivate you to keep working towards your goals, but you are living a unique life and your path to success is unique for you. 

We all are on our unique life paths. You are the expert on your life. 
People have shared with me that they found it illuminating and/ or motivating for me to divulge my explicit failures and how I responded. Thus, this series, FAILURE FLASHBACK!™ exists. In it, I share some of the tools and processes that I have used to face my failures, learn from them, not repeat them and keep walking forward (hopefully) towards future accomplishments. Sometimes people will say to me, “Easy for you to say…you don’t know how hard it is!” I do. I will share with you my past experiences in the hope that it prevents you from experiencing the same. 
This episode addresses my failure resulting in, “I am failing a class.”
How did it happen?
How did I respond?
What solutions did I deploy?
How do I remain vigilant today?
Is it because I am too stupid? Is it because I am a victim of a “mean” or “bad” teacher who “does not like me?” Is it because I am a genius and people are jealous so they are trying to “bring me down” with “bad grades?” Or, is it because I was unprepared, disorganized, fell behind on my work, refused to ask for help earlier in the course and because of my choices? Let’s flashback and find out!

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SHOW NOTES: In the MYTH WARRIORS™ series we are targeting ideas to begin to assess whether they are credible or not (i.e., they are a myth, fallacy or even a lie). The target for this episode is, “What does not kill me, makes me stronger.” - Friedrich Nietzsche (1888)

If you want  some background on the author of the quote, The Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy which is by The Metaphysics Research Lab, Center for the Study of Language and Information (CLSA) at Stanford University, has a primer at http://plato.stanford.edu/entries/nietzsche/ .
Many people recognize our topic as it has been addressed in modern popular culture (by music releases by Kelly Clarkson and Kanye West among others). The issue is what do you think? 

Do you think that we should make choices even if they increase our potential for pain and distress because the pain only “makes us stronger?” Or, should we examine our lives and our behavior to assess what steps we can take today to place us in a safer and more comfortable position tomorrow? 

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SHOW NOTES: In our HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared with me. This episode is, “How do I let go of my anger?”

What is anger? What constitutes “a problem” with it? Is it possible to let it go (and let it fly or float away forever)? Or, do we have anger with us for the rest of our lives no matter what we do? 

Anger is derived from pain. When we experience searing pain our lives, how are we supposed to respond? Do we simply become numb (yet no longer angry) or do we remain emotional, reactionary and animated by our anger?

We discuss the “pain Olympics" wherein we always lose out on trying to make people acknowledge that our individual anger and underlying pain is “worse” (or better depending on how you look at it) than that of others. The person who loses a pet, who loses a loved family member, who experiences a tragedy, who is a victim of a war or genocide; they all have an argument that their pain is “worth more” than what other people have experienced. Yet, this is one of the most negative actions to undertake in terms of poor outcomes.

No one cares about me. How can the world continue on while I suffer like this? These may be accurate sentiments. The world will [...]

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SHOW NOTES: Our LAW LOVER'S LOUNGE™ series addresses a general overview of some of the most important issues to the general public! I am an attorney and have owned a general practice law firm since 1998 in Texas, USA. We call this series its title because we do love law! Seriously.

This is a lounge because these are general discussions on general legal topic for public information purposes. There is no client relationship created between this show and Attorney Courtney E. Anderson, or The Law Offices of Courtney E. Anderson (Litigation-Mitigation.com). These disclaimers are very important. The content in these shows is for general educational purposes and is not the delivery of legal services.

This episode is, “A marriage license is just a piece of paper! Or, is it?”

Ah, love! Heart racing, blood pumping, skin tingling, love! The heart wants what the heart wants. Marriage can be the unification of two souls, two minds, two hearts into one lifelong partnership, friendship, and romantic union. It also can be a stressful experience fraught with financial, emotional, and even physical pain.

The power of a legal marriage (i.e., that the government recognizes) is immense. Your debt,[...]

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our EDUCATORS’ EDEN™ series wherein we explore the paradise that the most passionate, creative and committed educators create for themselves, their students, peers, administrations and institutions!

I have taught around 350 three (3) - credit hour course equivalents over the past 17 years.  Whew! I have taught associate degree, bachelors degree, and graduate degree level courses. I have taught at public highly selective institutions, at private institutions, at for profit institutions, at open access degree programs, in lecture halls with hundreds of students in a single class and online with smaller classes. I have also mentored new faculty and coached existing faculty in their classes. I am not even including all of the adult education I have provided as a corporate trainer to organizations around the world! I am excited to discuss this specific episode topic of, "Teaching college courses online is easy!…NOT!”  

The stereotype of an online college professor who has no commute to work and is able to lounge around their home while “teaching” intermittently is wildly inaccurate. The reality is that the technology requires that online educators commit to an entire additional area of subject matter expertise (software, understanding of hardware, customization of content and delivery via rapidly changing software systems). The traditional concept of teaching during “class” is upended with a “class” that is open 24 hours a day, seven days a week. This is combined with the desire for instant gratification that many of us have due to the technology providing us instant access to what we want places very strenuous demands on the online college educator. 

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SHOW NOTES: In our HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared with me. This episode is, “How do I pick 'the right' college for my first degree?”

If you are new to your first college degree, in general (from a US perspective), degrees are awarded based on completed credit hours. One credit hour is based on one class hour per week throughout the duration of a semester. So, a class that meets for three hours per week for an entire term will be worth three credit hours upon successful completion. An associate degree is roughly 60 credit hours. A bachelors degree is 120 credit hours. Thus, to earn a bachelors degree would take 40 different three credit classes (which is why it takes several years to graduate). So, what is “the right college” for your first college degree (associate or bachelor)?

As of the time of recording this show, I have earned four college degrees. 
1) My bachelor's degree, B.A. (my transcript shows 124 credit hours earned), and;
2) my Doctor of Jurisprudence degree, J.D. (my transcript shows 86 credit hours), and;
3) my Master of Business Administration, M.B.A (my transcript shows 36 credit hours), and;
4) my Master of Science degree, M.S. (my transcript shows 39 credit hours) .

Thus, I have earned 285 credit hours. I am also currently pursuing another graduate degree! I can confidently state that I have the requisite experience as a college student to help you in regards to making effective decisions (which will ensure you graduate)! 

As an educator (college professor) I have taught around 350 three (3) - credit hour course equivalents over the past 17 years.  Whew! I have taught associate degree, bachelors degree, and graduate degree level courses. I have taught at public highly selective institutions, at private institutions, at for profit institutions, at open access degree programs, in lecture halls with hundreds of students in a single class and online with smaller classes. I have also mentored new faculty and coached existing faculty in their classes. I am not even including all of the adult education I have provided as a corporate trainer to organizations around the world!

My additional educator expertise in higher education is deployed in this program as we discuss what is 'the right' college for your first degree!

Why are you going to college? 
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SHOW NOTES: In the MYTH WARRIORS™ series we are targeting ideas to begin to assess whether they are credible or not. We are warriors fighting to establish clarity between what is accurate and what is simply a myth (or falsehood) in life. In this episode our topic is, “Professional success is based on who you know, NOT what you know!”

How do we surpass our goals? Is it based on long years of study, sacrifice, skill development and striving? Or, is that a myth that cheats people out of ever achieving their ultimate dreams? Does real success in life come from making those “connections” which will open up doors and put you on the easy and quick path to prosperity and power? This concept is very powerful and is pervasive. 

Do you need to simply “get to know” the right people and magically be transported to the life of ease, living amongst the elite? Can you “network” with others who will show/ teach/ share secrets with you to find the key to unlock the door to “the good life?” There are a multitude of sources who will assure you that they have the “secret” that will change your job/ income/ economic situation and if you “invest in yourself” they will make sure you are successful beyond your wildest dreams. Perhaps.

I don’t have any [...]

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SHOW NOTES: In our HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared with me. This episode is, “I Am Addicted to Self-Pity!”

Addiction is an awful state to be in (no matter whether it is caused by choices, brain chemistry, traumatic events, or any other catalyst). The perception of being unable to control yourself is frightening and destructive. Whether it is food, finance, romance, substances, or any other issue it is a scary place to be to struggle for control of yourself. 

Some will advise you to cede control to others (people and/ or entities that "you are powerless over"),  others advise you to take control (“get yourself together!”). 

In this show we explore questions and share perspectives and potential solutions and I encourage you to do so for yourself. 

What is the best way for someone to handle an addiction to their own thoughts of self-pity?

To the [...]

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SHOW NOTES: Our LAW LOVER'S LOUNGE™ series addresses a general overview of some of the most important issues to the general public! I am an attorney and I have owned a general practice law firm since 1998 in Texas, USA. 

A general practice attorney is similar to a general practice physician in that they address issues that do not require a specialist. They provide a primary level of legal services for commonly occurring legal issues and make referrals to specialists for more complex issues (appeals of cases, rare facts, unusual issues, etc.). We call this series its title because we do love law! Seriously.

This is a lounge because these are general discussions on general legal topic for public information purposes. There is no client relationship created between this show and Attorney Courtney E. Anderson, or The Law Offices of Courtney E. Anderson (Litigation-Mitigation.com). These disclaimers are very important. The content in these shows is for general educational purposes and is not the delivery of legal services.

This episode is, “I think I am being harassed at work. Am I? How do I know?”

Where there is smoke there is (often) fire! In other words, if you think you are being harassed at work, you often are being harassed at work. Why do you think you are being harassed? Be [...]

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series wherein we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). The act of engaging in professional endeavors, in any capacity (i.e., as an employee, employer, entrepreneur, contractor, volunteer, paid, full time, part time, intermittently, etc.) is an expression of our ideas and creative talents (“art”). In this episode we are exploring the specific topic of, “I Am NOT a “People Person”…What jobs Are Best For Me?”

What do you mean by “people person?” 

Are you confusing it with “anti-people?” Some people are rude, disrespectful and treat coworkers and customers poorly because they are miserable and choose to spread that misery to other people. This is not someone well-suited to any job (except for those where they work alone all of the time and have no communication with anyone else). 

In this program we address people who get their energy from being alone (introverts) and how they need to structure their entire lives to ensure that they are able to get fully recharged with the alone time they need (whether it is at work or at home). 
 
We also address the extrovert (who gets their energy from being around other people) and needs to structure their entire lives to ensure that they are able to get fully recharged with the time around other people that they need. 

Introverts are “people people” and are able to excel in [...]

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SHOW NOTES: In the MYTH WARRIORS™ series we are targeting ideas to begin to assess whether they are credible or not. We are warriors fighting to establish clarity between what is accurate and what is simply a myth (or falsehood) in life. Our topic is, “I am scared. My fear is holding me back in life.” - Part 2 of 2

Fear - “An unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat:” (Oxford Dictionary

We are all scared and frightened at times. We all face the option to succumb to fear or to run away from it. We will use two quotes from US leaders in Part 2 of this program (one a former First Lady and one a former President of the United States).

“We all know people who are so much afraid of pain that they shut themselves up like clams in a shell and, giving out nothing, receive nothing and therefore shrink until life is a mere living death.” - Eleanor Roosevelt (longest serving First Lady of the US)

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to [...]

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SHOW NOTES: In the MYTH WARRIORS™ series we are targeting ideas to begin to assess whether they are credible or not. We are warriors fighting to establish clarity between what is accurate and what is simply a myth (or falsehood) in life. Our topic is, “I am scared. My fear is holding me back in life.” - Part 1 of 2

Fear - “An unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat:” (Oxford Dictionary)

Assuming that we have some amount of free will in our lives, who is immune to the emotion of fear? We are all scared and frightened at times. We all face the option to succumb to fear, to fight it or to run away from it. 

If we are scared of public speaking, we have the option to succumb to that fear by avoiding all public speaking. Some people do the same with riding on planes or being on a boat. There are fears of external events or circumstances (water, heights, etc.) and of different types of animals (dogs, spiders, birds, snakes, etc.).

There are internal fears (we are not “good enough,” we are “a failure,” we do not “deserve” to succeed, etc.). Do we face them? Do we [...]

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SHOW NOTES: Our HR HEROES HANGOUT™ series is dedicated to the unsung heroes that ensure that organizations achieve and sustain maximum human capital competitive advantage! In this episode our topic is, "Harassment free workplace?! The easy way to create one?!"

HR is a glamorous and exciting field (it really is) where every single aspect of an organization is addressed. It deals with money (compensation, promotions, benefits, etc.), power (promotions, etc.) and respect (the concept of being valued). Our HR HEROES understand that they are not a peripheral ?administrative? entity but are instead the very heart of the organization!

Is a workplace free from illegal harassment (in the USA based on gender, age over 40, race, color, religion, national origin, disability, veterans status, etc.) even possible? Is it a realistic goal for HR professionals, executives, managers and staff? Is harassment an issue in workplaces only in the USA? Or, is it a global issue (in Europe, Asia, North America, South America, etc.)? I address this international report in the show and encourage you to access it (http://www.jil.go.jp/english/reports/documents/jilpt-reports/no.12.pdf). We all deserve to be treated with respect in our workplaces no matter where we are on the planet!

It is a reasonable (and I would argue) expected goal for our HR Heroes to ensure that everyone (from the most senior executive through the newest staff member, clients, customers, vendors, and members of the public) are free from harassment at their workplace.

How is the goal of a harassment free workplace easily obtained? What steps are taken? What is required by the organizational leadership?

Let's explore what this issue actually is and how our HR Heroes will take action to provide all of their constituencies are treated with respect (and without harassment)!

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SHOW NOTES: Our LAW LOVER'S LOUNGE™ series addresses a general overview of some of the most important issues to the general public! I am an attorney and I have owned a general practice law firm since 1998 in Texas, USA. 

A general practice attorney is similar to a general practice physician in that they address issues that do not require a specialist. They provide a primary level of legal services for commonly occurring legal issues and make referrals to specialists for more complex issues (appeals of cases, rare facts, unusual issues, etc.). We call this series its title because we do love law! Seriously.

This is a lounge because these are general discussions on general legal topic for public information purposes. There is no client relationship created between this show and Attorney Courtney E. Anderson, or The Law Offices of Courtney E. Anderson (Litigation-Mitigation.com). These disclaimers are very important. The content in these shows is for general educational purposes and is not the delivery of legal services.

This episode is, “I don’t have any stuff. I don’t need a will, right?!”

I hate to break it to you, but in the US (and many other parts of the world), you already have a will (an automatic one that the government provides for everyone). If you do not create your own original will, the one that the government has already created for you [...]

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series wherein we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). The act of engaging in professional endeavors, in any capacity (i.e., as an employee, employer, entrepreneur, contractor, volunteer, paid, full time, part time, intermittently, etc.) is an expression of our ideas and creative talents (“art”). In this episode we are exploring the specific topic of, “I am getting by, but how do I get ahead?”

Same stuff, different day. Another day, another dollar. Time to make the donutsHow do we surpass our goals when our dreams seem further from reality each day? Life becomes a Merry-go-round of repeating the same thing day in and day out. How it is possible to get ahead? 

In this show we do the following:
1) We will explore what it means to “get by” versus what it means to “get ahead.” 
2) We will address whether it is required that we “think ahead” to “get ahead” and if so, what that means. 

How does a parent, a person without a college degree, a [...]

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SHOW NOTES: In the MYTH WARRIORS™ series we are targeting ideas to begin to assess whether they are credible or not. We are warriors fighting to establish clarity between what is accurate and what is simply a myth (or falsehood) in life. In this episode we delve into, “I am too _____ to find the awesome job of my dreams!” (Okay). 

Too fat? Too fat? Too tall? Too short? Too talkative? Too quiet? Too young? Too old? Too weird? Too boring? Is it your nose? Your hair? Your ears? Your eyes? Your skin? Your color? Your voice? What do you claim is preventing you from finding the awesome job of your dreams? 

This is not a gender issue, an age issue or a cultural issue; it is either a fact that you are flawed and must be “fixed” or it is a myth. Or, are you equally as valuable as everyone else with your experience, skills and education? 

Do some people refuse to hire you due to [...]

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SHOW NOTES: In our HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared with me. This episode is, "My Work Makes Me Happy! I Love My Job Too Much!…Am I Crazy?”

No.

First, congratulations! So many resources are provided to people who do not know how to find work they enjoy, people who have work that they are “good” at doing but that they are miserable in, people who are not able to find any work at all, people who have never been happy, etc., and you are that rare special gem who actually found work, you are happy in it…. and you are now questioning your sanity?!

It makes sense that you are confused. In the majority of work environments (and even social environments) being an unabashed and enthusiastic supporter of your happiness at work is rare. In addition to that rarity (or perhaps in relationship to it) it is often scorned and rejected. 

If the majority is grousing about how miserable they are, how much they despise their work, their boss, their pay, etc., and you are beaming while sharing that you ecstatic about your work; there will often be very negative social group consequences. There are those who hide their happiness in order to blend in to their environments and escape the negative ramifications if their secret joy was to become known to others. This episode implores you not to do so. 

It is damaging to hide your happiness. It is not healthy to pretend to be miserable when you really feel marvelous. 

The solution is to [...]

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series wherein we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). Our episode topic is, “I Never Intended to Become a Run-Of-The-Mill Person.” - Barbara Jordan

This quote encapsulates the concept of having some impact on outcomes in the world due to our actions. It addresses the challenge  that many of us have even naming our secret goals. For anyone of any background born in any time period to assert to themselves that they will “never” be “run-of-the-mill” (or average) is rare. For them to publicly state that to the world is bold. If they were a person born a gender, color and ethnic background that was not viewed as equal to other groups of people, it would sound foolish to make such proclamations. 

The eloquent speaker of the quote, Barbara Jordan, was born in 1936 in Houston, Texas in the USA. As a black female she did not have the legal right to go to school, eat at restaurants, shop, use the restroom, live or [...]

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SHOW NOTES: In the MYTH WARRIORS™ series we are targeting ideas to begin to assess whether they are credible or not. We are warriors fighting to establish clarity between what is accurate and what is simply a myth (or falsehood) in life. In this episode our topic is, “Happiness is a choice!”


What is happiness? What is choice? Do humans have any choice (or free will) or is everything that happens in our lives predestined? 

If an individual ascribes their entire life to predestination (or fate for non-theistic perspectives) the framework of determinism precludes the “choice” any emotion (including happiness). If an individual is not able to chose anything in their lives (as it was all determined for them), there is no “choice” for feeling anything (including happiness). This show topic will be a myth from the perspective of those who adhere to predestination.

For those who are not fully committed to some forms of determinism, the possibility of free will (in some capacity) provides the option of choice of emotion. If emotions are able to be elected by individuals, what is the benefit to choosing misery (assuming it to be the opposite of happiness)? 

Our culture and shared human history abounds with [...]

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SHOW NOTES: Our LAW LOVER'S LOUNGE™ series addresses a general overview of some of the most important issues to the general public! I am an attorney and have owned a general practice law firm since 1998 in Texas, USA. 

A general practice attorney is similar to a general practice physician in that they address issues that do not require a specialist. They provide a primary level of legal services for commonly occurring legal issues and make referrals to specialists for more complex issues (appeals of cases, rare facts, unusual issues, etc.). We call this series its title because we do love law! Seriously.

This is a lounge because these are general discussions on general legal topic for public information purposes. There is no client relationship created between this show and Attorney Courtney E. Anderson, or The Law Offices of Courtney E. Anderson (Litigation-Mitigation.com). These disclaimers are important. The content in these shows is for general educational purposes and is not the delivery of legal services. This episode is, “How do I stop my ex from seeing our kids?!”

The Short 'Answer' (which you won't like):
If your “ex” has a legal right to the kids, you cannot stop [...]

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SHOW NOTES: No one is perfect. We all have walked an individual path to arrive where we are today in life. If you want to know how to get where you want to go, keep walking. Asking another person how they accomplished their goals is not going to give you “the answer” to how to accomplish your goals. It may help motivate you to keep working towards your goals, but you are living a unique life and your path to success is unique for you. You are the expert on your life.

People have shared with me that they found it illuminating and/ or motivating for me to divulge my explicit failures and how I responded. Thus, this new series, FAILURE FLASHBACK!™ is born. I share some of the tools and processes that I have used to face my failures, learn from them, not repeat them and keep walking forward (hopefully) towards future accomplishments. People will say to me, “Easy for you to say…you don’t know how hard it is!” I do. I share my past in the hope that it prevents you from experiencing the same. This episode addresses my failure resulting in, “I am broke.” (Part 2 of 2) 

How did it happen?

How did I respond?

What solutions did I deploy?

How do I remain vigilant today?

In Part 1 of this episode I shared the shame and fear that consumed me when I was [...]

 

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SHOW NOTES: There is an endless array of experts, entertainers, athletes and politicians publicly sharing their personal journeys. They invariably describe their past of pain and despair through a valley of heartbreak until they ended up in their current rich and/or famous position in life. At times it can be helpful to learn about experiences that other people have faced that are similar to our struggles in life. It can make us feel less alone and help encourage and motivate us to persevere (“if they did it, I can do it!”). Yet, these public confessions can sometimes be self-serving simply to manipulate the potential customer, fan or voter to give the person their money, support and/ or vote.

No one is perfect. We all have walked an individual path to arrive where we are today in life. If you want to know how to get where you want to go, keep walking. Asking another person how they accomplished their goals is not going to give you “the answer” to how to accomplish your goals. It may help motivate you to keep working towards your goals, but you are living a unique life and your path to success is unique for you. You are the expert on your life.

People have shared with me that they found it illuminating and/ or motivating for me to divulge my explicit failures and how I responded. Thus, this new series, FAILURE FLASHBACK!™ is born. I share some of the tools and processes that I have used to face my failures, learn from them, not repeat them and keep walking forward (hopefully) towards future accomplishments. People will say to me, “Easy for you to say…you don’t know how hard it is!” I do. I share my past in the hope that it prevents you from experiencing the same. This debut episode of this new series addresses my failure resulting in, “I am broke.” (Part 1 of 2)

1) How did it happen?

2) How did I respond?

3) What solutions did I deploy?

4) How do I remain vigilant today?

In Part 1 of this episode I shared the shame and fear [...]

 

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SHOW NOTES: You did it! You climbed that mountain (literally and/ or figuratively) and you are now resting at the summit. Breathe in that sweet air of accomplishment! Very nice. Okay, you take it all in (the view from here, the beauty, the joy of surpassing your goals, etc.). Feels awesome. Wait, are you starting to feel a bit bored? What are you going to do next? You could do nothing. You have already proven yourself and achieved many things in life. Why aren’t you simply resting on your laurels? What is the itch, the craving for the next part? It is SATISFACTION SATURATION™ and you are experiencing it.  

You have “been there, done that and have the t-shirt.” You do not want anymore of this mountain. It has reached a point of saturation (as per the Merriam-Webster dictionary definition, “the act or result of supplying so much of something that no more is wanted”). 

You are craving a new mountain to climb! This new series, “SATISFACTION SATURATION™”, is for you. We will address the challenges in reaching the SATISFACTION SATURATION state in regards to specific experiences, how to recognize it, how to treat it, how to prevent it, and how to handle the feedback from other people (“Must be nice to have that job, that house, that car, that award,” etc.). 

This specific debut episode of the new series is, “Should I go back to school? Do I need 4 college degrees?”

Is this show we address:
1) Are you operating from a position of contentment or fear?
2) Are you executing pleasurable-only events and time to celebrate your past accomplishments?
3) How patient are with yourself? 
4) How much [...]

 

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series wherein we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). Our episode topic is, “The joy of working with less than competent people (aka idiots are awesome!)”

This show is important as we examine the positive side of working with incompetent individuals (peers, supervisors, etc.). The terms “stupid,” “idiot,” “dummy” and other synonyms (i.e., fool, etc.) are not appropriate in professional settings as they may be hurtful to other people. The concept of an incompetent, uninvolved, apathetic, disengaged, ill prepared, etc., team member is not inappropriate as the presence of this type of individual has a significant impact on the organizational outcomes. Thus, an incompetent individual is an issue that must be addressed in professional settings yet how we discuss it is very important.

To provide tools for improvement to a team member with helpful feedback to show them what to improve (and how to do so) is a fundamental requirement of business management and organizational leadership. The frustration that people have shared with me around the world about working with incompetent people is understandable.

Yet, this show strives to look at the brighter side and positive possibilities of working with incompetent people. Lower stress work environments, increased autonomy, and [...]

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SHOW NOTES: Our LAW LOVER'S LOUNGE™ series addresses a general overview of some of the most important issues to the general public! I am attorney and I have owned a general practice law firm since 1998 in Texas, USA. 

A general practice attorney is similar to a general practice physician in that they address issues that do not require a specialist. They provide a primary level of legal services for commonly occurring legal issues and make referrals to specialists for more complex issues (appeals of cases, rare facts, unusual issues, etc.). We call this series its title because we do love law! Seriously.

This is a lounge because these are general discussions on general legal topic for public information purposes. There is no client relationship created between this show and Attorney Courtney E. Anderson, or The Law Offices of Courtney E. Anderson (Litigation-Mitigation.com). These disclaimers are very important. The content in these shows is for general educational purposes and is not the delivery of legal services.

This episode, Part 2 of a 2 part episode, addresses the topic of, "I have been sued....by my credit card company, what do I do?!”

First, in Part 1, have you actually been sued? 
Or, have you been threatened to be sued in the future? A letter (even one from a law firm representing a credit card lender) is not a lawsuit. We address some of the basics of what a lawsuit is (filing court documents with court clerk) versus what it is not (phone calls, letters, threats to file a lawsuit in the future if the credit card balance is not paid).

Secondly, in Part 2, we discuss what the general steps are [...]

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SHOW NOTES: Our LAW LOVER'S LOUNGE™ series addresses a general overview of some of the most important issues to the general public! I am attorney and I have owned a general practice law firm since 1998 in Texas, USA. 

A general practice attorney is similar to a general practice physician in that they address issues that do not require a specialist. They provide a primary level of legal services for commonly occurring legal issues and make referrals to specialists for more complex issues (appeals of cases, rare facts, unusual issues, etc.). We call this series its title because we do love law! Seriously.

This is a lounge because these are general discussions on general legal topic for public information purposes. There is no client relationship created between this show and Attorney Courtney E. Anderson, or The Law Offices of Courtney E. Anderson (Litigation-Mitigation.com). These disclaimers are very important. The content in these shows is for general educational purposes and is not the delivery of legal services.

This episode, Part 2 of a 2 part episode, addresses the topic of, "I have been sued....by my credit card company, what do I do?!”

First, in Part 1, have you actually been sued? 
Or, have you been threatened to be sued in the future? A letter (even one from a law firm representing a credit card lender) is not a lawsuit. We address some of the basics of what a lawsuit is (filing court documents with court clerk) versus what it is not (phone calls, letters, threats to file a lawsuit in the future if the credit card balance is not paid).

Secondly, in Part 2, we discuss what the general steps are [...]

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SHOW NOTES: In our HELP! SITUATION SPOTLIGHT™ series, we shine the light on challenges that community members have shared with me. This episode is, “My Boss hates me. What Do I Do? How Can I Save My Job?”

Feeling like anyone hates you can be stressful! We immediately think, “I am awesome! How does anyone hate me?” Yet, with the diversity of the human population there are going to be some people in life who just do not find us appealing. But, what do we do when the person who is not fond of us (okay, they hate us) is our boss? Will they be able to provide fair evaluations of your work? Will we be treated fairly and judged only on our work performance or will we be unable to succeed due to the boss making decisions solely on their personal hatred for us?

It is illegal in many nations (including the US) for an employer to [...]

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SHOW NOTES: This episode is part of our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series wherein we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). The act of engaging in professional endeavors, in any capacity (i.e., as an employee, employer, entrepreneur, contractor, volunteer, paid, full time, part time, intermittently, etc.) is an expression of our ideas and creative talents (“art”). In this episode we are exploring the specific topic of, “I have to love myself before I can love anyone else! (BUT, how do I love myself if no one else does or ever has?)”

It is a cliche that we have to love ourselves before we can love other people. Yet, are people loved at work? Yes. Look how people mourned when Steve Jobs died or President Kennedy (in 1963). Those were business people (in technology and in politics), yet they had people who felt affection and even love for them (through their work). 

How does a person who has never been loved (or who currently has no one who loves them) even know what “love” is? How can a person give something to themselves that they do not have any examples of or experiences with in their personal lives?